Life Lessons Lessons Learned On My Way To Getting There 1:25 PM If you do not know where you come from, then you don’t know where you are, and if you don’t know where you are, you don’t know where you’re going. And if you need to know where you’re going, you’re probably going wrong. -Terry Pratchett Sometimes, it’s easy to feel like life is passing you by. One day you wake up and realize that most of your peers are now getting on with their adult lives, getting married, and having babies. And here you are...still drunk in love with your being single. It could be terrifying when negative thoughts start to enter your mind. When people make you question your choices, you begin to also doubt yourself. That is if you don’t have a solid conviction of who you really are, what you want, and where you are going. On my way to getting there, I’ve learned how to make the journey light, and I’m sharing it here with you. 1. Know exactly what you want. Where exactly is your ‘there’? Living without goals is like driving without direction. You keep on going around in circles. You don’t get anywhere simply because you don’t know where you’re heading. If you know exactly what you want, you can change your strategies or change your timetable and still know it’s okay because you haven’t forgotten your destination. You have a clear vision of where you’re going so you don’t go astray. You may have stopovers or detours, but keep your eyes on the prize. What do you really want to do, and where do you want to go? Giphy 2. Be friends with people from all walks of life. Younger friends are fun to be with because their excitement and curiosity are contagious. They keep you young and updated. Friends who are about your age share the same sentiments. You can share notes about your past experiences, struggles, and plans. They are your reality check. Friends who are more mature or are ahead of you in this life journey could be amazing life mentors. They will guide you and help you avoid making the same mistakes they did. Entrepreneurs have different mindsets and lifestyles from people in the workforce. See things from different perspectives by forming friendships with business owners and employees. Every person you meet has a story, and their story comes with lessons for you to learn. Giphy 3. Do something today that your future self will thank you for.They say money speaks only one language. “If you save me today, I will save you tomorrow.”Learn how to manage your finances. The people who laugh at your frugal ways will one day come to you and ask you for help. (True story!) Take care of your health and secure your future. Learn how to be truly rich. Enjoy the present, but don’t forget to save some for tomorrow. You don’t want to be begging for money when you’re too old or maybe too sick to work. Yes, YOLO! But you only live once, so you might as well not live miserably, right? That piece of steak looks good, but is it really worth it when you know you’re putting your life at risk? Not to mention the debilitating effect of the meat industry on the environment and, of course, the suffering of the animals just for you to get your plate of juicy steak. Your future self will thank you for your choices today. Choose selflessly and wisely for your health, the planet you live on, and the future. Giphy 4. Travel more. Visit a new place. Traveling changes your perspective. You realize that you are a tiny speck in the vast universe. Your primary concern, like your change of career, what other people would think, not having a date for Valentine’s, not having enough clothes in your closet, or not getting the latest gadget, will become insignificant. CALVIN: If people sat outside and looked at the stars each night, I’ll bet they’d live much differently. HOBBES: How so? CALVIN: Well, when you look into infinity, you realize that there are more important things than people do all day. Imgur 5. Help someone. Your job title, the trophies, and the rewards you received may be impressive and could give you euphoria. But there is a different kind of high when you give without expecting anything in return. Help someone who is not capable of giving you back. At least not directly. Because kindness begets kindness. The love (or hate) you give will eventually come back to you. Have you ever been a part of a ministry and witnessed God’s work through people helping other people? You will be amazed. Giphy 6. Let go. You can never enjoy the present if you keep looking back at the past. As you age, you realize that some dreams are worth pursuing and others are not your dreams but someone’s plans for you, like your parents. Let go of the people who are holding you back. Let go of your excess baggage to make your journey getting there easier and lighter. What are the things that are weighing you down? Is it guilt? Forgive yourself and ask for forgiveness. Confess. Is it an addiction? Seek help. Is it your inner critic? Learn how to silence it. Is it worrying about what people would say? Why does it matter anyway? Is it the limitation you set yourself? Change your mindset. Is it a toxic lifestyle? Learn how to live healthily and live happily. Is it fear? Do it afraid. Is it your lavish ways? Simplify. Giphy Sometimes you get to your dreams fast, and sometimes you face detours. Sometimes on your way to reaching your goals, you realize life is more than just about pursuing a career and living according to society's dictates. Sometimes you get lost and find a better dream, and sometimes you see...a better you. I’m getting to my next chapter. Just taking it slow, enjoying each step, but getting there. How about you? Where are you going? What lessons have you learned on your way to getting there?
Life Lessons 10 Life Lessons From Maleficent Movie 10:02 AM Have you ever wondered why villains are the way they are? Only when I got older did I realize people aren’t born evil. Something pushed them. Someone hurt them. Hurt people hurt people. And that has been made clearer with my favorite Disney villain’s story. So here are the ten life lessons from the Maleficent movie and the realizations I learned. 10 Life Lessons Learned from Maleficent Movie1. Forgiveness sets you free.When we close the chapter that has long been over, a new story starts to unravel. Don’t wait for the person who hurt you to apologize before you forgive them. By then, it may be too late. Decide to forgive now for your peace of mind.Forgive yourself for allowing that person to walk through your mind with their dirty feet.Stop hanging on to the past because it’s already done.Stop beating yourself up for what happened in the previous chapter of your life when the part of that story is already over.Choose to forgive and set yourself free.2. We choose the life we want.There’s evil in this world, but it has no power over you unless you allow it to. Every day, you make a choice. Mocha or latte.Save or spend.Choose food that heals or food that harms.Spread kindness or hatred.Respond or react.Find a way or find an excuse.Smile or frown.Love or indifference.It’s up to you.What are you choosing today? It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities. - JK Rowling3. What goes around comes around.Kindness begets kindness. Hate begets hate. No matter how hard you try to be kind to everyone, sometimes, someone will repay it with hostility.It may be tempting to give your haters a taste of their own medicine, but that will not heal your wound.The best revenge is success. Nothing kills your enemy more than seeing you happy and prosperous. Sit back. Relax. And let karma do her job.4. Master yourself. It’s normal to be angry when you’re hurt. It is a healthy response.It’s never okay to live with the pain and let your anger control you.Tame that angry beast inside you. Or else...You will drive the people around you away.You will have sleepless nights.You will get sick.Anger steals joy and peace.It will make you miserable. You could end up like the people who hurt you.Allow yourself to be angry. Embrace the pain. And then, let it go. (I’ve learned this one from Tuesdays with Morrie).5. Create your own happiness.Don’t make another person your source of happiness. Make your own sunshine.Choose to be happy. Stop holding on to what causes you misery or stress.Life becomes easier if you free yourself from the tt that are weighing you down. You open yourself up to better options and opportunities.6. Greed destroys. Negative and toxic feelings will eventually swallow you if you allow them.Greed will destroy you. King Stefan, in the movie, wanted more. His insatiable hunger for worldly things destroyed his family and drove him to madness. It eventually led to his death.7. Hurting people hurt people. Misery loves company. People who are wounded tend to wound others. They are screaming for help and desperate for healing but don’t know what to do. They feel empty. Their words are like knives.They are challenging to be around. They will drain your energy.You will never speak to talk more than yourself in your head. Be kind to yourself.8. Know the story behind the story. I used to think that Maleficent was born evil. Who would curse a baby?I never asked why she did what she did. What drove her to become this evil?I’ve realized that, as adults, we understand the villain more. Heck, sometimes we can even relate to them.When you meet a toxic person, do you judge them immediately to them, or do you through them right away?9. Teamwork is essential.We all need a reliable backup to accomplish our goals. A team of people to cheer us on or simply support us.We need friends who believe in us and see our potential---even when we doubt ourselves. We need friends who will point out the wrong in us. But will never walk away.Who is on your team?10. The power of wordsWords can build and destroy life. Be careful with what you say. Once spoken, you can’t take them back.How powerful are words? Dr. Masaru Emoto’s experiment showed that words can affect and change the molecular structure of water.And that’s only water. Imagine the effect of words on a person.Bonus lesson: never mess with a woman with red lipstick. 🤣 Realizations about Maleficent: Whpotenteficent?Maleficent is the most powerful fairy who lives in the Moors, a magical forest realm bordering a human kingdom. She fell in love with her first and only human friend Stefan. Stefan’s ambition and desire for power drove him to betray Maleficent, leaving her heartbroken and hateful. 1. Maleficent represents every one of us. Maleficent was born good. She believed in the goodness of men before she was betrayed. She did not hurt anyone. The concept of betrayal was foreign to her. This left her lost and wrathful. She wallowed in her pain and hatred. She shut the world out and became vindictive. I’ve read stories like this. About villains who used to be good. Until something awful happened to them. For Maleficent, it was losing faith both in love and in humanity. It was the betrayal that pushed her to be vengeful and curse the life of her perpetrator. Hurting people tend to do outrageous and illogical things. 2. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Maleficent had a choice like all f us. She lets her emotions control her or master her feelings and control her. It’s not easy to stay calm when you’ve given yourself only to be taken advantage of. 3. Life has a twisted sense of humor. What she despised and was obsessed with turned out to be why she changed. This is another proof that behind every burden is a blessing. In every trial, there lies a treasure. Final WordsI love knowing the other side of the story. The movie Maleficent is a perfect 5 for me. Have you seen Maleficent? What life lessons have you learned from it? Image and Gifs from GiphyThis post contains affiliate links. Meaning I get a commission if you purchase through my links at no additional cost to you. This helps me maintain my site. Thank you for your support!
Faith Life Lessons From A Bumblebee: Fly Anyway 1:00 PM When people tell you your wings are too small, flap them and fly anyway. Life Lessons From A Bumblebee: Fly Anyway They say that the bumblebee is not supposed to fly. It is not physically capable of flying. The bumblebee's wing size is not big enough to support its body and make flying possible. Experts argue. Science keeps on proving facts and debunking myths. But, the bumblebee in all its glory flies anyway. Flapping its plain and feeble looking tiny wings and reaching heights experts used to believe it will never reach, the bumblebee defies physics and flies on. Despite what the naysayers, doubters, critics and the pros say, the bumblebee minds its own business; flying triumphantly, hopping from one lovely flower to another, sucking sweet nectar, playing its part in the beautiful circle of life, making the world a little more colorful by defying the odds. The bumblebee does what everyone else says it couldn't and shouldn't do. Because the bumblebee couldn't care less about what others think. Well, they couldn't hear or understand science but you get the picture. I could--for the lack of a better word---be jealous of the bumblebee. How I wish I couldn't hear or understand what the "experts" say about what I can and cannot do. I could be reaching heights I never thought I could. I could be doing things I never thought I'd be able to do. I could be accomplishing incredible things. But, no. I listen to people who plant doubt in my heart. "Yeah, right. That's the dream. Dream on." "Who told you you can? Look at yourself." "You're too dumb for that." Bumblebee, you don't know how lucky you are! Here's the good news for us who are not as lucky as the bumblebee: it's never too late! It's okay to start over. It is never too late to be what you might have been (George Eliot). I can still do what the bumblebee does; fly even though people tell me I can't. I'll pursue my purpose. I'll be an essential part of the circle of life, making the world a little more beautiful with what I do. It's time to heed the lesson the bumblebee has been teaching us since it flapped its wings from day one and showed the critics how wrong they were. Who are the "experts" in your life? Who are those people who tell you "you can't do it"? Your parents Maybe they are your parents who belittle your dreams. Sometimes they don't mean it. They maybe trying to protect you from heartache and disappointments. They just don't know how to say it right. You have to understand that they might have gotten this from their parents too. Look at the culture they grew up in. Consider the condition and situation where they were raised. Your teacher Maybe it's your teacher who told you you're not good enough or you're slow. You're not alone. In 1895, Albert Einstein’s teacher told his father: “It doesn’t matter what he does, he will never amount to anything.” Einstein, like the bumblebee didn't listen to that expert and flapped his wings and flew anyway. Do you know who that teacher was? I bet you don't. But, who hasn't heard of Einstein's name? He put a dent in this world. 😉 Your boss Maybe your boss told you that you will never be successful. If you look up to that person as he's an expert in your field, you may believe him. But his opinion does not define you. He's just as human and imperfect as you are. Continue to learn, improve and train. It's good to be self-aware. Know your limitations. Know what you need to develop. Get better every day. All the experts were once newbies. Maybe once in their lives they also wanted to fly but someone cut their wings off. Trolls You maybe pouring your heart out and spending hours of your precious time writing an article, creating videos, finishing your arts, and then a troll saw it and tell you the most hurtful comments you've heard. These are noises. They are definitely not experts and not worth giving your time. Hurting people hurt people. It is sad but that's the reality. Where are your wings? What are you good at? What is the one thing that you really want to do? Flap your tiny wings. Make do of whatever little it is that you have. What are your gifts? Your talent, your skills, your creativity, your wit, the passion in your heart---they are all that you need to bring you places. Of course, you need to fuel them with faith. Know if your dreams are really yours and not those of others for you. They maybe little for the doubters' and naysayers' eyes, and in the years of listening to them, their size may have shrunk in your eyes too. Use them anyway. What if David saw his weapon the way onlookers saw it? "That's all you have? A sling and five stones? They're good for fending off animals and protecting your sheep. But they're no match to this mighty giant. Get real! Go back to being a shepherd." They wouldn't have defeated the Philistines. If he changed his weapon to a sword, he might have not won. Because those were not his "wings". David may look like a loser to soldiers but he did what he's good at...and eventually became a king. Whose wings are you using? Is that really what you want and not what your parents wish you would do? Is it really what you expect to do and not what society dictates you? Do you want to do it because everybody's doing it and you're scared to be the odd one out? If you're about to give in to peer pressure, remember these words from Rick Warren: Those who follow the crowd usually get lost in it. Flap your plain and feeble looking tiny wings. Prove the doubters wrong. More importantly, prove it to yourself. For you are your own worst critic. It's hard to shake off the negativity if it's inside your head 24/7. Change the movie playing in your head. In reality, you are the only one stopping you from reaching your dreams. The critics' words are just words. It's up to you if you will let it become your reality. The bumblebee did not let science define his destiny. He let his heart direct him. Just be. Just do. Just fly. Defy the odds. Like that little bumblebee, ignore what they say and fly anyway.
Life Lessons I Choose To Be Happy And 7 Beautiful Choosing Happiness Quotes 5:32 PM I Choose To Be Happy Disappointments are inevitable. Misery is optional. -Joel Osteen I choose to be happy. As Alice Morse Earle said, "Every day may not be good... but there's something good in every day." I choose to be happy. That comes from someone who has been chummy with Loneliness for quite a long time. This is a choice made by a girl who grew up thinking she'll never be enough. I chose to be happy even when my heart was broken to a million pieces again and again. I chose to be happy even when I failed in investments more than I could count. I choose to be happy even when some days are gloomy and some nights are long.I choose to be happy even when I feel empty. It's so easy to fall into misery. You try to be loyal, but there will be a person---a family member, a friend, or the one you're in a relationship with---who will betray your trust and destroy you. It's painful. It's okay to be angry for a time. That's part of healing. What you can feel, you can heal. Grieve. Be furious. Cry. And then learn to let go. We heal at our own pace. What's important is that you choose happiness over bitterness.If you want to keep happy memories forever, custom stickers are the best gifts for yourself. You can stick them anywhere and be in good spirits. Custom stickers with any words, shapes, materials, and colors are available for you! Why should you choose to be happy?It's not right to punish yourself for someone's mistakes. It's not fair to suffer the consequences of their choices. It's not wise to drag yourself down to their level of misery. Sometimes you work hard for your goals, but you see that it's given to someone undeserving. When this happens, choose to be happy still. Maybe the door for that opportunity closed because there's another one waiting. Something better. Can you choose to be happy?Yes. Always choose to be happy because the world is full of wondrous things, endless opportunities, and boundless possibilities.You can't miss them just because you're too busy looking down. Too defeated to look up and see the beauty around you. I chose to be happy because it's the most selfless, generous, liberating, and kindest gift I could give myself. I chose to be happy because it's a wise decision to make I chose to be happy because I know I deserve no less. Happiness is a choice. I am happy because I choose to be. How about you? What are you choosing today? 7 Beautiful Quotes About Choosing Happiness1. Life is going by. Don't waste a minute being negative, offended, or bitter. Choose to be happy. - Joel Osteen2. When you get up in the morning, you have two choices - either to be happy or to be unhappy. - Norman Vincent Peale3. Very little is needed to make a happy life. - Marcus Aurelius4. Happiness already exists in your life. All you need to do is tune into it. And you can start doing that right now. - Anthon St. Maarten5. The joy we feel has little to do with the circumstances of our lives and everything to do with the focus of our lives. -Russell M. Nelson6. It’s so important to realize that every time you get upset, it drains your emotional energy. Losing your cool makes you tired. Getting angry a lot messes with your health. - Joyce Meyer7. I can choose either to be a victim of the world or an adventurer in search of treasure. It’s all a question of how I view my life. - Paulo Coelho
For Moms You Deserve Whatever Makes You Happy 10:29 PM As a mom, you always put the needs of every family member ahead of your own. You work full time, take your children to sports and orchestra practice and still find time to keep your home neat and tidy and prepare healthy meals. While you are a super mom and a fantastic spouse, you also have needs too. Spending time on yourself by doing things that make you happy is just as important and will prevent you from developing feelings of resentment. You Deserve Whatever Makes You Happy Beauty Care Enduring lots of stress throughout the week can reveal itself on your face and leave you looking pale and old. At the end of the day, you are tired. However, it's important to keep up with a daily beauty regimen to maintain healthy skin. Using a gentle cleanser to keep your pores unclogged and a light moisturizer to keep your skin hydrated with allow you to wake up each day with soft supple skin that looks and feels terrific. Make Changes Most people have some part of their body that they would like to change. If, for example, you inherited the large family nose that dominates your face, and without it, you would feel much more attractive, then make the change. For instance, if you live in the Los Angeles area, dollars to doughnuts, a quick search will turn up a board-certified doctor in Beverly Hills who specializes in these types of beauty procedure. Feel Energized As a mother, you often feel tired midday from all the responsibilities that occupy your mind. The good news is that you can restore your energy rather quickly and without the need of consuming extra calories. Exercise of any sort, especially when it gets your blood pumping and accelerates the heart, releases endorphins that automatically give you a happy, almost euphoric feeling throughout your body. Suddenly the worries of the day exit and you have renewed energy. When this happens at work, leave the office for a few minutes and take a brisk walk. It will benefit you greatly. Take up a New Hobby Let's face it, the kids have their things to do; your spouse has his things of interest, so what about you? It's time to find something that interests you. Maybe you want to grow a flower garden, or take up painting or ceramics. Or, even possibly you want to get back into reading. The point is to do something that makes you happy. Date Night Out Moms often do everything for their children first and, without notice, leave their spouse to fend for themselves. This is not intentional, of course. If your love life is slowly losing its luster, it's time to remember that you were part of a couple first, long before you had children. A way to show that your loved one matters is to have a date night out away from the home once a month. It will give each of you a chance to reconnect and have some adult fun. Meditation De-stressing and keeping your body calm is important to sustaining good health. A great way to prevent a breakdown is to take a few minutes each day to meditate. Meditation allows you to connect the body and mind together as one, shutting out the world and all its confusion. A Restful Night's Sleep With thoughts racing through your mind as you lay your head on the pillow, you may experience nights where sleep is not achievable. Thankfully, there are ways to bring your mind to a state of calm naturally. Taking a hot bath with lavender or chamomile oils and playing soft music in the background will put you at ease and allow you to quickly fall asleep. You are a mother and a wife and you take your job seriously. However, you are also a human being with needs. If you learn to take care of you, then you will be able to better tend to your family without resentment.
Life Lessons Loving Yourself Starts With Loving The Needy 7:00 PM We live in a world where many counselors, psychologists, and other advisers advocate for self-love. There are countless sayings that state how you need to love yourself first before you can love someone else. ‘Self-love first’ has become like a gospel truth that the majority of people have come to believe. Is there some truth in the self-love gospel? Maybe not. There can be a very thin line between self-love and selfishness. Loving the needy and giving to a charity such as Yad Ezra can help you love yourself more. Putting others first in a prudent way could be the key to more self-love and heightened self-esteem. You may be wondering, 'how does helping others make me love myself?' Here is how; Loving Yourself Starts With Loving The Needy Loving the needy gives you a sense of purpose A common denominator for people who love themselves is that they know their purpose in life. When you are clear about what you are supposed to be doing with your life, you develop self-esteem. Most people with suicidal thoughts and those who are envious of others struggle with a lack of purpose. Such people end up hating and questioning their very existence. Giving gives your life meaning. When you make a difference in the life of a needy person, you feel better about yourself, and you will, in turn, love yourself more. Draws love to your life Loving others brings more love your way because people love generous people. That said; give wisely to keep others from taking advantage of you. Human beings are social beings. We need to be around others to feel love and warmth. Rejection from people could cause you to think less of yourself. When you are surrounded by love and receive gratitude and admiration from the people you have helped, you begin to see your value. Such recognition raises your self-esteem. Build stronger social connections Everybody loves to be part of a group, to fit into a particular click. When you associate with the needy, you will make friends with them and with other people who are donating to charity. Being in the right social circle where people respect and appreciate you also makes you appreciate yourself. Feeling that you belong and that people accept you increases self-love. Do unto others what you would have them do to you If you were in a needy situation, how would you want someone else to treat you? with kindness, compassion, and empathy? Of course. Helping others shows that you value yourself because when you are in need, you would also expect others to help you. When you love others, nature will respond when you call for help in your time of need. Loving and helping the needy is an invaluable gift of love that you give yourself. When you give, you feel better about yourself. People around you will admire and respect you and will want to be around you. As a result, your self-confidence and self-esteem will increase.
How-To 6 Helpful Steps To Heal & Recover From A Breakup 11:51 AM You invest time, feelings, and a lot of yourself in a relationship. That's why breakups are never easy. It can affect your mental and physical health. As you grab a fresh box of tissue to wipe your tears, you wonder if you'd ever recover from that agonizing, heart-wrenching, soul-crushing breakup.The answer is yes. You can move on.How to get over a breakup? When the love of your life broke up with you and walked out the door, you might feel like it's the end of the world.It's not.Breakups may be distressing but there are helpful steps to heal properly, recover fully, and find your happiness again. As a bonus, you might even find new love.Here are 6 helpful steps you can take to heal and recover from a breakup. 6 Helpful Steps to Heal & Recover from a Breakup 1. Work on yourselfSometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake & help us see we are worth so much more than we're settling for. -Mandy HaleGet physical.One of the best ways to heal and get over a breakup is to take care of and work on yourself. Now that you're single again, this may be a good time to get into shape.Sweat it out.You can try a new career like becoming a personal trainer by taking courses through OriGym Glasgow. Practice yoga meditation. It can help you to not only stay fit but also clear your mind from the bad memories of the breakup.Eat right.It may be tempting to drown your sorrows in wine - or ice cream - after a breakup. Don't!Your food can affect your mood. Stay away from food that can cause depression and have more of what can lift your spirit. Check out the list here.Drink up delicious and healthy smoothies that can help increase your energy.Breakups can be draining. You need your strength back.Learn and try something new.There are hundreds of skills you can learn online...for free.Even Ivy League universities and big-time companies like Google offer free online courses with certification.Get a new hobby.Read a different book genre.Visit an animal shelter and volunteer. You might end up going home with a soulmate that will never break up with you.With the limitless information from the internet and your determination to heal, you can learn anything. You can do anything you set your heart into.Don't let the pain of the breakup break your spirit. Use it as a motivation not only to improve your health but to also improve the quality of your life. 2. Talk about your feelingsInstead of fighting the darkness, bring in the light.Round up your support team!Find people you can trust and those who will not judge you.Surround yourself with those who are willing to listen, who will lift you higher, and allow you to heal at your own pace.You can recover from a breakup faster when you share and open up to a friend.It helps unburden the heavy load you carry.Your friends may have gone through the same thing before. Their insights about their own breakup experience can help enlighten you.You need empathy, comfort, assurance, affirmation, and a warm hug.You need someone who can talk sense into you.Because breakups can leave you illogical and senseless.Who can better provide you with these things but a true friend? Talking about your feelings makes them more real. It's like bringing the darkness you carry into the light.The earlier you acknowledge the reality that it's over, the sooner you can take the next step to recovery. 3. Go on vacation aloneWe travel not to escape life, but for life not to escape us.Take a break from crying and from your pity party.Leave your breakup woes behind.Go on vacation!Enjoy your independence but be a smart traveler.Try local delicacies.Spend reflecting and working through your feelings. Take your mind off negative thoughts by filling your eyes with breathtaking views. Get over a breakup by getting out of the door and going on a much-needed vacation. 4. Journal your feelings There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you. -Maya AngelouWrite down your feelings in a journal.What's on your mind?A lot of things will be running through your head after the breakup.What did I do wrong?Am I not enough?Can we still work it out?Is it really over?Breakups can drive you crazy.Organize your thoughts by writing them down.Write about your future plans.What do you want in a relationship?Specify what your non-negotiables are in a partner. The book Write It Down, Make It Happen by Henriette Klauser tells us how writing down our thoughts and desires can be a powerful force in getting what we want in life.It's like ordering from the universe and waiting for it to deliver your request.Blessing made especially for you. With a little extra on the side. Compliments of the chef.When I was single, I also wrote down the things I want for my spouse. I married the man I asked for. And more!Let your breakup bring out your creativity.Allow your breakup to open your eyes to your worth and raise your standards.Believe in the power of written words. 5. Have fun with your friends The best days of your life may just be the days you spent aimlessly with your friends. - How I Met Your MotherNot only do you need your friends to wipe your tears after a breakup.You also need them to make you laugh again.Enjoy a girls' night out.Try a hobby together or go on vacation with them.Stay in and stream movies online. To heal and recover from a breakup, it's good to remember that you're not alone.There are people out there cheering you on.Your heart may be broken now but that doesn't mean you can't have fun. 6. Start dating again Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished. - Lau TzuWhen you’re ready, start to date again after you heal and recover from a breakup. There's no rule as to how long you should wait to meet new people.Start dating when you know you're up for it. Don't force yourself.Don't date just because you've heard that your ex is going out with someone.Or that you want to speed up the process of recovery.Dating around while still getting over your breakup will not heal you. It will just make things complicated.Respect other people's time and feelings.Most of all, respect your emotions.Trust the process.No need to hurry because there are hundreds of online dating sites and apps to choose from. Final word on healing and recovery from a breakupEven when you feel like you've already found the one, relationships are uncertain. You may end up at the altar with your partner...or alone in your bed crying your eyes out for weeks.Breakups are inevitable. But heartbreaks aren't forever.Consider it a lesson not a failure on your part. Focus on the good things that you got from the relationship. Trust that there’s someone better out there for you.But also don't be scared of being single. There are many good and cool things about going solo.These helpful steps can help you truly heal from the pain and recover from that messy breakup.I'm rooting for you. Because you deserve to be happy again.
