Single Life Dear Future Husband 8:00 PM We will make a beautiful harmony together through the different notes that we play. The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 30: Write a letter to your future mate saying whatever you want to say Dear Future Husband, It is a long, dragging journey but I learned to enjoy every step of the way; thinking that every day is one step closer to the day we will meet. God is preparing me to be the best that I can be because He's prepared His best for me too: a royalty for His little princess. I know you're not going to be perfect just as imperfect as I am. But, we are perfectly imperfect for each other, and that's what makes it beautiful. We will make a beautiful harmony together through the different notes that we play. I will not promise to give you everything you want, but I will serve you with everything that I have. I am doing really well now, I feel like I could stay like this forever. But, the day you would come is a big big bonus from up above. I complete me, but you would complement me. Thanks for adding accent to my already colorful life. You are the blueberry to my cheesecake. The sprinkles to my ice cream. It's not an easy journey. People criticize me for my choices, question and laugh at my standards. I trip, I fall, I got lost somehow, thinking I've already found you. But, it was nothing but another fraud---a toad pretending to be you. I am glad God meddled in before I sunk deep into that mess. I am learning everything I could, I am enjoying every moment, so that when you finally come I will have lots of stories and lessons to share with you. I am whole and you won't have to fix me. Because in the first place, that's not your job. Your job is to love me. When I've reached the end of the line of my single-hood, I know you'll be there waiting for me. Everything falls in their proper place at His right time, just as He designed the seasons to change at the right moment. We just need to be more patient because He is never late nor early. His timing is always perfect. Dear future husband, I know you're out there. Also wondering, also waiting for that day to come. I can only be excited for that day. As for now, learn all you can. Explore the world. Don't be afraid to take risks. Make mistakes. Enjoy each day. Know that every day you face, each step you take is also a step closer to me. I'll see you when I see you. XOXO, Your future wife Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Single Life Are There Health Risks Associated With Being Single? 8:00 PM Health Risks Associated With Being Single Is there a link between health and relationships? Yes, but with a lot of disclaimers. While a trend exists between your health and whether or not you are married or single, it’s not always true. Still, broadly speaking, the scale of better health and well-being tips in favor of married people. With that said, finding a partner simply to improve health is not the answer. Instead, look for love and take proactive steps to keep the negative health effects of single life from undermining your health. Here are some ways being single can affect your health for better or worse: How Being Single Affects Your Health for the Worse 1. Mental Health You are more likely to suffer from common neurosis like anxiety and depression because of a sense of isolation. You may feel lonely and vulnerable when you have nobody to talk to about your personal problems, chores, money. In worse case scenarios, single men and women are more likely to suffer from substance abuse issues as well as heart problems. You can get more information here about how alcohol, substance, or prescription drug abuse begins with self-medicating for underlying psychological issues. As a single person, you may also be stigmatized as someone who is lonely and unhappy. This can lower self-esteem and create depression, especially if family and friends are constantly trying to persuade you to develop a relationship. Mental health issues can also affect couples who are in a miserable relationship. However, couples who get along well with each other and less likely to feel overwhelmed by life’s challenges as they have someone who can help them navigate a personal crisis. 2. Financial pressures. On average, single people with regular jobs face more financial challenges than a two-income household who can share expenses. Worrying about how to make ends meet or how to overcome a financial emergency can be a source of tremendous stress and anxiety for a single person. Financial issues affect couples who live beyond their means. If more money is going out than coming in, then the benefits of two people bringing in more money into the house is nullified. In this case, there may be more arguments about money management. 3. Recovery from serious illnesses. When a single person has to be hospitalized for an illness, they may not get the care they need after they return home. They are especially at risk for poor recovery if they have had surgery. Even if family or friends try to help through frequent visitation, the single person may still have to do many things on their own unless someone moves in until they recover. By contrast, a married person will have family around them to carry the burden of household chores and to provide them with companionship and nursing assistance. How Being Single Affects Your Health for the Better 1. Better weight management. Married couples tend to be less concerned about maintaining their ideal body weight than single people. Since they are no longer under any kind of pressure to attract a new mate, they are less likely to be concerned about their appearance. A study by the National Institute of Health (NIH) explains why married people tend to gain more weight than single people: “Marriage involves social role obligations, which may influence body weight through their effects on dietary intake. Newly cohabiting partners share kitchens and meals, which encourages them to eat more regular and more elaborate meals than they had done prior to their relationship, facilitates their snacking, involves their sharing meals with each other’s communal circles, and often produces dietary convergence. Dietary changes such as these may affect partners’ caloric intakes and body weights.” 2. Single people exercise more. You’re more likely to exercise regularly if you are single and show a greater interest in eating properly and following a healthy lifestyle. Even married couples who don’t have children are likely to exercise less. Trends, Not Facts It’s important to keep in mind that these are trends, not necessarily incontrovertible facts. While there have been many studies done on the health difference between single and married people, these are based on surveys and statistical data. In truth, there are too many variables in personalities and relationships to be able to come up with any conclusive results. This article was made possible by site supporter Jenna B. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Single Life Valentine’s Dream Date 8:00 AM The day most dreaded by the single people is here---Valentine's Day! Kidding. I'm single, but I'm not threatened nor do I get depressed with Valentine's Day. There are lots of fun things to do. But if I were to choose what my Valentine's dream date is, it would be anywhere with Zac Efron. Tumblr If I were to be more realistic though, it would be a romantic (and sumptuous!) dinner for two with a breathtaking view. Valentine’s Dream Date By the beach The relaxing sound of the waves splashing, the cool breeze of the air against my skin, the comforting scent of salt and sand, the breathtaking backdrop of sunset...oh, heaven! Under the stars There's something magical and profound about looking up at the stars. Those balls of fire from afar brings out the poet in anyone. Plus, it's fun to search for your favorite constellations with your beloved. The Aurora Borealis experience Who wouldn't want to see the spectacular northern lights? It's breathtaking, awe-inspiring, and definitely romantic. Staycation No need to leave the comfort of home to enjoy a special Valentine's Day date. Stay at home, cook a special dinner together, or order for delivery and just enjoy the moment with each other. Play your favorite board game, watch your favorite movies or shows, listen to great music and dance the night away. Choices are endless when you're on staycation. Your view when on staycation? It's good to have a view of the city (or town), or your garden, or a burning fireplace with crackling sound of fire in the background. Cheers to life! Cityscape For those who are working in the concrete jungle who can't afford to go out of town due to their hectic schedules, the view of the city at night is a wonderful alternative. To be away from the city below and to still feel connected to everything around you is solace. Whether out for an adventure or staying at home, it's all romantic, fun, and memorable when spent with your significant other. There are many options for dates, but my ultimate Valentine's dream date is that with a scenic view. It's important to preserve and remember special moments like romantic times with your partner, so choose how to document it properly. Use something reliable to take and store the photos. It would be lovely to look back years from now and see how wonderful your Valentine's that was. And remember: As long as you're gazing at your beloved's eyes, the view is perfect. What's your Valentine's dream date? Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Faith The Gift Of Emptiness 9:00 AM I thank God for my gift of emptiness. Emptiness is like a gift wrapped haphazardly by the Giver in a nondescript wrapper. You wouldn't know how beautiful it is until you've opened it. If it wasn't for that hungry pang for something better, I wouldn't have striven harder. If it wasn't for that emptiness, I wouldn't have been desperate to search for an answer. I would have been complacent. I might have been living contentedly with "just enough". Your emptiness can do stupendous things in your life. The Gift Of Emptiness My emptiness did these incredible things in my life: My emptiness gave me the drive to learn something new; to keep on growing, to keep on searching for ways that will make my life better. My emptiness made me rethink my decisions and enabled me to see things more clearly. It made me recognize the distractions, and made me focus on the more important things. My emptiness taught me that the world can confuse us about what matters most. Because the world is made of people just as imperfect, flawed and empty as we are. In time, we will understand what is essential and what is superficial. My emptiness made me empathetic. It made me see the emptiness in others too. It made me kinder. My emptiness created a space that made me ready and open to receive more. Thankfully, my emptiness did not drive me to desperation and accept whatever it is that's available just so I can say I have something to call my own. On the contrary, it taught me to never settle for less than what I truly deserve. My emptiness and weakness made me believe more in the power and strength of God at work in my life. I did not understand it at first and it was difficult. It is hard to keep believing you'll be okay when you can't see the end. But I held on. And I'm glad I did. Indeed, God remains faithful even when we are not. My emptiness made me excited for the great plans that are yet to be revealed. My emptiness helped me appreciate the little things. A simple message asking how I’m doing, a listening ear, a portion of someone’s time, God's quiet presence, a random act of kindness, beautiful songs, glorious mornings---these are great blessings not everyone get to experience. All these things which I used to take for granted, I now treasure. My emptiness made me desire to seek the Source that will fill me up and will never leave me thirsty again. Embrace your emptiness and know that it is only a phase---a beautiful phase that can do surprisingly marvelous things the way only emptiness can. Receive and cherish the gift of emptiness. It is an essential part of growing. It is a place you need to go through to get to your destiny. Shared this article on The Praying Woman
Single Life This Happy Single Asks 12:00 AM Never compare your beginning to someone else's middle. Sometimes, this happy single asks: What's out there? Who's out there for me? Is this all there is for me? Sometimes, this happy single asks one too many times it seems: When's my time? Is it tomorrow? Is it next week? How much longer do I have to wait? Some nights are colder. Longer. More cruel. People could be ruthless; laughing at her life choices, making her feel she's not good enough. So sometimes, this happy single asks: when is it going to stop? But there are days---many, many days when her faith prevails and her hope is renewed. So this happy single asks with excitement: What's he like? Have I already met him? (God forbid!) What would that day be like? Is it going to be just another ordinary day and destiny will sneak up on me? Or will I be swept off my feet like in the books or movies? Yes, sometimes her imagination runs wild. But, that's the beauty of being single. You have a blank canvas. You can paint your future the way you want to. She's honestly, genuinely happy for her peers getting hitched or starting a family of their own. She celebrates their milestones with joy. Yet, sometimes this happy single still asks: How about me? Is this all what life has in store? Maybe it's normal to be curious, to be anxious of the unknown and the uncertain. And maybe it's okay to get tired of waiting sometimes. Maybe one day she'll find the answers to all her questions. Maybe just for some. Maybe still, she may never find out. That's alright, she thinks. For to each his own. You can't compare your beginning to someone else's middle. Tweet Now, that's what she knows for certain. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Single Life 17 Reasons Why I'm Still Single 12:00 AM Single is no longer a lack of options – but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day Happily and let your Ever After work itself out. -Mandy Hale The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Your response to everyone’s favorite question: “And why are YOU still single?” While everyone my age are getting married, having a baby or are seriously dating, I am still single. Now, don't get me wrong. It's not like I made a pact with myself that I will never marry or date ever again. Falling in love, being chased, going out on a date are things I'm sure every woman love to experience. They're affirming, flattering and makes you feel, well...feminine. But, I choose to be single NOW. Here's why: 17 Reasons Why I'm Still Single I now know my worth. After all I went through---broken relationships, shattered dreams, broken trust, heartbreak after heartbreak, I've finally realized and accepted that I am special and that I deserve so much better than I thought I did. I used to accept anyone who offers me love and sweet promises. I used to believe I deserve to be treated the way I was treated before; taken for granted, second priority, lied to, used, not valued. Not anymore. I am still single because I believe I deserve more. I love my own company. I enjoy my company so much I don't need a man to entertain me, make me happy or keep me company. I can eat out alone, watch a movie alone (or with my friends) and I revel in my Me Time. I am still single because I love spending time with myself that being alone doesn't bother me. Self-rediscovery. I've rediscovered myself after losing myself to someone, and I love what I've found. A stronger and better version, an amazing treasure, apple of God's eye. I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I refuse to be influenced and dictated by the society. Everyone around me; family members, friends are all concerned about my relationship status. They're all out looking for someone to "hook me up" with. I don't want to believe that there's an unwritten law that once you hit your middle 20's or early 30's, you are supposed to settle down and start a family of your own. I am still single because I don't want to give in to peer pressure, because I don't want to follow a silly rule people made up and everyone wants to impose to everyone. I am finally at peace with myself. Because for the longest time, I've been trying to figure out where I'm supposed to be, I've been trying to reach other people's expectations and I've been searching, chasing, hustling for something I don't even know what. Now, I am at peace knowing that I'm in the right track. I am exactly where my heart wants me to be. I'm piecing myself back together. I have been broken, and now that I'm putting back the pieces together, I've learned to embrace the present, the people I'm with, the experience and the lessons. I've embraced life more. I'm making the most of all the time in my hands. I know this won't last, I will sooner or later find my better half (in God's time). Now more than ever is the best time to spend serving, catching up and being with the people who matter to me. The best time for traveling or trying out something new; which leads me to the next reason. Probably my favorite among the 17 reasons why I'm still single. Freeedooom!!! I love the freedom that comes with being unattached. I can drop whatever I'm doing, pack my things and go out of town, head to the movies, or have a cup of tea with someone at a moment's notice. One text or call from a friend and I'm on my way to where the fun is. No one to ask permission to, no one to stop me, no dates to cancel, no compromises, no hassle. Trust issues. Somewhere somehow I got broken, devastated, destroyed and honestly, I still have some trust issues. I try so hard to shake the doubts off and give humanity another chance. I'm still a work in progress. Love tank's filling up. I am still filling up my love tank and I don't want to selfishly drain another person just to fill up mine. Respect for myself and for others. I don't want to play with other people's feelings, because I have enough respect for their time and because I don't want to waste my own time on something I know I'm not serious with anyway. I want people to respect my time so I respect theirs the same way. No chasing. I don't want to chase after something or someone not real or not worth the chase. Preparation. I've kissed enough frogs in the past that I want to give my next kiss to my prince. Waiting. I choose to wait patiently for the right time for the right person with the right love. Boldness. I am bold enough to take the road less traveled. I complete me. And as Mandy Hale puts it, I am still single because I am "too fabulous to settle".
Single Life This One's For You 5:32 AM I know that you're tired of waiting. And you may have to wait a little while more, but she's on her way. And she's getting here as fast as she can. -How I Met Your Mother If you've been hurting, wondering and wandering...this one's for you: Sometimes your days are longer, your nights colder, your battles a bit tougher than you let on. And that's alright. Some days it's hard to get up, it's a struggle to get out the door and it's a challenge to look and act normal when you're crumbling inside. No one sees your tears. No one feels your pain. No one else knows your story except for a selected few you trust. There are times when you feel like nothing good will ever happen as you lay in bed and dread to face another harsh day, when you have to receive yet again words of discouragement and mockery from those who know nothing of your battle, when you have to again strive to find and hold on to battered hope. Another day drags on as you wait for your prayers to be answered. The world can be cruel to someone different---someone like you. I know there are days when you want to give up the fight. When you consider changing plans, when you want so much to abandon the path less traveled and walk with the rest of the crowd despite knowing what is right. At least, you think, "I'll be one of them, I won't be alone, I won't be talked about or laughed at." "Maybe", you tell yourself, "it's less lonely if I walk with them." Not knowing that the world is actually more lost than you are. Yet here you are, still standing, stronger than you thought you were. Yes, you may have stumbled. Yes, your knees may buckle from time to time. Yes, you may be wounded and bruised. But, here you are. I couldn't be prouder. Hang on tighter. Hold your head higher. You are not alone. You have been chosen to do a much difficult task because you have shown exemplary strength and courage. Because you're set apart. Because you're one of the best. This road to the unknown, this could be rather fun and exciting if you just shut your ears from the cruel world and focus on the Voice of Truth, telling you how beautiful and loved you truly are. I know it's hard to believe this right now, but trust that there's something special and beautiful and magnificent waiting for you if you just keep on keeping on. Something you haven't read or seen anywhere else. Something beyond your comprehension, exceeding your wildest imagination. Don't walk with your head bowed low in defeat. Look up and see the beauty around. I tell you, that's nothing compared to what is waiting for you. In time you'll see. If you still doubt yourself, this one's for you. I hope you believe it. If you like this blog post about life and love, please share the article using the social media buttons below or on the left. Thanks!
Listicle 5 Types Of People Not To Fall In Love With 11:05 PM As if on a conveyor belt, there will be a never ending supply of idiots and jerks that come and go in your life. Whether you stop the belt to dance with any one of them is up to you. -Dan Pearce How many times have we given our all and not get anything in return? How many times have we fallen in love with the wrong person? We know they're not good for us, but we can't avoid them. Or we choose not to listen to that inner voice and the concerned voices around us. Then we get hurt or wonder what we did wrong when we knew the answer all along: We fell in love with the wrong person. It's as simple as that. So the next time cupid comes along and aims his arrow at you, duck. Or at least delay it until you're sure. Until you're sure that he's not aiming for the 5 types of people not to fall in love with. 5 Types Of People Not To Fall In Love With Impatient person They will not wait for you. They will not tolerate the pressure that distance or time or a little difficulty along the way would bring. They won't wait for things to be okay. Don't fall in love with an impatient person. They won't stay. All-words-no-action type A dreamer who stays stuck in his dreams and illusions and never want to face reality. A person who lives in his world and forgets where he really is. Don't fall in love with a dreamer who doesn't act. You'll never be able to bring him out of his own world. Someone who doesn't listen Listening is the most basic sign and highest form of respect. If your opinion doesn't matter to him, so does all of you. You are relevant. What you think is important. If he can't see that, being with him is pointless. Too dependent on you It does not have to be financial. If he takes too much of your time, drains you, depends on you to make him feel better or guide him in every step he takes, don't let yourself fall. You'll end up empty. He'll suck you dry. Unbeliever He'll always doubt, he'll always have something to complain about. Don't fall in love with the unbeliever. He'll never see the light no matter how much you try to point it to him. And it's not true that he doesn't have a god. He is his own god. Don't just fall. I know the feeling is exhilarating, but is it really worth the pain and the mess you'll have to deal with afterwards? Gifs from Google images Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Single Life I Am No Damsel In Distress 6:30 AM The only thing we single ladies need to be rescued from is the notion that we need to be rescued. -Mandy Hale Let me share the article I've written for Thought Catalog a year ago. I am no damsel in distress. After a guy friend read my previous post Good Men Still Exist, he pointed out one line which he said is the problem with women: "There are still knights in shining armor out there." Most women wait for their prince charming to come and rescue them from their miserable single life and offer them happily ever after. I repeat, most women. Not all. Only those (women or men) who are not happy with their lives need rescuing. The truth is, the only person who can bring you out of your misery is yourself. No fairy godmother or magic spell can transform your pumpkin into a golden carriage. I know that I hold the power and that I have the last say as to how my ending will be. As Mandy Hale often reminds the single, “Design a life so amazing that you don’t want to be rescued from it.” Tweet When you are enjoying life, finding happiness in all that you do and in all the places you visit, you invite people to join you in your journey. You don’t make them take pity on you and help you out of your misery. When you’re on top of the world, only those who are bold and courageous enough will make the effort to be with you. Only the secure and the mature will appreciate you. You become a challenge. You will discourage the complacent and the weak. You will make the insecure envious. Thus, expect a number of admirers and a few haters. You unknowingly repel toxic people. That’s a bonus! I don’t want to be that poor naive princess who sits around (or sleeps) in her castle all day, waiting for a prince to swing by and hopefully get a glimpse of her, and finally set her free from her “prison tower”. I’d rather be out there, fighting for my kingdom, resisting evil stepmothers or witches or whomever is trying to steal my happiness, protecting my people, seeing the world in all it’s majesty---getting a life. I am no damsel in distress. I am not impressed by your shining armor. I can fight my own battles. You don’t have to rescue me, sweetheart, but you’re welcome to join me in my kingdom anytime. First, show me your battle scars and tell me your war story. You might be just another frog who needs rescuing. In which case, you picked the wrong princess. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Single Life The One Who Got Away 9:53 PM Of all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these, 'It might have been'. -John Greenleaf Whittier How often do you think about the one who got away? I always say, I'd rather be the one who got away than the one who let go and forever live in regrets. It will be torture! Things don't always end up the way we want them to and there's nothing we can do but accept it. Let go and move on so they say. I don't know about you, but sometimes I still find myself wondering about the what ifs. What if I tried again? What if I believed the story, accepted the apology and gave it another chance? What if I stretched my patience a little bit more? What if I tried to understand more? What if I fought harder? What if I didn't give up? I'll never know. I guess it will always stay that way. I guess it's better to stay that way. I know that once in our lives, we meet someone we thought we'd spend our happily ever after with before life took over and changed everything: The plans we carefully made for our future with this person ended. Reality cut like a knife and woke us up from our beautiful dreams, forcing us to go back to the real world and deal with the pain that we thought would never stop. Maybe for another person, you are the one who got away. I believe it's part of the plan; to meet someone whose memories we'll forever cherish but whom we NEED to let go. It's not my kind of plan too, but what can we do? Life's a bitch. A friend of a friend posted this on Facebook (we don't know who the author is) and it's too good not to share. It speaks a lot about the one who got away---something most people can relate to. We Know Memes We all have someone that got away. For all of us, here's one good read: The One Who Got Away (Author Unknown) In your life, you’ll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special and ones who will always mean something. There’s the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you’re with...and the one who got away. Who is the one who got away? I guess it’s that person with whom everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person nor flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't fall the right way, I suppose. I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance. How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you’re not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn't matter who you’re with, it just doesn’t work. Small problems become big; inconsequential become deal breakers simply because you’re not ready and it shows. It’s not that you and the person you’re with are no good; it’s just that it’s not yet right, and little things become the flash point of that fact. Then one day you’re ready. You really are. And when this happens you’ll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work because it’s the right time and you’ll make it work. And it’ll make sense, it really will. So that day comes when you’re finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want and you've become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there’s no telling when this day will come. Hopefully, you’re single or be in a long-term relationship, or be married with three kids…it doesn't matter. All you know is that you have changed. And for some reason, the one who got away, is the first person you think about. You’ll think about them because you’ll wonder, “What if they were here today?” , “What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?” The one who got away is– the biggest “What if?” you’ll have in your life. If you’re married, you’ll just have to accept the fact that the one who got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you’re mature enough to realize that you’re already with the one you’re with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you’ll think about him/her every so often, but it’s alright. It’s never nice to live with a “might have been,” but it happens. Maybe the one who got away is the one who’s already married. In which case it’s the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you’re old and gray and reminiscing. But if neither of that is the case, then it’s different. What do you do if it’s not yet too late? Simple –find him or find her. The very existence of the “one that got away” means that you’ll always wonder…what if you got that one? Ask him out to coffee. Ask her out to a movie. It doesn't matter if you’ve dropped in from out of nowhere. You’d be surprised, you just might be “the one who got away” as well for the person who is your “the one who got away.” You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won’t make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it’ll all just fall into place somehow. It would be a great feeling in the end, to be able to say to someone, “Hey you, you’re the one who almost got away.” Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Single Life This Single Is Ready To Mingle 10:30 PM Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time. -Maya Angelou This single is ready to mingle. That didn't sound fabulous, did it? I felt douchey and juvenile saying that. But before you judge me, know my story: I have been single for a long time now. It was a choice I deliberately made. I allowed myself to feel ALL the emotions that bitter ending brought. Grief, disappointment, frustration, pain of betrayal, confusion, unforgiveness, grudge, angst, wrath, denial, depression, and what-have-yous were my constant companions. You see, I believe that all people were born good. So everyone for me deserves a chance. It's disappointing and frustrating to be yet again proven wrong. What's left to believe in? I closed my door to everyone who tried to woo me. I thought I would be unfair to them. I wanted to heal myself completely first. All throughout that roller coaster of emotions, I was battling to forgive. Difficult is an understatement. Imagine feeling vindictive while telling yourself, "I want to forgive. This is not me; angry, bitter, unforgiving. I want to be me again; happy, optimistic, hopeful. So today, I decide to forgive," at the same time? It got kind of bipolar-ish for a while there. My emotions was the tale of the two wolves for some time. But it was so difficult because as much as I wanted to feed the good wolf, the evil wolf was quicker and stronger. Most of the time, I lost the battle and succumbed to the evil one. I allowed it to consume me. It was becoming a cycle. But the stubborn kid in me won't allow one heartbreak to destroy my entire life. That was not who I was born to be. I deserve more than that. It got easier through time. Or maybe I just got stronger. Either way, I learned to love myself in the truest sense. I allowed myself to be happy again. I helped myself. Because let's face it. No matter how many books you read, no matter how wise the advice you receive from people, if you won't help yourself, no one else would. So I smartened up. I shifted the energy and attention I spent unleashing anger into fulfilling activities. I tried new things that I never thought I would dare do. I spent more time with the people who value and appreciate me, drinking up all the love they offer to fill up my emptying love tank. I allowed myself to be angry with God because I felt He did not protect me enough. Then again, it was not His decision in the first place. It was my recklessness which I so shamelessly blame on Him. I came to my senses and made my peace with Him. After all the blaming, the questioning and the hating, guess what He did? He didn't even make me take all the steps towards Him. He ran towards me when He saw me approaching. He embraced me. No questions, no reprimanding, no "I told you so". He accepted me back and loved me as if I have never sinned. He is a prodigal Father. I got so busy being happy again. I got preoccupied thinking, planning and acting to show my love to myself. I am terribly at peace with myself and with everything that's happening around me I forgot that I must share this love and this beautiful life with someone. Sure, there is no need for that if I am already okay with how my life is turning out. But somehow, I feel a nudge, a pull towards this path again. I feel like I have to continue the quest of finding the elusive one---the one. I think I've given myself more than enough room to breathe, to grow and to bounce back. I think my love tank is full enough that I won't be putting myself and the other person's life in misery by acting like a selfish, hungry, demanding toddler. I feel like I'm whole enough and ready to share my wholeness with another whole person. Because I believe that a happy relationship is made of two happy individuals, not by two miserable souls seeking for someone to make them happy. I don't know what surprises this year holds for me. I have plans but I know that God's plans will still prevail. I'm wise enough now to accept it whatever it will be because never had I proven that my plans are better than His. I'm putting everything on His caring hands as I step out the doors I once closed...single and ready to mingle. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Single Life 15 Real And Honest Moments I Wish I Was Not Single 1:54 AM “Why haven't I got a husband and children?" mused Greta Garbo to the Dutchess of Windsor, "I never met a man I could marry.” Here's a confession: there are moments I wish I was not single. Sure most days I revel in my glorious single life. But there are moments when I wish I was so NOT single. From really serious to downright trivial moments, sometimes I wish there's someone with me. 15 Real And Honest Moments I Wish I Was Not Single 1. When I have to carry my laundry bag to and from the laundry shop because it didn't reach the minimum kilo requirement to avail the free pick-up and delivery service. They're heavy! And I have a back problem. 2. When I'm really exhausted that even going to the spa to get a massage is tedious...but my body's aching I really want a massage and couldn't find a home service stat. 3. When I'm too lazy to run some errands. I wish I have a personal assistant. 4. When I buy too much that I need someone to carry my shopping bags. 5. When I went to the hardware and bought Venetian blinds for the first time. Clueless moment. 6. When I tried installing the Venetian blinds myself and everything, uhm...fell and disintegrated. I was so frustrated I almost cried. True story. 7. When I couldn't unscrew anything or loosen a tight cover. I have a strong and brave heart, but the skeletal muscle is another story. 8. When I'm sick, but have to get up and buy myself medicine and prepare me some nutritious meal so I can recover quick. 9. When I feel a little lousy because of PMS, and there's no one to reassure me I'm okay or at least someone I could unleash the hormonal monster inside with. Because like he has no choice but be a punching bag every month, but not hold a grudge against me because he knows it's just the hormones talking. Ladies of course knows what that means. 10. When my back really hurts but I need to go somewhere, and I don't want to leave the house without my essentials. Even when I try to remove a few things, the bag still feels heavy. Back problem is no petty thing. 11. When I have to travel alone and I feel paranoid and vulnerable. 12. When I want to watch a movie and all my friends are not available and I'm not in the mood to watch it alone. 13. When I need to share something too personal to share with friends or family. Or petty things even friends and family will find too trivial. I know a significant other wouldn't mind. 14. When I need some minor repair around the house that I am clueless with. Google has become a consistent boyfriend for the past few years. Only that he does the dictating while I do the doing. That is the exact opposite with a real life boyfriend. 15. When I'm being a scaredy-cat and it's too inconvenient or too late to call someone to sleep over or at least keep me company. 15 trivial yet valid and simple real life first hand experiences when I couldn't stop wishing I have someone at the moment. At those moments. If married couples have their "I wish I was single" moments, singles have their "I wish I have someone with" moments too. I am in a state where I can look you in the eye and tell you honestly and sincerely that I am absolutely genuinely happy being single. In fact, I'm getting too comfortable it's a little alarming. Human as I am though, I still have moments when I wish to fill the emptiness in me. Normal emotional single and hormonal moments though, not despairing desperate and suicidal ones. Thank God. These moments make me realize a few things: That PMS really sucks. That the desire to have my own family and raise champion kids is still very much alive in me. That I am still normal! That I need people in my life. That every human indeed has an emptiness in their hearts that no amount of earthly treasure can satisfy. That the cliche, 'all we need is love' is true. That I can't live without God. You know what? That moment passes, and I'm okay again. Back to my normal happy single and comfortable life. Like nothing happened. Christ indeed is enough for me. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
