Guest Blogger 10 Things Couples in a Healthy Relationship Do 10:00 AM A guest blog by Shawn Clark: There are issues such as boredom, platonic friendship and feeling lack of purpose in your marriage that can lead to divorce or separation. Therefore, you may ask yourself what best ways you can keep your marriage lively, fun and lasting forever as you stick to your marital vows? Then this is the right article for you. An in-love partnership is a great component, which boosts your relationship and helps you sustain a healthy marriage even after the honeymoon. The development of deeper and more caring connecting with your partner is a dream for every married couple. In addition, raising a family is another crucial goal that requires many years of togetherness. It is important to understand that every partner in a marriage has to put little effort into making the other partner feel cherished each day. You should do the little things and gestures to help build a long-lasting bond and strong connection for a wonderful relationship with your partner. Poor performance in bed can be a major contributor to a nosedived marriage. Therefore, couples should engage in exercises to boost testosterone. Full body and heavy exercises such as deadlifts, Olympic lifts, row, overhead press, chin-up, bench presses and squats are associated with increasing the release as well as the production of testosterone in a human body. Thus, exercise may help improve your performance in bed as you will satisfy your partner fully. This leads to a happy a more fulfilling marriage. Exercise is the best and safe way to increase your testosterone for better sexual life other than the potentially dangerous supplements and injections. Also, foods rich in vitamin K, zinc and magnesium are recommended for you to maintain high levels of testosterone. Alone time can be the best for you as it helps with your sanity. However, there are important activities that you should do as couples for a better marriage. These activities are well-known to help you have more fun marriage and strengthen your relationship. From relationship expert’s point of view, below are the activities: 10 Things Couples in a Healthy Relationship Do 1. Planning Your Future Together Planning your future can take two different ways. First, you can plan your future by sitting down with calculators, notepads and calendars. Second, you can indulge in thoughtful and meaningful conversations concerning your future. It is essential for you to plan everything about your future together no matter how insignificant the issue is. Working together as a team is vital to your success. You should strive in making things happen together. These may include; planning your careers, buying your house, your sex life or subject related to your children or child. Planning strengthens your bond and makes your marriage journey a lot easier. 2. Giving Full Attention to Your Partner Giving full attention to your partner is a sign of respect. At all the time, ensure that you are not distracted by your phone to the extent of muttering or just nodding your head while your partner is talking to you. Solid relationship requires you to show up. Learn to turn off your phone at times, stop being glued to Facebook, Instagram or other social media platforms. Heavy use of social media leads to unhappiness in a relationship. It is good to send loving or flirting messages to your partner, but it is also very important to be direct with the other person when something is bothering you. Also, it is wise to pay attention to changes on your partner and this can be on his or her weight. In case one is adding more weight and you are not happy about it, please talk about this subject in a more friendly way. Fortunately, there are a number of diet pills on the market that can help you or your partner lose weight and get your attractive figure back. Research well on the supplement’s ingredients, know its manufacturer and find out what other users say about them before you settle on the best diet pills. This is a significant step as it will help you get a safe and effective diet pill for weight loss. 3. Work Out Together A good workout session is a great factor for couples. Workout is well-known to improve your memory, boost your mood and help you a healthy sleeping patterns. Also, it is linked to speeding your metabolism, reducing bad cholesterol and helping in weight management. Through workout, you will be able to see your partner more beautiful than usual. This is true because workout helps in stimulating your sympathetic nervous system that raises your blood pressure, heart rate and increases respiration and thus, heightens your physiologic state. Heightened physiologic state leads to a more aroused person and this is helpful in seeing your partner more attractive. Therefore, it is perfect for you and your partner to get into exercising as regular as you can for better relationship. 4. Talk about Finances Money is a sensitive and crucial topic in a relationship. Many marriages or relationships collapse due to subject related to finances. Therefore, it is healthy for you to talk about finances. You can pay your expenses together regularly to avoid overburdening one partner. This habit also eliminates the chances of having secrets or surprises. Supporting your partner in paying bills gives him or her support and helps in relieving stress. It is significant to talk about how you can best invest or put your money as a couple and thus, this strengthens your ability to work as a couple on your common objectives. 5. Cook Together It is not healthy to always go out for dinner or lunch. It will be more exciting for both of you to decide cook together. It is a great experience, which strengthens your union. It deepens the feeling that you feel for one another. This idea helps you forgo your usual routine and boosts your happiness. Learn your partner’s special recipe, and as you laugh and have jokes in the kitchen, your relationship will be heading somewhere. In addition, it is vital to consume foods rich in omega 3 fatty acids as they are known to provide a number of health benefits. They help keep your heart and brain healthy, reduce bad cholesterol, keep your hair and skin healthy as well. 6. Hugging Giving your other half a hug is known to be very significant as sex in a relationship. Handholding is also another nonsexual touching that can keep a relationship healthy. People know that you are in a relationship through touching acts. Touching your partner will help you be comfortable with one another and it also helps in calming down both of you. Each time you touch your partner, a positive message is conveyed to him or her. Also, holding hands helps in transmitting trust, security and good feelings. 7. Say Thank You These are simple words, but they are rarely said. What was the last time you said thank you because your partner gave you a gift or did something for you? When you are in a relationship, it reaches a time when you can get very comfortable with your other half and makes you think that it is their right to meet your needs. This is a very wrong impression. Appreciate your partner if she or he assisted you with the house chores or bought your something. Particularly, thank your partner for choosing you and being part of your life. 8. Watching a Movie Together This is a great way of spending good time with your partner. You can choose to watch something at your home or go the movies. This will help you feel good and it is important to agree on the kind of the movie you want to watch. Also, this is one way that helps you learn about your partner as some new facts about him or her will be revealed. 9. Having Sense Humor Sense of humor is something, which keeps your relationship lively. Cracking silliest jokes can make your partner laugh for long. It keeps your partner wanting to spend more time with you. Jokes are well-known to have a positive effect on your relationship. As a couple, it is vital to know when to crack a silly joke. Every person needs humor in life. Laughing helps in increasing your love in a relationship. 10. They Communicate Any kind of misunderstanding is wiped away through communication. Therefore, communication is vital in a healthy relationship and it also helps you bond. Having an objection or something bothering you can only be solved by real conversation. Start a conversation and talk things out. However, do not complain or nag. You should appreciate the positive efforts in your relationship rather than seeing faults in your partner. Keep your partner also in your each day’s activities. Conclusion Working towards a healthy relationship can be challenging, but it is achievable. You need to work on your differences as soon as possible, communicate, spend time together, go out of your normal routine and appreciate each other. However, tension and arguments are in a relationship. Learn to listen, forgive and have fun. In a relationship, you sometimes need to leave behind some of your habits and appreciate the new opportunities that come in during relationship. Enhance what makes you happy, feel happy and enjoy your relationship. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Lux Thinking Aloud Dear Faithful Blog Followers 10:39 AM Dear Faithful Blog Followers, THANK YOU! You don't know how thankful I am that you let me into your everyday (or so) schedules. For the times you drop by and waste a minute or two to check my posts from trivial to deep, personal ones. For every kind and sweet comments you leave (even those who only leave copy pasted comments or a generic "Great post", "Thanks for sharing", "This is nice" no matter what the topic is.) For the concerned ones who would send me an email or DM to let me know they couldn't leave a comment because of some error or that something's wrong with my page. Or letting me know how much they appreciate what they read or that I can count on them to support me. For the interactive ones who answers my calls to action. Especially to those who have been faithful blog followers since I started. Thank you. We were strangers, I became your fan, and now considers you as friends. I feel like I know you through your blogs and through the comments you leave here. I feel like I have friends and families around the globe and I told myself that if I ever get the chance to visit your countries, I hope to catch up with you over coffee (or tea). Forgive me My dear ones, I apologize for the times you come here and expect a good, uplifting post from me and find sponsored posts instead. I try to still incorporate the usual "personal" touch in each. Please understand that this girl here is a freelancer and that this is one of the ways to earn a living. This girl's gotta earn some dough, right? Gotta turn that passion into profit, and hopefully never lose the purpose along the way. Business bloggers advice to stick to a genre because a confused visitor will automatically leave and not come back. So, I thank you for not getting tired of checking on me even when you can't predict what's waiting for you in my little space. Thank you that whether I write something personal---my heartaches and travels---general, or feature a product or service, or introduce you to a friend, you still choose to stick around. I'm just a girl who finds writing therapeutic since time immemorial, but you affirmed to me that this is my life purpose, and now you're helping me earn a little profit through your visits. I know Thanksgiving is still a few weeks from now, but I want to express what this grateful heart contains. Come, journey with me... I don't know where my blogging would take me in the coming years. I didn't really start this with business goals in mind. This only served as my venue for venting out immature feelings and simple opinions. But, here I am now. Sure I haven't posted a viral article but it's enough to know that somehow, I touched people's lives in the littlest way I do. I hope that in the coming years, as I continue to pursue this "penniless" passion (so others say), you'd still be there for me. As I will always be here to make sure I serve my purpose: to make you feel less alone. Dearest faithful blog followers friends, thank you very much from the bottom of my heart. Yours, In Our Darkest Hour In My Deepest Despair Will You Still Care? Will You Be There? In My Trials And My Tribulations Through Our Doubts And Frustrations In My Violence In My Turbulence Through My Fear And My Confessions In My Anguish And My Pain Through My Joy And My Sorrow In The Promise Of Another Tomorrow I'll Never Let You Part For You're Always In My Heart. -Will You Be There / Michael Jackson
Life Lessons 3 Major Lessons to Bring In the New Year 9:18 AM There are precious lessons deep in the stench of failure and the filth of selfish choices. -Craig D. Lounsbrough My past year was fantastic. Epic. Historical. It could have been better, but I LOVE it. And I learned a lot from it. Here are 3 major lessons I will bring with me in the new year: Lesson #1 - Stop waiting for other people Don’t wait for others to apologize before you decide to move on. Some people are too proud to admit they have wronged you. If you wait for them to ask for forgiveness, you might spend your whole life remaining and holding on to a grudge. Don’t wait for other people to right the wrongs in your life. "Life is easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got." In the same way, don’t wait for other people to accept your apology before you move on. If you have asked for forgiveness and they still won’t accept it, make peace with yourself and get on with life. The important thing is knowing that you did your part. Don’t wait for other people to be available to accompany you. If you want to visit museums, see local places, visit cities or try something new and nobody’s free to come with you, do it yourself. It’s not their bucket list you’re ticking. It’s yours. Lesson #2 - Allow yourself to be really, REALLY happy. I did that this year. I allowed myself to enjoy life more. I let myself learn new things. I met with and listened to people who are more experienced than I am. I made peace with my past. I forgave the people who hurt me, and most of all, I excused myself for selling myself short. I chose to ignore, to let go of the could-have-been, and released the negative emotions and toxic thoughts I held on to for so long. I accepted the things I could not change and prayed to God for those we could not control. Though I worry sometimes, I have learned to let things be. I did more of what made me happy and gave up those that did not. I wrote more regularly. I read more books. Unlike before, I stopped reading books that bore me instead of painfully trying to finish the story. I go out more often to meet friends and nourish my relationships. I have learned to stop chasing people who do not try to meet me halfway. I shower my love and time instead to those who value me. Life is too short to spend with people who don’t appreciate you. I surround myself with encouragers, believers, and dreamers who act on their dreams and avoid those who drain me. It is not easy, primarily when you work where you meet all kinds of people. Still, if you are determined to protect your happiness and nourish your well-being, you learn the art of shaking off negativity fast. Allow yourself to be really, really happy. For all that you went through and all the hard work you put into what you do, that’s the least you deserve. Lesson #3 - Everything is a decision.Your life today is the result of the decisions you have made in the past. The life you dream of will come true if you decide to make it happen. I have made decisions in the past that I am glad I did. I also have made bad decisions that I sometimes regret. My only consolation now is that I have learned from them, and the consequences made me better. I would not have become the person I am without them, and I could not imagine myself otherwise. Everything in your life happens and results from your decisions every single time. Great relationships don’t just happen. You decide to make it happen. You choose to love even when you wake up and the people you love are not their usual lovable selves. You decide to forgive and compromise to save the relationship. You do not become an overnight success. You decide to study and master your craft. You choose to learn more about your field. You pick yourself up after you fail, even if you fall multiple times. Your addiction will not stop ruining your life unless you decide to put an end to it. You decide to be financially free. Your debts will not just go away. Your future will not secure itself. You decide today how your tomorrow will become. There may be goals you wish you had accomplished in the past year. It is never too late to pursue them again. Trials are inevitable, but you can avoid falling into the same mistakes and failures if you bring the lessons you have learned from the past. You can make this year better. I know I can. These 3 major lessons will help me make that happen.
Faith To The Girl Who Always Gets Dumped 4:23 PM Show me a woman who has never had her heart broken, and I'll show you a woman who has never really lived. Unknown To the girl who always gets dumped, I know what you're thinking. That you're not pretty enough to hold his attention. Or you're not smart enough to keep him interested. Or you're not hot enough to keep him hooked. But, you're wrong. You are lovely. And you are enough. It's not your fault that he is not content. He never was and he never will be. It's not your fault that he is superficial. You are better off. It's not your fault that he couldn't see your worth. That doesn't change who you are. You deserve more than what he's giving you; his spare time, his leftover feelings, his insincere affection. If you only matter to him when he needs something from you, If he's only available when his friends aren't around, If he cares about his happiness more than your well-being... Girl, you're better off. You're better off than being used, being cheated on, being lied to and hurt in any way. You are better off alone and at peace, than with someone but carrying a heavy useless burden in your heart. No, you don't deserve his insults. No, you don't deserve his slaps, or kicks or punches. No, you don't deserve his vilification, condescension, and downplaying. No, you don't deserve to be played and cheated on. To the girl who always gets dumped, You deserve joy. You deserve affection. You deserve undivided attention when you talk. You deserve unceasing loyalty. You deserve to be honored and cherished. You deserve true love. You deserve to be treated with respect and adoration. You deserve to be treated like a princess. Because you are. Aren't you the King's daughter? You have been lied to far too many times that you may have started to believe it. And lived the way you were told to. To the girl who always gets dumped, Find yourself again. Find your beautiful, precious, love-worthy self. Take your identity back. Let go of your trashy past. It already happened. Stop holding on to it. Forget about your vampires or Dementors. Remember that you are loved and your value does not diminish despite the number of mistakes you did in the past. Remember that your past does not define your future. (Bo Sanchez) Remember that as cliche as it may sound, it's their loss and not yours. To the girl who always gets dumped, It's not your destiny to be ditched, so stop believing that's how you should be treated. You were born a victor. You were made for greatness. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Go and fall in love again. But this time, love yourself first. Give to yourself first. Most of all, forgive yourself. For it's not your fault that you loved more, you loved sincerely, and that you believed in the goodness of men, even those who weren't good to you. It's not your fault that you believe in love in a world full of doubts. That you are genuine in a world full of fakes. Stay real, be wiser, and be more careful in who you're giving your heart to. Someone out there is waiting to give you all that you deserve. The puzzle will soon be complete, and you will see what a beautiful picture you have been a part of. One day, your heart will be whole again. And on that day, it will all make perfect sense. For now, enjoy the journey. Laugh at your boo boos. Feel your pain, and then let go. Step out and see the world waiting for you to take it on. To the girl who always gets dumped, you are beautiful. You deserve to be loved. Remember that. If you like this blog post about life and love, please share the article using the social media buttons below or on the left. Thanks!
Faith Sleepless 11:17 PM Sleepless I am literally sleepless today. I took pain medicine yesterday for my headache and the caffeine in it is too strong. Despite me taking only half the dose. So here I am, feeling hangover from a drinking session I never went to. Still standing (or sitting down). Still hustling. The bad thing about not getting sleep is that our bodies are not functioning as it should. Previously, I wrote about having a life balance. Anything in excess is not good. And here I am totally sleepless. I can feel the effects of overworking my brains: dizziness nausea shortness of breath stomach upset uneven skin tone irritability Tenor My husband could attest to the last one. 🤣 If I will have to be honest, it's not just the caffeine that kept me awake. (I've already learned my lesson and only takes half the dose since that time I had palpitations.) But worry has once again conquered me. And no matter what tips you follow for getting a good night sleep, if your mind is filled with fear and anxiety, it's useless. I worry about what will come about after this p andemic. I worry about how the government leaders with selfish intentions would respond to this crisis. I worry about my career. I worry about a lot of things. Worry steals from today. As for me, it stole my rest. It stole my peace. It stole what would have been a more productive day for me. It stole more time I could have spent with my husband. Pinterest Instead of doing these things, I spent it trying to think straight. Trying to not lose my temper to my husband who's also in desperate need of sleep. Two cranky people who are also hungry trying to get by the day is not a good combination. I'm glad my husband is quick to apologize and even quicker to forgive. I spent today trying to function despite feeling lethargic and out of it. Antidote for sleepless night Searching on the web about sleeping, here's a verse I've found: In peace I will lie down and sleep for you alone, O LORD, will keep me safe. -Psalm 4:8 I feel bad for falling into this weakness again. When I worry and fear, I know I am insulting God. There are many times God commanded us to not worry in the Bible. But in my weakness, I allowed the enemy to make my mind a playground for his lies again. Lord, grant me the grace to believe and obey you. Calm my worries. Allow me to rest at your feet. May I sleep in Your presence tonight.Amen. Your turn What makes you sleepless?What are your tips for a good night rest?
