Life Lessons

Let Go: What It Means And Why You Should Do It

8:00 AM

Letting go doesn't mean that you don't care about someone anymore. 
It's just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.
-Deborah Reber

You need to let go.

If you're still affected by it, you still feel something for it.
If you still hate someone who has wronged you in the past, you still are under the other person’s “power”.

Let go of hatred and release yourself from the prison you have created.
Let go of grudge and declare yourself free from the other person’s clutch.
Let go of anger and remove the other person’s power to control you altogether.

You are not your emotions. You are not your feelings.

You are not a slave of your past mistakes.

You are more than that.

Take ownership of your life. Again.


Learn to let it go.

Let Go: What It Means

Your past mistakes and wrong decisions. At least you're wiser now.
Your traumas and pains. We are all scarred. We are all wounded. At least you're stronger now.
Your TOTGA (the one that got away). If it was meant to be, it will be. If things didn't go your way, it's all for the best.
Your could have been and the what ifs. Don't beat yourself up for things that never occurred.

You cannot change the past. You can only take charge of your present and choose what kind of future you want.

Stop beating yourself up.
Stop crying over spilled milk.

Stop clinging to the past. Because to borrow Ted Mosby's line in How I Met Your Mother, no matter how tightly you hold on, it's already gone.

Sometimes we hold on to it because it's what we've known to be 'home' for so long. We always come back home, don't we?

It's familiar and what's familiar brings us comfort. It makes us feel confident somehow because we know how things go. Or maybe because we've grown attached to it that it's the only reality we know. And the unknown terrifies us.

Why You Should Do It

We need to let go greater things happen outside our comfort zone. Miracles happen in the courage zone. Because we get to see things we never thought existed. Because we experience something beyond our imagination.

The reason most people are afraid of the dark is not because of the dark per se. But because you can't see things and that makes you unsure of what will happen next. Will harm come to you? Will you fall? Will you get hurt? It is what you don't see and know that scares you. It is what you think is out of your control that frightens you.

But amazing things happen when you let go of fear and embrace courage.

Someday you'll see. Just have faith.

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  1. I shall try to let go and it's quite tough reaching this elevated stage in life. Find it tough to forgive..

    1. it's not a walk in the park, i must agree. but as they say, if you can't walk, limp. if you can't limp, crawl. what's important is that you don't stay stuck to the mess where you're at.

      i like your page. thanks for sending the link!

  2. Thank you for checking out my post. This was excellent. Some things and people you must let go of to truly be free and happy.

  3. Hey Lux ... you've packed so much wisdom into these few paragraphs ... amazing how much truth we learn from life experience ... and how much wiser we keep on getting as we allow God to whisper into our lives.

    Super post, friend!

  4. Very timely and beautifully written! We have to find that inner and divine strength to let go. After all, the things we have gotten attached to are not holding on to us, but we are holding on to them.

  5. reminds me of the song by Passenger

  6. Very true, have to get out of that comfort zone and see what comes due.

  7. Thanks for this post, it's really helpful! :)
    Agnese & Elisa

  8. Such a new and unique approach to "let go." I should use it in the whole new year which is about to come...let's say a new year resolution!

  9. "Miracles happen in the courage zone." -I SO need that right now, and I need to carry it. Thank you.

    PS Lux, I think you missed a dedication to you - second to last most recent post at
    Take care.

  10. Great post. It’s definitely better to let go hatred and anger towards others. It’s not worth wasting your time for those who mistreated you. Though I find it very hard to let go my own mistakes in the past. At least I learned lesson from that :-)

  11. Sometimes, letting it go frees up the stress, energy and unwanted thoughts. So very true. I would rather focus on something better than hatred.