17 Reasons Why I'm Still Single

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17 Reasons Why I'm Still Single

Single is no longer a lack of options – but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day Happily and let your Ever After work itself out.
-Mandy Hale

While everyone my age is getting married, having a baby, or seriously dating, here I am...still single.

In a world full of gooey-eyed couples, why am I still single?

Here are 17 reasons why:

17 Reasons Why I'm Still Single

1. I finally know my worth

After all that I went through, heartbreak after heartbreak, I've finally realized my worth.

I used to accept anyone who offers me love and sweet promises. Even though they don't treat me right.

In short, I used to shortchange myself. I now know my value. 

I've woken up to the truth; that I've been fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalm 139:14)

And so I deserve to be treated with honor.

I'm still single because I believe I deserve more. 

Reasons Why I'm Still Single: I deserve more

I enjoy my own company so much I don't need a man to entertain me or make me happy.

I can eat out and watch a movie alone (or with my friends). I revel in my Me Time. 

I'm still single because I love spending time with myself. Being alone doesn't bother me. 

Reasons Why I'm Still Single: I love my own company

3. I rediscovered myself.

I've rediscovered who I really am after losing myself to someone...

And I love what I've found. 

I didn't know this stronger and better version of myself before. 

Maybe because I didn't get the opportunity to tap into this strength and potential because of people holding me back. 

Or because I thought I was already okay with who I was.

I'm still single because I've discovered who I really am and I fell in love with that person. (Not in the self-absorbed, arrogant way. But in a selfless, kind-to-myself way).

Reasons Why I'm Still Single: I've discovered who I am

4. I refuse to be dictated by society. 

People around me are concerned about my relationship status. They think it's not normal for people my age to not be married or at least dating.

I know these people mean well but what they don't understand is that I am single by choice. 

Not because there are no other options or that I'm too scared

Even in this day and age, people put a stigma on single women over the age of 30. I can't blame them. 

But I also refuse to be influenced by them.

I'm still single because society has no say in my romantic choices.


5. I finally feel at peace with myself

I've been trying to figure out where I'm supposed to be for the longest time.

I've been trying to reach other people's expectations. 

I've been searching, chasing, hustling. 

For what? I don't even know.

I was like a dog who keeps chasing his tail day in and day out. Finally, when he caught it, he doesn't know what to do. 

It's silly and a total waste of time. 

Now, I feel at peace with myself knowing that I'm on the right track

I am exactly where my heart wants me to be. And that's another reason why I'm still single.

Reasons Why I'm Still Single: I'm at peace with myself

6. I'm piecing myself back together.

I have been broken, battered, bruised. I'm now learning to put back the pieces together.

I've learned to embrace the present. To appreciate the people I'm with, the experience, and the lessons I'm learning along the way. 

It wasn't easy. Sometimes I still fall short. But I'm a work in progress.

I'm still single because I'm still putting back my broken pieces together and this is something I've got to do on my own.

Reasons Why I'm Still Single: putting the pieces back together

7. I'm making the most of all the time in my hands.

I know this phase won't last. I don't know how long I'll be single.

I'm certain that I will sooner or later find my better half

Now more than ever is the best time to spend serving, growing, and being with the people who matter to me. 

It's the best time to travel and experience new things.

I'm still single because I want to take advantage of my free time doing things I've always wanted to do.

Reasons Why I'm Still Single: Enjoying my time alone

8. I'm enjoying my freedom.

I love the freedom that comes with being unattached. 😊

I can drop whatever I'm doing, pack my things and go out of town. 

I can head to the movies, or have tea with someone at a moment's notice.

One text or call from a friend and I'm on my way to where the fun is. 

No one to ask permission to, no one to stop me, no dates to cancel, no compromises, no hassles.

I'm still single because this freedom will not last forever and I'm here to enjoy it while it lasts.


9. I still have trust issues.

Somewhere not so long ago, my trust has been broken. And you know what they say about a broken trust...

Trust takes years to build, seconds to break, and forever to repair.

I try so hard to shake the doubts off and give humanity another chance.

I've never stopped believing in love but finding a genuine one has been challenging. 

Especially when you start to question everything.

I'm still single because I haven't found the courage to trust again.

Reasons Why I'm Still Single: trust issues

10. My Love Tank is still filling up.

I am still filling up my love tank and I don't want to selfishly drain another person just to fill up mine.

I'm still single because I can't give something I don't have. If I want to give love to someone someday, I have to have healthy, selfless love in my heart first.

Reasons Why I'm Still Single: my love tank is still filling up

11. I have respect for myself and for others.

I don't want to play with other people's feelings. I don't want to waste their time and lead them on. 

I have enough respect for them and for myself.

Wasting my time and energy on something I'm not serious about and will not help me grow is not honoring myself. 

I'm still single because I have self-respect and I respect others.

Reasons Why I'm Still Single: I respect myself and others

12. No chasing.

Most guys think being mysterious is sexy. Maybe at some point. 

But having to guess what men think about all the time isn't fun.

They tell you they like you today and then stop talking to you for days. And expect you to still be there and believe them when they come around.

There may be a thrill in the initial chase but it eventually gets boring and discouraging. 

Especially when it makes you ask...

What role am I playing here? 
Where is this going?

The doubts take away the fun. 

If I have to chase you, if I have to guess, then I think it's not worth my time.

I'm still single because I don't want to chase after something inconsistent and unsure. I'm too old for that game.

Reasons Why I'm Still Single: not liking the chase

13. Preparing for the real thing.

There are many times I thought a relationship was real but it wasn't. 

I've learned to discern if someone's sincere or not. If a relationship is going somewhere or will just go around in a toxic circle.

I've grown because of my mistakes and shortcomings.

I'm still single because I'm still being prepared for my prince. So when he arrives, I'm ready. To give my all.

Reasons Why I'm Still Single: Preparing for the real thing

14. I'm waiting.

A friend once told me, "Stop waiting for Mr. Right. He doesn't exist."

I agree.

I'm not waiting for Mr. Right. I'm waiting for Mr. Right One For Me.

I'm looking for the one I can spend my life with.

He doesn't have to be perfect as long as we're perfectly imperfect for each other.

I'm still single because I choose to wait for the right time for the right person with the right love.

Reasons Why I'm Still Single: I'm waiting

15. I have this boldness.

Not everyone walks this path because it could be scary and intimidating. 

It's a lonely road when you're walking on your own.

People tend to follow where the crowd goes. But I've learned that the more I follow the crowd the more lost I become.

Because where they're going is not where I want to be.

I'm still single because I am bold enough to take the road less traveled.
Reasons Why I'm Still Single: bold enough

16. I complete me.

Of course, I am not worried about intimidating men. The type of man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest in. -Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Do I need a man to live the life I've always wanted? No.
Do I need a man to pay for my bills, finance my travels, and buy me things that I need and want? No.
Am I incomplete, miserable, helpless, and unattractive without a man to call my own? No.

I complete me. And that's why I'm still single.

Reasons Why I'm Still Single: I complete me

17. I'm too fabulous to settle.

That's what my favorite single woman author Mandy Hale said. 

Not in an egotistical, self-righteous kind of way.

I know I am no damsel in distress.

I am already living a fabulous life that I'd rather have someone with whom I can share that or enjoy it on my own.

I have my family and friends who cheer me on.

I have my dogs to care for and love and who give me unparalleled loyalty.

I've got a God who's always got my back.

And I've got me to give me what I want.

I'm still single because I know I already got it good. I'm too fabulous to settle

Reasons Why I'm Still Single: don't want to settle

What about you? Are you still single? Why did you choose singlehood? 

This is my entry for The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge: Your response to everyone’s favorite question: “And why are YOU still single?”.

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  1. love this post and your reasons for being single!

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  2. This post is amazing and I LOVE the way you write!!!!

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  3. I love your post and you said everything I feel. There is no need for me to do the 30 day challenge even though I probably should. :)

  4. Totally loved this post. Echoes my thoughts. Thank you for stopping by my page. Looking forward to reading more from you as well.

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  6. This post was nice to read. I couldn't have put it down better myself. Everything you've written, is everything I'm feeling or have felt. That's why I am okay with waiting. Okay with being single. It's better than being in a bad relationship or a relationship where you lose bits and pieces of yourself constantly. I just started blogging this, so if you'd like please check out

  7. I do love all of your reasons! It is your choice, it is your life! Do what is right for you! And DON'T have children if you don't want them or at least wait until you do want them. Not everyone should be parents!

  8. I love all your reasons for being single Luxe. .. I've been in the same place as you. One of my greatest desires is to travel and I can do that without worrying about whether a man wants to go or minds if I go. I just have to wait a few more years for Valentina to grow up but then I can go.

    I know my worth too but I also know I have massive trust issues too..cox ♡♡♡

  9. I love your self-affirmation and willingness to trust Gods timing. Your heart is a gift. Treasure it. Many blessings little sister!

  10. I like all of your reasons. I am single also, mainly because, like you, I know my worth.

  11. Lux, loved this blog. I'm going to read this to my younger daughters. They always end up with a Mr. Wrong.

  12. Yay for being your own woman. Please stay that way, have your own thoughts and live the way you want to.

  13. Like the post, so good ;)


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  14. I'm sure so many girls would be nodding their heads reading this.. I'm one of them :) But it's been 3 years (read 3+) that I'm single and I know what kind of a man I'm looking for now.. I won't settle for anything less and I'll take all my learnings with me :) Thanks for your post

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  15. I did enjoy being single when I was much younger. Raising children on my own was hard though. Now, I've been happily married (again) for over 25 years - for me it beats being single at this time in my life.

  16. Well, every single woman no matter what her age should read this post. And those of us who've been married, too, friend. So much truth and wisdom spoken here.

    But what else is new?

    Best to you ...

  17. It's good that women have the choice these days. Single used to be frowned upon, even the word 'spinster' isn't very flattering. I'm glad that things have changed for the better.

  18. Of course there are important reasons, to be single, and to be as you want to
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  19. Awesome post! I like this a lot. Happy Wednesday to you! :)


  20. being single is great and noone should feel like they need to justify being so. but these are great reasons anyway:-) xx

  21. *applauds* I agree with each point. I'm single for the same reasons. :)

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  23. Terrific life lessons! And whenever you do choose to begin dating, you'll be healthy and strong for a relationship.

  24. great postdear and the post are so true
    I love the first one most its so improntant that all ladies out ther know their worth

  25. It is a wonderful thing to be content and happy where you are! God's timing is always perfect, and whatever He has planned for your life will work out for your good! Have a blessed day my friend :)

  26. Love your perspective and the quote at the beginning of the post ♥

  27. nice post!!!

  28. I love these post. Love your statement.
    Sometimes single and alone is better to avoid many problems . would you like to follow each other on Google Friend connect and google +?
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  29. well lux, I am single too. High five :P It is a great feeling :D

  30. Hey Lux, I am single so High Five :D its a great feeling :)

  31. What a great read to start the love month! Welcome February! Enjoy life as it comes to us and make the most of it. The right love comes at the right time:)

  32. This is an amazing post for someone who believes in themselves! Thanks for writing and sharing with us.
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  33. I really love how u write. You r free spirited. I also think no one shld be judged for being single

  34. Amazing post Lux !!!!


  35. Knowing your worth- yesss! Preach it, lady!

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  36. It's a choice but I suspect most would want company specially as we grow older ~

  37. First of Luxxy of Destiny! you are very beautiful ehhnn Choi! Asin Angel SomeboRRy! Just looked at your G+ Display picShur now.. and aYam almost sure my heart skipped a beat :)

    Moving on Nne.. I wanted to say it yeah.. but when i saw it in a picture above ba.. i had peace within me.. So here goes.. "Aint no love like Self love".. Ijagz used to say that a lot.. and she was right.. cause break up upon break up teaches one that until you love YOU enough.. no one will ever love YOU enough.. Blessings Bubba..

    Whoop! Whoop! its a new Month Yooo!! Happy February Luxxy of Destiny.. xx

  38. I think being single is fun too! There's so plenty of time to focus on what we want and yes save the money hehe

  39. Such an amazing post! Every single thing you wrote resonates so much with me. You're enjoying this time of your life for all the right reasons and it's the right thing to do to only settle for somebody who loves you and supports you for you, unconditionally and always. Until that time comes you should enjoy your life to the fullest :)
    Have an amazing rest of the week!
    Lots of hugs,

  40. This is such a fab post! Enjoy being single hun, the right guy will come along when you least expect it :)

    Rachel xx

  41. Yes, good and justified reasons! as a Spanish proverb: Better to be alone than in bad company!

  42. Beautiful, strong, wonderful post! I am single and in my late 20s and, while I am looking, I refuse to settle, to get with someone who's interested in me just because. If it doesn't feel right, I'm not interested, I have high expectations after being broken and, like you, I want my next kiss to be my Prince.

  43. there's a truth in the Demi's words.
    I'm taken for almost 7 years! ;o

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  44. exactly my thoughts haha.. i don't know why my relatives are the one so eager to push me into a relationship haha God is not yet done writing my love story.. that's it LOL

  45. Although, I'm no longer single, I still truly appreciated all of your reasons for staying single!! I do believe you are bold and it does require a good amount of strength to remain single in the society we live in now. May you find that one worthy of your love at the right time. It sounds like you're on the right track.

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  46. Great post, i love this.

  47. That's ridiculous that people ask you why you're still single. You should punch them in the face.

  48. I don't know why people keep asking this question. Sometimes, the priority is just different and yes it is a choice. Well, if you are happy single they shouldn't care.

  49. I've been in a relationship for already 5 years and a half, but these sound pretty fair!

  50. So many people in relationships who want to get out and would rather be just single. So yeah, enjoy for whatever reason you have. Great list! :)

  51. Oh by the way, your site is interesting, I'm placing it to my blogroll. See you around Sweetie!

  52. I love the positivity and all your fab reasons for choosing the single life! It's where you want and need to be right now and that's awesome. Thanks for linking up at #sharethejoy (Michelle at The Joy Chaser and The Essex Barn)

  53. I love this kinds of article and I read every single word in it. I can relate to some especially about being in the best company and friends. Actually, I've never experienced to be in a relationship maybe because I still think that I'm young. I don't entertain guys when they approach me nor reply to facebook and text messages. I have crushes but I don't tell them I like them. I only keep it a secret between me and my bff. Haha! I know soon, we're going to meet our own princes and when that day comes, we'll surely be the happiest. :)

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  54. Now that is a nice post Lux quite good reasons too :-)

    Have a singletastic weekend :-)

  55. So thankful that my husband and I did not hurry into marriage. We often say to each other that the wait was hard, but it was worth it.

  56. hmmmmm.....all sounds good. Ultimately you will be single until you choose not to be.


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  57. I know I'm married now, but I totally resonated with all these reasons once upon a time. I actually married my first boyfriend, because I didn't feel like being in a relationship just to say I had a boyfriend. Being single can be a wonderful thing! It's certainly better than being in a relationship with someone who doesn't love or respect you.

  58. Great post, Lux! It is when we find all this out about ourselves, that we are ready to find that special person. The best part is it is in your timing and when you want to. I love all of your graphics! They are so funny. Thanks for sharing with #SocialButterflySunday! Hope to see you link up again this week :)

  59. Being single can be a good thing for sure!

  60. LOVE THIS WITH ALL MY HEART!!! I didn't get married until I was 33 and I was JUST like you when I was single. Growing and putting pieces of myself back together again, while learning to LOVE myself, LOVE being alone, and LOVE finding peace in where I was RIGHT THERE- no matter the pressure from outside sources everywhere.


  61. A brilliant post.
    Single is fine. A compromised 'lessened' self just to be in a relationship is not.

  62. Great post, thanks for sharing!
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  63. i think your writing will resonate in a positive way with many people out there, both men and women :)

  64. A post that should be shared everywhere possible, LOVE IT! Think this is brilliant and thanks for doing us at #Fridayreflections

  65. what a beautiful list of reasons - very empowering!

  66. I agree with each word you have written there... It sounds so like me!!!

  67. Beautiful post! I loved your style of writing with ease, and yes, I liked all the videos in between. :)

  68. Wonderful reasons to be single. Enjoyed this :)

  69. I love your list, Lux and so admire you. I got married at 41 and have no regrets for the experiences - good and bad - being single brought my way.

  70. And one day, at the right time, someone is going to find you for who you are and accept all these things about you <3 But it is perfectly fine to be single as well, so embrace this time!

  71. I think single or in a relationship, it's important to understand yourself in a lot of the ways you describe.

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  72. This is just brilliant - it's honest, funny & empowering. It sounds like you are in an amazing place. You are right not to settle. I love all the gifs they fit perfect with each point. Thanks so much for sharing with #candidcuddles, I hope to see you back in August. x

  73. Well with the kind of women that are out there nowadays sure explains why many of us good men still are.

  74. It's amazing how the experience of love can change our character for the better. Like you, it no longer bothers me to be alone. I entrusted everything to God. He promised to meet all our needs, and if He determines I need to get married so be it. But in the meantime, I enjoy the awesome benefits of being single.