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17 Reasons Why I'm Still Single

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17 Reasons Why I'm Still Single
Single is no longer a lack of options – but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day Happily and let your Ever After work itself out.
-Mandy Hale

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Your response to everyone’s favorite question: “And why are YOU still single?”

While everyone my age are getting married, having a baby or are seriously dating, I am still single.

Now, don't get me wrong. It's not like I made a pact with myself that I will never marry or date ever again. Falling in love, being chased, going out on a date are things I'm sure every woman love to experience. They're affirming, flattering and makes you feel, well...feminine.

But, I choose to be single NOW.

Here's why:

17 Reasons Why I'm Still Single

I now know my worth

After all I went through---broken relationships, shattered dreams, broken trust, heartbreak after heartbreak, I've finally realized and accepted that I am special and that I deserve so much better than I thought I did.

I used to accept anyone who offers me love and sweet promises. I used to believe I deserve to be treated the way I was treated before; taken for granted, second priority, lied to, used, not valued. Not anymore. I am still single because I believe I deserve more. 

I love my own company.

I enjoy my company so much I don't need a man to entertain me, make me happy or keep me company.

I can eat out alone, watch a movie alone (or with my friends) and I revel in my Me Time. I am still single because I love spending time with myself that being alone doesn't bother me.


I've rediscovered myself after losing myself to someone, and I love what I've found. A stronger and better version, an amazing treasure, apple of God's eye. I am fearfully and wonderfully made.

I refuse to be influenced and dictated by the society. 

Everyone around me; family members, friends are all concerned about my relationship status. They're all out looking for someone to "hook me up" with. I don't want to believe that there's an unwritten law that once you hit your middle 20's or early 30's, you are supposed to settle down and start a family of your own.

I am still single because I don't want to give in to peer pressure, because I don't want to follow a silly rule people made up and everyone wants to impose to everyone.

I am finally at peace with myself

Because for the longest time, I've been trying to figure out where I'm supposed to be, I've been trying to reach other people's expectations and I've been searching, chasing, hustling for something I don't even know what. Now, I am at peace knowing that I'm in the right track. I am exactly where my heart wants me to be.

I'm piecing myself back together.

I have been broken, and now that I'm putting back the pieces together, I've learned to embrace the present, the people I'm with, the experience and the lessons. I've embraced life more.

I'm making the most of all the time in my hands.

I know this won't last, I will sooner or later find my better half (in God's time). Now more than ever is the best time to spend serving, catching up and being with the people who matter to me. The best time for traveling or trying out something new; which leads me to the next reason. Probably my favorite among the 17 reasons why I'm still single.


I love the freedom that comes with being unattached. I can drop whatever I'm doing, pack my things and go out of town, head to the movies, or have a cup of tea with someone at a moment's notice.

One text or call from a friend and I'm on my way to where the fun is. No one to ask permission to, no one to stop me, no dates to cancel, no compromises, no hassle.

Trust issues.

Somewhere somehow I got broken, devastated, destroyed and honestly, I still have some trust issues. I try so hard to shake the doubts off and give humanity another chance. I'm still a work in progress.

Love tank's filling up.

I am still filling up my love tank and I don't want to selfishly drain another person just to fill up mine.

Respect for myself and for others.

I don't want to play with other people's feelings, because I have enough respect for their time and because I don't want to waste my own time on something I know I'm not serious with anyway. I want people to respect my time so I respect theirs the same way.

No chasing.

I don't want to chase after something or someone not real or not worth the chase.


I've kissed enough frogs in the past that I want to give my next kiss to my prince.


I choose to wait patiently for the right time for the right person with the right love.


I am bold enough to take the road less traveled.

I complete me.

And as Mandy Hale puts it, I am still single because I am "too fabulous to settle".

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  1. love this post and your reasons for being single!

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  2. This post is amazing and I LOVE the way you write!!!!

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  3. I love your post and you said everything I feel. There is no need for me to do the 30 day challenge even though I probably should. :)

  4. Totally loved this post. Echoes my thoughts. Thank you for stopping by my page. Looking forward to reading more from you as well.

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  6. This post was nice to read. I couldn't have put it down better myself. Everything you've written, is everything I'm feeling or have felt. That's why I am okay with waiting. Okay with being single. It's better than being in a bad relationship or a relationship where you lose bits and pieces of yourself constantly. I just started blogging this, so if you'd like please check out

  7. I do love all of your reasons! It is your choice, it is your life! Do what is right for you! And DON'T have children if you don't want them or at least wait until you do want them. Not everyone should be parents!

  8. I love all your reasons for being single Luxe. .. I've been in the same place as you. One of my greatest desires is to travel and I can do that without worrying about whether a man wants to go or minds if I go. I just have to wait a few more years for Valentina to grow up but then I can go.

    I know my worth too but I also know I have massive trust issues too..cox ♡♡♡

  9. I love your self-affirmation and willingness to trust Gods timing. Your heart is a gift. Treasure it. Many blessings little sister!

  10. I like all of your reasons. I am single also, mainly because, like you, I know my worth.

  11. Lux, loved this blog. I'm going to read this to my younger daughters. They always end up with a Mr. Wrong.

  12. Yay for being your own woman. Please stay that way, have your own thoughts and live the way you want to.

  13. Like the post, so good ;)


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  14. I'm sure so many girls would be nodding their heads reading this.. I'm one of them :) But it's been 3 years (read 3+) that I'm single and I know what kind of a man I'm looking for now.. I won't settle for anything less and I'll take all my learnings with me :) Thanks for your post

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  15. I did enjoy being single when I was much younger. Raising children on my own was hard though. Now, I've been happily married (again) for over 25 years - for me it beats being single at this time in my life.

  16. Well, every single woman no matter what her age should read this post. And those of us who've been married, too, friend. So much truth and wisdom spoken here.

    But what else is new?

    Best to you ...

  17. It's good that women have the choice these days. Single used to be frowned upon, even the word 'spinster' isn't very flattering. I'm glad that things have changed for the better.

  18. Of course there are important reasons, to be single, and to be as you want to
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  19. Awesome post! I like this a lot. Happy Wednesday to you! :)


  20. being single is great and noone should feel like they need to justify being so. but these are great reasons anyway:-) xx

  21. *applauds* I agree with each point. I'm single for the same reasons. :)

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  23. Terrific life lessons! And whenever you do choose to begin dating, you'll be healthy and strong for a relationship.

  24. great postdear and the post are so true
    I love the first one most its so improntant that all ladies out ther know their worth

  25. It is a wonderful thing to be content and happy where you are! God's timing is always perfect, and whatever He has planned for your life will work out for your good! Have a blessed day my friend :)

  26. Love your perspective and the quote at the beginning of the post ♥

  27. nice post!!!

  28. I love these post. Love your statement.
    Sometimes single and alone is better to avoid many problems . would you like to follow each other on Google Friend connect and google +?
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  29. well lux, I am single too. High five :P It is a great feeling :D

  30. Hey Lux, I am single so High Five :D its a great feeling :)

  31. What a great read to start the love month! Welcome February! Enjoy life as it comes to us and make the most of it. The right love comes at the right time:)

  32. This is an amazing post for someone who believes in themselves! Thanks for writing and sharing with us.
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  33. I really love how u write. You r free spirited. I also think no one shld be judged for being single

  34. Amazing post Lux !!!!


  35. Knowing your worth- yesss! Preach it, lady!

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  36. It's a choice but I suspect most would want company specially as we grow older ~

  37. First of Luxxy of Destiny! you are very beautiful ehhnn Choi! Asin Angel SomeboRRy! Just looked at your G+ Display picShur now.. and aYam almost sure my heart skipped a beat :)

    Moving on Nne.. I wanted to say it yeah.. but when i saw it in a picture above ba.. i had peace within me.. So here goes.. "Aint no love like Self love".. Ijagz used to say that a lot.. and she was right.. cause break up upon break up teaches one that until you love YOU enough.. no one will ever love YOU enough.. Blessings Bubba..

    Whoop! Whoop! its a new Month Yooo!! Happy February Luxxy of Destiny.. xx

  38. I think being single is fun too! There's so plenty of time to focus on what we want and yes save the money hehe

  39. Such an amazing post! Every single thing you wrote resonates so much with me. You're enjoying this time of your life for all the right reasons and it's the right thing to do to only settle for somebody who loves you and supports you for you, unconditionally and always. Until that time comes you should enjoy your life to the fullest :)
    Have an amazing rest of the week!
    Lots of hugs,

  40. This is such a fab post! Enjoy being single hun, the right guy will come along when you least expect it :)

    Rachel xx

  41. Yes, good and justified reasons! as a Spanish proverb: Better to be alone than in bad company!

  42. Beautiful, strong, wonderful post! I am single and in my late 20s and, while I am looking, I refuse to settle, to get with someone who's interested in me just because. If it doesn't feel right, I'm not interested, I have high expectations after being broken and, like you, I want my next kiss to be my Prince.

  43. there's a truth in the Demi's words.
    I'm taken for almost 7 years! ;o

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  44. exactly my thoughts haha.. i don't know why my relatives are the one so eager to push me into a relationship haha God is not yet done writing my love story.. that's it LOL

  45. Although, I'm no longer single, I still truly appreciated all of your reasons for staying single!! I do believe you are bold and it does require a good amount of strength to remain single in the society we live in now. May you find that one worthy of your love at the right time. It sounds like you're on the right track.

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  46. Great post, i love this.

  47. That's ridiculous that people ask you why you're still single. You should punch them in the face.

  48. I don't know why people keep asking this question. Sometimes, the priority is just different and yes it is a choice. Well, if you are happy single they shouldn't care.

  49. I've been in a relationship for already 5 years and a half, but these sound pretty fair!

  50. So many people in relationships who want to get out and would rather be just single. So yeah, enjoy for whatever reason you have. Great list! :)

  51. Oh by the way, your site is interesting, I'm placing it to my blogroll. See you around Sweetie!

  52. I love the positivity and all your fab reasons for choosing the single life! It's where you want and need to be right now and that's awesome. Thanks for linking up at #sharethejoy (Michelle at The Joy Chaser and The Essex Barn)

  53. I love this kinds of article and I read every single word in it. I can relate to some especially about being in the best company and friends. Actually, I've never experienced to be in a relationship maybe because I still think that I'm young. I don't entertain guys when they approach me nor reply to facebook and text messages. I have crushes but I don't tell them I like them. I only keep it a secret between me and my bff. Haha! I know soon, we're going to meet our own princes and when that day comes, we'll surely be the happiest. :)

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  54. Now that is a nice post Lux quite good reasons too :-)

    Have a singletastic weekend :-)

  55. So thankful that my husband and I did not hurry into marriage. We often say to each other that the wait was hard, but it was worth it.

  56. hmmmmm.....all sounds good. Ultimately you will be single until you choose not to be.


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  57. I know I'm married now, but I totally resonated with all these reasons once upon a time. I actually married my first boyfriend, because I didn't feel like being in a relationship just to say I had a boyfriend. Being single can be a wonderful thing! It's certainly better than being in a relationship with someone who doesn't love or respect you.

  58. Great post, Lux! It is when we find all this out about ourselves, that we are ready to find that special person. The best part is it is in your timing and when you want to. I love all of your graphics! They are so funny. Thanks for sharing with #SocialButterflySunday! Hope to see you link up again this week :)

  59. Being single can be a good thing for sure!

  60. LOVE THIS WITH ALL MY HEART!!! I didn't get married until I was 33 and I was JUST like you when I was single. Growing and putting pieces of myself back together again, while learning to LOVE myself, LOVE being alone, and LOVE finding peace in where I was RIGHT THERE- no matter the pressure from outside sources everywhere.


  61. A brilliant post.
    Single is fine. A compromised 'lessened' self just to be in a relationship is not.

  62. Great post, thanks for sharing!
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  63. i think your writing will resonate in a positive way with many people out there, both men and women :)

  64. A post that should be shared everywhere possible, LOVE IT! Think this is brilliant and thanks for doing us at #Fridayreflections

  65. what a beautiful list of reasons - very empowering!

  66. I agree with each word you have written there... It sounds so like me!!!

  67. Beautiful post! I loved your style of writing with ease, and yes, I liked all the videos in between. :)

  68. Wonderful reasons to be single. Enjoyed this :)

  69. I love your list, Lux and so admire you. I got married at 41 and have no regrets for the experiences - good and bad - being single brought my way.

  70. And one day, at the right time, someone is going to find you for who you are and accept all these things about you <3 But it is perfectly fine to be single as well, so embrace this time!

  71. I think single or in a relationship, it's important to understand yourself in a lot of the ways you describe.

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  72. This is just brilliant - it's honest, funny & empowering. It sounds like you are in an amazing place. You are right not to settle. I love all the gifs they fit perfect with each point. Thanks so much for sharing with #candidcuddles, I hope to see you back in August. x

  73. Well with the kind of women that are out there nowadays sure explains why many of us good men still are.

  74. It's amazing how the experience of love can change our character for the better. Like you, it no longer bothers me to be alone. I entrusted everything to God. He promised to meet all our needs, and if He determines I need to get married so be it. But in the meantime, I enjoy the awesome benefits of being single.