Lux Thinking Aloud

Hello, Loneliness!

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Hello, Loneliness!

It is in our loneliest that God speaks the loudest.
-Mandy Hale

Hello, Loneliness!

It's been a while, huh?

What brings you here?

I didn't miss you. I didn't call for you. What on earth are you here for?


Oh, I have been very busy, no all thanks to you. You see, in my attempts to forget you and push you away, I kept myself busy. 

In trying to find your enemy Joy, I kept myself occupied with fun things.

loneliness, sadness and joy

I've been out there...

Meeting friends...

Serving others...

Hustling...Planting my seeds...

Resting only when I have done enough or when I am too tired to go on.

I am now living my dream.

It's like walking out in the field just as David did, with only a sling in his hand to face Goliath. 

It is scary! Not gonna lie.

But I know that if I fight you hard enough, there's something wonderful and fulfilling waiting for me in the end.

I know I'm not just doing this for myself but for those who need to know they're not alone on their journey. That God has a message for them too. 

When I remember these, the fear of being ridiculed, the fear of failing, the fear of not being good enough... they all become insignificant.

I mean, who would've thought a stone and a sling would be enough to defeat a giant feared by many?

I bet Fear belongs to your family too. 

It keeps trying to stop me. Gives me serious impostor syndrome and limiting beliefs.

loneliness and fear

I've been doing great in your absence, Loneliness.

Why did you come back?

Why are you reminding me again of what I have lost? 

Nagging me of the could-have-been and what-ifs? 

Why are you making me question my decisions when I have seen time and again that I did the right thing?

I gotta give it to you.

You've come back stronger. You bid your time, didn't you?

And you've been an epidemic for the longest time.

But my dear Loneliness, you can't keep me down for a long time. You will never win this fight. 

I have accepted my mistakes. I have forgiven those who hurt me. I have forgiven myself.

I have learned to enjoy my solitude.

I have found myself because of you. I've known myself better. 

I have discovered my strength when you tried to beat me.

I have learned to live with the pain and find happiness even in your presence.

In your strongest sting, I have felt God's voice encouraging me to keep going. 

I have felt God's love snatching me from your evil clutches.

As you emptied me, taking all that I have, I have learned that Christ is enough.

So although I have you to thank for the many beautiful things that are happening in my life right now, here's me slamming the door in your face again.

Hello, Loneliness! Goodbye!

Hello Loneliness, my old friend. It's never good to see you.

Goodbye and please never come back. You're not welcome here.

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  1. Calling out your 'demons' by name - and telling them to go away - love it! I've found this to be a helpful exercise when other demons, such as "insecurity" or "unworthy" come into my life. Identify it, call it by name and then tell it to take a hike! Hope you can banish "lonely" and live into the comfort of God and your community (in person or virtual)

  2. **waving** Hiya's been a while dear....Everything okay?....Oh mami, there are so many things that could occupy your time eh....Lovely Post mamacita...

    1. Tibs!!! I've been just thinking about how long it is since I've visited your page and heard from you as well. Thanks for dropping by. I am doing well. Pretty busy but enjoying it though. Have a wonderful weekend.

  3. Love the fact that you surely know how to keep going and occupy yourself. Lovely expression of feelings.

    1. Sometimes that's the only way to go. ;)
      Thanks, dear.

  4. Hi,
    Thanks for sharing the great article. I liked it. I completely agree with you.

  5. It was very soothing to read ! Nice one ..

  6. Being busy is the best...!!! Drives away everything :D

  7. Stopping by from the #bloggercaregroup. Loved this article. I am married with kids in the house and still feel lonely at times. I am realizing that no one but Christ can truly meet my needs. "As you empty me, taking all that I have, I have learned that Christ is enough for me." Yes, Christ is enough for me. Have a blessed weekend.

    1. Thank you, Barbie. I think it's really a part of growing our faith. Have a wonderful week ahead!

  8. I love this article! There's so many things I want to say after reading this but I'll just say this. I've just recently learned that you don't have to just let the devil keep tempting and distracting you. All you have to do is tell him to go, like you said, literally slam the door in his face. This is so powerful! Thank you for being the example that I've always wanted to be able to look up to. I wish you strength and prosperity :)

    1. Wow, Diana those are really kind words! Thank you so much. I wish you the same. :)

  9. I love this beautiful, heartfelt post and the Mandy Hale quote. Isn't it wonderful when we can get to the place where we find all that we need in Jesus Christ? Thanks for that encouragement today!

  10. Lovely post and I love the way you keeping yourself busy :) Have a blessed weekend, Liuba x

    1. Thank you so much, Liuba! Enjoy the week ahead.

  11. Hi Lux! I'm so sorry that you had a bout of loneliness. I think we all do from time to time, but that isn't much comfort when you go through it. I'm so glad that you could wrestle with the feeling, and come out on top.
    Congrats on the new writing gig! That sounds very exciting, and don't feel wouldn't have found yourself with this opportunity without God leading you there. That's why the devil is making you feel so bad. You go girl!!

    1. You got that right, Ceil. I had to go through some emotional and even technical issues when I started this gig. But I know that God's power is so much stronger than the force that tries to stop me. :)

      Have a blessed week, Ceil!

  12. Omg.. I can't tell you how I have been feeling the same thing.. that's why I decided to give of myself as much as possible in Service, I have gone back to church too... I never should have walked away but that darn loneliness keeps rearing it's ugly head with me too... I am not giving up slamming the door either, we can slam it together...

  13. Loneliness does empty us, Lux. I'm so glad you've rejected this voice in your life and are listening to the Lord's soothing and comforting words to you that you His child and He is more than enough to fill that void. Thanks for coming by my place too, my friend! Nice to meet ya and Happy Thanksgiving to you too!

    1. It was a pleasure to have come across your page, Beth. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your fam!

  14. Oh My such a lonely essay! Glad you told Loneliness to leave and not come back. Loneliness is a form of "Self Pity" and feeling sorry for your self. You have done the right thing to find happy people and surround yourself with joy and activities. Join a singles group if your church has one. If you are in a mixed Bible study class, do ask questions or speak out when you have a chance, cause men like a woman who is smart (not mouthy) but can hold her own in a conversation. Thank you for sharing with us here at Tell me a Story.