Listicle 5 Types Of People Not To Fall In Love With 11:05 PM As if on a conveyor belt, there will be a never ending supply of idiots and jerks that come and go in your life. Whether you stop the belt to dance with any one of them is up to you. -Dan Pearce How many times have we given our all and not get anything in return? How many times have we fallen in love with the wrong person? We know they're not good for us, but we can't avoid them. Or we choose not to listen to that inner voice and the concerned voices around us. Then we get hurt or wonder what we did wrong when we knew the answer all along: We fell in love with the wrong person. It's as simple as that. So the next time cupid comes along and aims his arrow at you, duck. Or at least delay it until you're sure. Until you're sure that he's not aiming for the 5 types of people not to fall in love with. 5 Types Of People Not To Fall In Love With Impatient person They will not wait for you. They will not tolerate the pressure that distance or time or a little difficulty along the way would bring. They won't wait for things to be okay. Don't fall in love with an impatient person. They won't stay. All-words-no-action type A dreamer who stays stuck in his dreams and illusions and never want to face reality. A person who lives in his world and forgets where he really is. Don't fall in love with a dreamer who doesn't act. You'll never be able to bring him out of his own world. Someone who doesn't listen Listening is the most basic sign and highest form of respect. If your opinion doesn't matter to him, so does all of you. You are relevant. What you think is important. If he can't see that, being with him is pointless. Too dependent on you It does not have to be financial. If he takes too much of your time, drains you, depends on you to make him feel better or guide him in every step he takes, don't let yourself fall. You'll end up empty. He'll suck you dry. Unbeliever He'll always doubt, he'll always have something to complain about. Don't fall in love with the unbeliever. He'll never see the light no matter how much you try to point it to him. And it's not true that he doesn't have a god. He is his own god. Don't just fall. I know the feeling is exhilarating, but is it really worth the pain and the mess you'll have to deal with afterwards? Gifs from Google images Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Single Life I Am No Damsel In Distress 6:30 AM The only thing we single ladies need to be rescued from is the notion that we need to be rescued. -Mandy Hale Let me share the article I've written for Thought Catalog a year ago. I am no damsel in distress. After a guy friend read my previous post Good Men Still Exist, he pointed out one line which he said is the problem with women: "There are still knights in shining armor out there." Most women wait for their prince charming to come and rescue them from their miserable single life and offer them happily ever after. I repeat, most women. Not all. Only those (women or men) who are not happy with their lives need rescuing. The truth is, the only person who can bring you out of your misery is yourself. No fairy godmother or magic spell can transform your pumpkin into a golden carriage. I know that I hold the power and that I have the last say as to how my ending will be. As Mandy Hale often reminds the single, “Design a life so amazing that you don’t want to be rescued from it.” Tweet When you are enjoying life, finding happiness in all that you do and in all the places you visit, you invite people to join you in your journey. You don’t make them take pity on you and help you out of your misery. When you’re on top of the world, only those who are bold and courageous enough will make the effort to be with you. Only the secure and the mature will appreciate you. You become a challenge. You will discourage the complacent and the weak. You will make the insecure envious. Thus, expect a number of admirers and a few haters. You unknowingly repel toxic people. That’s a bonus! I don’t want to be that poor naive princess who sits around (or sleeps) in her castle all day, waiting for a prince to swing by and hopefully get a glimpse of her, and finally set her free from her “prison tower”. I’d rather be out there, fighting for my kingdom, resisting evil stepmothers or witches or whomever is trying to steal my happiness, protecting my people, seeing the world in all it’s majesty---getting a life. I am no damsel in distress. I am not impressed by your shining armor. I can fight my own battles. You don’t have to rescue me, sweetheart, but you’re welcome to join me in my kingdom anytime. First, show me your battle scars and tell me your war story. You might be just another frog who needs rescuing. In which case, you picked the wrong princess. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Listicle 20 Things Women Do More And Better Than Men 7:22 PM 20 Things Women Do More And Better Than Men Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition.-Timothy Leary Whether women are better than men or vice versa has always been an argument. But today, let’s celebrate the gentle force that makes the world more beautiful, colorful, and fun...Women! Here are 20 things women can do more and better than men.This post contains affiliate links, so we’d get a commission if you purchase through the links at no additional cost to you. 1. Women have more taste buds than men.Women tend to have more sensitive palates than men, which is why more women are in the sensory panels (Sensory Value).Our sense of smell and taste are closely linked, and the olfactory bulb in women has 43% more cells than in men. Giphy 2. Women can multitask better than men.A study was conducted to see who’s really better at multitasking - men or women. When the tasks were mixed up, both men and women made mistakes and slowed down.But men were significantly slower - taking 77% longer to respond, whereas women took 69% longer.We don’t need experiments to prove this, though. How many men do you know who can multitask better than women? Virality 3. Women live longer than men.Women outlive their male counterparts by about 5.5 years. According to Eurostat, life expectancy at birth for women was 84 years and 78.5 for men. Women’s sex hormone estrogen can combat heart disease, which according to the CDC, killed 357,761 men in the US in 2019.Women are also believed to have a stronger immune system. Giphy 4. Women talk more than men.Generally, women talk more than men. (Although in some cases relationships, it’s the opposite).Women speak about 20,000 words daily, while men speak only 7,000. Giphy 5. Women cry more than men.On average, women cry 30-64 times a year, while men cry 6-17 times yearly.Could it be because the patriarchal society has made us believe that crying is a sign of weakness for men?Or are men more discreet in showing their emotions? Giphy 6. Women’s hearts beat more than men’s.A woman’s heart can beat as many as six beats per minute faster than a man’s.According to the Cardiology Associates of Michigan, a woman’s heart and some of its chambers are smaller, the walls that divide some are thinner, and the veins are finer.Though a woman’s heart pumps faster than a man’s, a man’s heart ejects more blood with each pump. Tumblr 7. Women blink twice as often as men do.In an optoelectronic study of eyelid motion, the blink rate was significantly larger in women than in men.Women blink 19 times per minute vs. men, who blink 11 times per minute. During eyelid closure and opening, women moved faster than men.Batting eyelashes look better in women than men, don’t you think? 😁 Giphy 8. Women orgasm better than men.Though men orgasm in 95% of encounters compared to women’s 69%, their orgasm only lasts 3 to 10 seconds.Women’s orgasms can last as long as around 20 seconds to 2 minutes.The nerve endings in a woman’s clitoris are approximately more than 8,000. That’s double the number of nerve endings in a man’s penis.Women would have the best sex when they turn 28, while men reach their peak at 33.Yeah, women may fake it more often to please the man, but when they do orgasm, it’s better. 9. Women are more attentive and organized than men.Study shows that women’s brains were significantly more active in many areas than men’s, especially where focus and impulse control are involved.Women are more on top of things when it comes to meeting deadlines.In terms of home organization, women do it better than men. Gfycat 10. Women have higher IQs than men.Marilyn Vos Savant is not only the most brilliant woman but the smartest person in history, with an IQ of 228 (Guinness Book of World Records).In the men category, Christopher Michael Langan has an IQ score between 195 and 210. Giphy 11. Women are more likely to graduate from college compared to men.US Department of Education data shows that 65% of women who matriculated at a US four-year university in 2012 had graduated by 2018, compared with 59% of their male counterparts.Men who enrolled in a four-year college in 2013 were 10% less likely to graduate within 4 years.There are many factors to consider. As a woman, I say women are more committed to graduating because of the limited opportunity available after college than men. We want to achieve more and feel more accomplished; a college degree is one way to do it. Giphy 12. Women have higher investment returns than men.Women are better investors outperforming their male counterparts by 40 basis points or 0.4%.Women are more cautious when taking risks, which shows in their investments. Giphy 13. Women can handle job interviews better than men.Women show that they can manage stress better, which helps them handle job interviews. Although HR managers click the male profile more, according to LinkedIn, women are 16% more successful in landing a job. Giphy 14. Women are most likely to survive car accidents compared to men.In a car crash, women are more likely to get injured (Insurance Institute for Highway Safety) because a car’s safety features are designed for male drivers. Crash dummies, for instance, are modeled after an average man. Nevertheless, as of this writing, reports show that women are more likely to survive car accidents than men. Giphy 15. Daughters are more likely to care for their parents.Probably because women are naturally more nurturing and caring, daughters are found to care for their aging parents more than their sons.The University of Michigan Health and Retirement Study shows that daughters give an average of 12.3 hours of elder care per month, while sons provide just 5.6. Giphy 16. Women are better communicators than men.Women’s brains are wired in a way that they excel in verbal tasks.Communication is a two-way street. Women are found to be better listeners and are more polite and empathetic than men, which makes them more effective communicators. Giphy 17. Women outperform men in memory tests.It’s normal for both men and women to get more forgetful, especially aging.Menopaused women experienced brain fog and continued memory depletion.Still, women outperform men in memory tests from childhood to adulthood.Here’s what they found out in a test conducted:Females generally access their memories faster than males and date them more precisely Women use more emotional terms when describing memoriesSuperior verbal memory for females appears to be independent of intelligence levelFemales also have greater specificity for events imagined to occur in the futureBe careful what you say because a woman remembers everything.And they may forget where they put their keys or phone, but they remember what you said 4 years ago at 3:27 PM.I wish I’m just kidding. Giphy 18. Women are more adept in languages compared to men. Girls’ language ability develop earlier compared to boys.In the early stage, girls, on average, acquire language faster than boys and have a more extensive vocabulary.Estrogen was found to promote the growth of language centers and related areas in the brain, while testosterone had the opposite effect.Women show superior verbal performance not only for first language acquisition but also for acquiring a foreign language. Giphy 19. Women can sustain relationships better than men. It’s no secret that women are more emotional than men.Women show more emotions, listen emphatically, and are more open in sharing their stories, so they build stronger relationships with their peers.These traits come in handy at work or in business. Giphy 20. Companies with women bosses perform better than those led by men.Because they’re more organized and attentive to details...Able to multitask better and be more productive...Are better communicators...Have sharper memories and a higher IQ...Can build better relationships at work...It’s no surprise that companies with female bosses perform better.Here’s what The Pipeline report says:“London-listed companies with no women on their executive committees have a net profit of 1.5%, whereas those with more than one in three women at that level reach a 15.2% net profit margin.” Giphy How amazing it is to be a woman.It’s not always fun, but oh, the things a woman can do!And they do it better. In high heels even! Hug a superwoman in your life today! Sources:Medical NewsHarvard Business NewsDaily MailPubmedGeorgetown UniversityBrookingsCNBCNBC NewsNCBIBBC
Listicle I'm Never Too Old For This 1:30 AM Anyone who keeps the ability to see beauty never grows old. -Franz Kafka I've always been an old soul, but there are things I will never be too old for. I'm Never Too Old For This Cotton candies, chocolates and ice cream How can you say no to these sweet sinful treats? Harry Potter I solemnly swear that I will never get tired of watching the films and reading the books again and again. I will pass on the magic, the legacy, the story and the kind of life forever changed by Harry to my children, and my children's children. Mischief managed. Christmas Am I the only one around here who feels a sudden rush of nostalgia and excitement at the sight of a lighted Christmas tree and when Christmas songs start to play? Fangirling I'm never too old to be a fan girl. I actively follow amazing fandoms online. I research on the lives of people I admire. I'm exhilarated when I see or get a response from the celebrities I follow. Disney movies I will always, always be a Disney kid. Chick Lits and Chick Flicks Eleanor & Park got me into a giddy overdrive. Flipped and Julie & Julia are two of my comfort movies to date. Playing Board games, hide and seek, hopscotch, skipping rope, or playing pretend with my young cousins, nieces, nephews and friends' kids. You name it, I'm all for it. Dreaming Some people stopped dreaming when they became adults. Sad really because our dreams fire us up, keep us going, and needless to say, keep us young. What to do if your dreams already came true? Dream new dreams. Dream not only for yourself but for those around you. Set new goals. Don't stop dreaming. Curfews I don't have one when I'm in my place. But every time I come home for a vacation or a visit, I always stick to the curfew my parents have set since time immemorial. No matter how old we get, we will always be their children. Childlike Faith Depending on God's grace. I know some people don't believe in God or have other gods, and I respect that. But for me, I can't and won't survive a day without asking for His grace and mercy. He's my Dadda. Zac Efron Seriously. I'm forever under his spell. (Previous Zac Efron posts: Dear Zac, That Awkward Moment, Lessons Learned From Charlie) Call it Peter Pan syndrome or quirks. I just can't give up these things. What are things that make you say "I'm never too old for this"? Gifs from Google images Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Life Lessons A Letter From My Future Self 8:00 AM A Letter From My Future Self A Letter from My Future Self Hey Gorgeous, Guess who's writing to you? Yep, it's your future self – way stronger, way happier, and bursting with pride at the amazing woman you've become.Seriously, you're crushing it! Remember all those doubts, all those times you felt lost? Look how far you've come.Listen, there were some rough patches. That toxic relationship? Yeah, girl, good riddance! Walking away was the bravest thing you ever did, even if it felt like your heart was shattering. But trust me, it opened the door to so much better.Remember that heartbreak quote by Eric Ludy? Still applies."Many a young woman has spent nights crying over a broken heart-not from an ended relationship, but from the FALSE HOPE of a relationship that never began." Sometimes, letting go of something that wasn't meant to be frees you up for something incredible.Wonderful things are coming your way. There will be stumbles, but there's also a whole stormcloud full of God's blessings ready to pour down on you. So keep the faith.Speaking of faith, hold onto the people who lift you up, the ones who celebrate your quirks and believe in you even when you don't believe in yourself. Life is a million times better with those cheerleaders by your side.Remember all that time you wasted chasing after things you thought you needed? We can laugh about that now, right? You've learned a powerful lesson: your worth doesn't depend on what you have. It comes from who you are.You are a good person, beautiful inside and out. Don't ever forget that. Let go of anyone who tries to dim your light, and forgive freely, even if they don't deserve it. It's about your peace, not theirs.The best part? You haven't even seen the good stuff yet! God has amazing plans for you. And trust me, the surprises He has in store are beyond anything you could dream up.So hang tight, lovely.Keep loving yourself, keep loving God, and enjoy the ride. Your future self is waiting for you with the biggest smile, ready to celebrate the incredible woman you've become.With endless love and pride,Your Future YouP.S. You're gonna have a blast!This post contains affiliate links, so we'd get a commission if you purchase through the links at no additional cost to you. Thank you!
Lux Thinking Aloud I'm Taking Charge 5:33 PM We are not creatures of circumstance; we are creators of circumstance. -Benjamin Disraeli I'm taking charge. I have allowed circumstances to take charge of my life for a long time. I have let myself get away with excuses and blaming. I have let myself suffer from other people's wrong decisions and shortcomings. Not anymore. I have decided that I have enough. No more excuses. I'm not taking any bullshit anymore. I will not let obstacles intimidate and discourage me from getting the life I have always wanted. I will use them as my stepping stones instead. I will not wallow in self-pity. It's normal to get hurt, to grieve for a while, to rest. But, quitting is not an option. Everybody gets hurt. Everyone has had their fair share of betrayal, abuse, heartaches and failures. Those are all parts of growing and living. But all those are temporary. They are not the end of my story. I refuse to accept them as the end of my story. That's why I'm taking charge. I will not let lack of knowledge or experience about certain things kill my dreams. No more blaming. Yes, some people in my life should have treated me better, should have known better than use and abuse my kindness and generosity. They should not have dragged me into their mess. But what good does it do to keep on pointing fingers? If I would really analyze it, I have contributed to the situation no matter how small. I have cooperated. If I didn't, things would have been different. I have let myself get pushed around by life. It's time to push back. I refuse to get stuck. I'm taking charge. If you like this blog post on rants about life, please share the article using the social media buttons below or on the left. Thanks!
Listicle 10 Gifts Of A Romantic Relationship 6:34 AM The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return. -Moulin Rouge Being single is awesome. But, there are days when it really sucks too. People misunderstand you, and just like any normal human being, you fear a lot of things. I know the ups and downs of being single, and I also know what it's like to be in a relationship. There are things only single people can get to enjoy, but there are also perks of being in a romantic relationship. 10 Gifts Of A Romantic Relationship The gift of having a partner. You've got a partner in crime. In all your whimsical adventures, in all your misadventures, in every place you want to go to and things you want to try, you always have someone beside you, ready to explore the world with you. Even in simple things as having Sunday brunches or staying up late to watch reruns, there's always someone to share a moment with. The gift of having a backup. You know not all your decisions are wise, but you have an assurance that no matter what, someone always got your back. Someone will always be there to defend you when you feel weak or vulnerable. The gift of having a catcher. Someone's always ready to catch you when you fall. You may be a strong person, but there are times when you just want to raise the white flag. Family and friends will always be there, but having someone special to lean on is another thing. The gift of care. You've got someone to take care of you, and if you're lucky, someone to take care of you forever. You can open your own door, you can carry your things, you can pay your bills. But, if someone does all these little thoughtful things for you, can life get any better? The gift of affirmation. Constant shower of gifts, hugs and mushy lines. You get your daily dose of sweet messages and frequent surprises. The sweet life. The gift of having a 3 am person. No matter how late, no matter how crazy the reason may be, no matter how inconvenient, there's always someone you can call when you need or want to. The gift of intimacy. You are practically sharing your life and this other person is sharing his/her life with you. You are two souls becoming one. Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow. -Swedish Proverb The gift of a beautiful story. Every story has an ending. When you're in a relationship, there are only two possible endings for you; you either end up together or you break up. Sometimes you decide mutually, sometimes you have no other choice but to accept what your partner has chosen for you. However it ends, trust that the purpose for the ending is always for the best, though it may take some time for that to sink in. No matter how your story would end, trust that it's been beautifully written. The gift of lessons. With the story or experience comes the lessons. Lessons that will wake you, change you, break and rebuild you. Lessons that will make you realize what you really want, what you really need and what you really deserve. The gift of love. Because really, isn't that what romantic relationships are all about? Photos from Google images Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks!
Love and Relationship Love Is Not Just An Emotion 12:28 AM Commitment means staying loyal to what you said you were going to do, long after the mood you said it in has left you. -Unknown Love is not just an emotion. Love is a decision. Love is when that giddy feeling of being on cloud 9 disappears, and you still decide to stay and love the other person anyway. Love is when you see the other side of your partner---the undesirable, unlovable one, but you still stick around no matter what. Love is when you don't feel like kissing, hugging, or saying, "I love you," but you still do. Because honoring, loving, and giving your 100% is a commitment you made. Love is more than just your libido on an all-time high. Love is when you see past her dazzling eyes, sweet smile, adorable face, and everything physical, and you still see beauty. Love is not a walk in the park. It is hard work. Love is getting your hands dirty to serve the person you love. Love is working on things together. It's a partnership and teamwork. It's not a one-way street. It's not a solo act. Love is a mutual effort. Love is work---a lot of work. Love is when you decide to hold on against all odds. Love is not for the lazy.Love is more than empty promises and poetry to flatter. Love is saying the truth, knowing that a little discomfort at the beginning will save you from future conflicts. Love is a decision. It's not for the fickle-minded. Love is not for the weak or the complacent. Love is a decision. No ifs, no buts, no maybes. Love is a conscious effort. Love is a deliberate action. Love is not just based on emotions. Love is a decision.
