Listicle 10 Things You'll Only Understand If You're A Woman 11:00 AM 10 Things You'll Only Understand If You're A Woman I'm a woman of the desert. But above all, I'm a woman.-Paulo Coelho How hard is it to be a woman in this patriarchal society?Are women just making a big fuss out of it because they like drama?Do women really love drama in the first place?Women make it look effortless to be a female in a male-dominated world.But there are things you'll never understand if you're not a woman yourself. 1. The physical transformation from a girl to a grown womanThe shift from a little girl to full-blown womanhood is beautiful but physically painful at the same time. Your breasts become sore and sensitive. You deal with the unfamiliar and torturous pain of dysmenorrhea or menstrual cramps.The physical transformation can make you feel clumsy. The psychological change makes you awkward.Welcome to womanhood! Something you'll never understand if you're not a natural-born woman. Giphy 2. The vulnerability that comes with being a woman No matter how brave you are, a woman's physical strength is no match for men. There are some exemptions, of course, but generally speaking, men are still stronger physically.As a woman, you're an easy target for an assault.If you're not a woman, you won't understand what it's like to be a walking sexual object. You'll only understand the vulnerability of being a woman if you're one. Giphy 3. Dealing with the annoying and scary catcalling Sometimes catcalling can be easily ignored and are harmless. But it can also get abusive, offensive, and scary. Catcalling is not about how you look or how skimpy your dress is. It's because you're a woman, and some men are disrespectful, seeing women as sexual objects more than human beings. You could be all wrapped up and still be catcalled. Because it's not you. It's them.Only a woman who has had to deal with catcalling, probably since she was 11, will understand how terrible it is to be on the receiving end of jeering. Giphy 4. The pain of menstrual cramps, pregnancy, labor pain, and actual birth-giving.Oh, the excruciating period pain a woman has to deal with. Every. Single. Month.As your uterus contracts, you feel sharp poking pain and tightening around your lower abdomen.But it doesn't end there.No, gentlemen. It's more complex.You also feel soreness in your breast and around your hip and lower back.Your legs feel as though you ran miles for hours and back again.As a bonus, you'll even get a splitting headache sometimes.You're in a constant ruthless circle of pain.Doctors acknowledge period pain can be almost as bad as a heart attack.A heart attack!And the world expects you to keep going like nothing's happening.Because women can.They carry on as if everything's normal.Women make being a woman easy even when many things happen in their bodies simultaneously.Like you're being tortured, you feel murderous, but you have to keep that sweet smile on your face. And let's not forget that giving birth is life-threatening. There's a 50/50 chance that a mother will not survive.Only a natural-born woman can understand the pain and discomfort of menstrual cramps, pregnancy, labor pain, and actual birth-giving.This post contains affiliate links, so we'd get a commission if you purchase through the links at no additional cost. Giphy Here's a fun reaction from Joshua Caldwell-Clarke when he found out about period pain. 5. The crazy hormonal change only a woman goes through. PMS (Premenstrual Syndrome) is a heartless bitch. And from what I've heard, so is menopause. Know how postpartum severe depression could get?Some lead to suicide.When a woman experiences hormonal change, the term mood swings don't give it justice.Your hormones are going crazy, and no lessons about the human anatomy can prepare you for the onslaught of irritability, sudden sadness, and sensitivity.Sometimes you just feel like crying for no apparent reason.There's also this weird craving for something so badly, often during the middle of the night, but not knowing what that something is. Giphy 6. The uncanny intuition of a woman. It's been planted in every woman's DNA to sense danger fast for her to protect her child. It comes in handy for other instances too. FBI should hire more female investigators. They can unearth secrets better. According to a study, women generally access their memories faster than males and date them more precisely.A woman can tell something's wrong even without clear evidence. Yet.A woman would remember what you said on March 19, 2001, at exactly 11:27 am. 😏From experience, a woman's intuition has never been wrong. Giphy 7. The stereotyping and labels that are given to women. If a man dates around, he's cool. He's suave. If a woman dates random guys, she's a slut. If a man stays single, he's an eligible bachelor. So he becomes a prize women should compete for. People are excited to know if he'll settle down anytime soon. If a woman is still single in her 30s, she will become a lonely, desperate spinster for the rest of her life. People pity or make fun of her. Where a man is called driven and assertive, a woman is too ambitious and bossy. Where a man is applauded for speaking his mind, a woman is called a bitch and a know-it-all.You'll never understand why women must fight harder to break the stereotype unless you're a woman too.Tenor 8. Gender discrimination and the need to fight for equality Even in our progressive society, some women are still paid less than their male counterparts.This is sad since studies show that female-led companies perform better.Meryl Streep said, "I was offered three witches [roles] when I turned 40 - in one year. And I thought: 'Oh, this is how it's gonna go?'"It seems the world thinks women are less bankable than men, especially as they age, so they deserve lesser pay.Gender discrimination is everywhere and has been around since time immemorial. Women have been underestimated, overruled, pushed aside, and pushed around for a long time.If you're a woman, you'll only understand the struggle and the need to fight for equal rights. 9. The joy and beauty of carrying and giving birth.I think women are foolish to pretend they are equal to men. They are far superior and always have been. Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater. If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby. - William GoldingFrom conception to childbirth, a woman's body does not stop growing a miracle in her womb---a beautiful baby.According to studies, residual fetal cells stay in the mother's body after giving birth. So her children will always be a part of her. Literally.And you'll never understand childbearing and childbirth unless you have a uterus. Tenor 10. The unique qualities only a real woman is privileged to possess.Are women better than men?Indeed there are many ways where men excel, and they deserve to be celebrated and honored.But women also possess qualities that are unique only to them.Here are 20 things women do more and better than men.If you don't have the xx chromosomes, you don't and can't have them.Giphy All these beautiful and not-so-pleasant things a biological woman goes through and possesses are precisely what makes her what she is. Being a woman is more than what meets the eye. It's more than physical. To become a woman, you need more than a makeover or a sex transplant. Just because you grow breasts, wear a dress, put on some makeup, and identify as a woman, doesn't make you one. You'll never know or understand what being a woman really is unless you were born as one.
People This World Was Not Ready For Michael Jackson 9:00 AM I'm feeling like God brought him here, gave him to us, and God took him back. This world was not ready for it. -Jermaine Jackson A Michael Jackson fan thinking out loud: This World Was Not Ready For Michael Jackson We are all put on earth for a purpose, for a mission. Some of us spend our whole lives looking for it, some don't even care what their mission is. They don't search their soul. Content on living day after day on autopilot, walking around like zombies. Some people are blessed enough to have the clarity and vision of what they are here for at an early age. Michael Jackson is one of those blessed few who has always known his purpose. That is, to share to the world the union with the divine which he claims he gets in his music, to share his talent, to spread happiness and love to everyone, especially to those who need it the most. It's a shame that those who couldn't figure out what their lives are about or what their purpose in life is, made him the target of their empty lives. They tried to suck out all the energy he had. They tried to steal from him the light that he saw which they couldn't have. I think more than anything else, it's envy. They couldn't handle the thought of someone as great as Michael Jackson walking on earth with them while they go around figuring things out, frustrated. They didn't know how to deal with this phenomenal being with clarity and passion, with a quiet powerful force in him. They couldn't handle it. They hated that Michael Jackson reminded them of their emptiness and mediocrity. And I'm sorry that an innocent man like Michael Jackson had to suffer their uncontrollable, senseless, childish, miserable act of envy; despite him giving the world his all, his best, his life. Sad. See also: Ramblings Of A Neophyte Michael Jackson Fan 5 Reasons To Love Michael Jackson Photos from Google images. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Lux Thinking Aloud #Blessed And Not Bragging 8:00 AM You don't see the world as it is; you see it as you are.-Krishna Saagar They say #blessed is the new way to brag. Humble bragging, they call it. I don't get it. Since when did knowing, believing, claiming, and declaring that you are blessed become bragging? Here's my take on the #blessed. Believe and declare At The Feast, we are encouraged to dream big. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me (Philippians 4:13). Because we are blessed. We learn to focus on the good things in life and see them as blessings.We practice declaring we are blessed every day, no matter what the situation is. We are reminded to always have a grateful heart. Part of the Feast's Declaration of Abundance says: Today, I proclaim that I'm God's Beloved, I'm God's Servant, I'm God's powerful champion. And because I am blessed, I am blessing the world. In Jesus' Name, Amen. I don't see anything wrong with declaring that beautiful truth. If you believe you are blessed and want to use that blessing to bless others, that's a winner's mindset. Everyone will benefit from it. "Faith Words aren't just mere positive affirmations; they open your life up to the supernatural power of God." (Bo Sanchez). Giphy Crab mentalityThe term "crab mentality" refers to a mindset that can be summarized as "if I'm not able to have it, then neither are you." Can't we be genuinely happy for others and allow their story to inspire us instead? Envy kills. Giphy Choose what you propagate. If you can spread rumors, trash-talk the government, cancel a celebrity or someone you hate, or share disturbing viral photos and videos, why can't you spread positivity? In the world today, when you feel crappy or angry, you can vent out so easily. People like it when you air your dirty laundry. But when you post feel-good words or photos, you are a hypocrite, a liar, or a bragger. Sharing motivational quotes or heartwarming stories can make another person's day. Sharing your blessings has always been a good thing. I don't see any reason why we should stop now. Tenor There's no pleasing everybody.There will always be those who are quick to find fault in everything. If there is none, they will make something up. Not everyone will be happy for you. Not everyone will celebrate with you. And that's okay. Unsubscribe From Other People's Drama. Giphy Sad reality It's sad when you think about it. That the world does not believe in blessings anymore. For many, the concept of being blessed seems hard to process, accept and understand. That to be blessed looks too good to be true. Are we really that far from believing the truth? Giphy Sharing the good is false and prideful, while rumors, scandals, and bad news spread like wildfire and amuse and entertain the public. The truth that you are blessed is implied and written throughout the Bible. Regardless of your religion, is it really that hard to believe that it is possible to live a blessed life? What's your take on #blessed? Do you think that people who use that hashtag are merely bragging?
Lux Thinking Aloud Dance In The Rain 9:00 AM Dance In The Rain We have to work hard; we have to work smart We need to invest our money and save it...we need to start We've got to deal with heartbreaks; we have to feel the pain When all we really need to do is to dance in the rain. I know growing old is inevitable, but do we really need to grow up? What’s wrong with being a child inside? It’s not like we'll get stuck. We just have to hold on to that innocence and sense of wonder and not be afraid to fail, We must not let go of that magic we get when we dance in the rain. We need to see the world in the purest, most uncomplicated way Stop the unnecessary war, end this greedy, selfish play All these innocent lives taken, homes broken, and the world destroyed What is there really to gain? Stop this world destruction now; let’s dance in the rain. If we only learn to love like a child (or a dog!), no buts, no ifs, Only honesty, kindness, and truth leave our lips Then we can all live in prosperity and harmony, no one will complain Maybe we can all run under the sun or dance in the rain. When was the last time you danced in the rain?
Lux Thinking Aloud Dogs Are Family, Not Food 12:15 AM Dogs will lay down their lives for a friend. If you have the power to help change the world and save lives, wouldn't you? It's just a click away (links below). Dogs are family, not food. Dogs are the best things to ever happen to mankind. The loyalty of dogs is incomparable. If you've never had a pet dog (but why?!) you're missing so much. No other creature can ever love a human so purely, so unconditionally and so faithfully the way a dog does. One of our dogs one time literally threw himself in front of other dogs and fought bravely, leaving him a scar just to be sure I pass without getting harmed or bitten. And that's only one incident that these furry friends demonstrated their loyalty. I grew up with dogs around me. I can't imagine life without dogs. I can't imagine people stealing them from their families, cram them in a cage too small for them, hurt them in ways unimaginable, killing them brutally, i.e. skinning and burning them alive to eat their meat! It's atrocious. It's horrible. If you think, I'm exaggerating, Google Yulin Festival. That's EXACTLY what they do! I can't even bring myself to look at the pictures of these poor dogs. I wanted to post them here just to show you how serious the situation is but I can't. It's heartbreaking. I don't and will never understand the "fun" and satisfaction people get that they even made an annual festival out of this monstrosity. I ask you dear reader to please participate and help stop this festivity held on June 21-23. It's no festival! It's barbarism. If you could please spread the word on your social media, please use these hashtags: #StopYulin2015 #StopYulinFestival #StopYulinForever #NoToDogMeat #ItsNoFestival Please sign the petitions before it's too late: Change.org Care2 Petitions Human Society International Animalasia Forcechange Petitioncongress Thank you very, very, VERY much. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Rants Questions Of A Hopelessly Delusional Person 8:00 AM I love mankind ... it's people I can't stand! - Charles M. Schulz Questions Of A Hopelessly Delusional Person If caring too much about the world is a disorder and hoping it will get better soon is a delusion, then I must be hopelessly delusional. Can you help me and answer these questions running through my head constantly? Is it too much to ask for a gossip-free world? Where people don't talk about other people like their experts about their lives and just celebrate one another instead? So, where can we talk about ideas for improving our lives and making the world a better place to live in? Can we not stop trolling around and keep our filthy mouths shut if we've got nothing nice to say? Can we not be kinder since we've all been through the bad times and know how hard it is to deal with? Can we stop projecting our frustrations and insecurities toward others by criticizing them, facing monsters, and conquering our own mountains instead? Can we not be more brilliant and choose our battle? Walk away from people and fights that are not worth our time and effort? Can we not meddle in or, better yet, start unnecessary and irrelevant dramas? Should we not wisely use the limited and precious 24 hours given to us in a day? Is it not better, holier, wiser, and more self-fulfilling to focus and grow on our own faith instead of criticizing and looking for other people's shortcomings and loopholes in what they believe in? Will it make us look more right or righteous if we point out their faults? Don't we point to our insecurities and flaws when we do that? Will it make us feel superior if we rub their wrongs on their faces? How does highlighting and revealing another person's weaknesses and mistakes improve you? Will it put us on a pedestal if we keep stepping on other people's toes? Condescending does not make you a better person. It only makes you look pathetic. If we accept their flaws and correct them lovingly instead of judging and looking down on someone, wouldn't we be doing the world a big favor? How does making another person's life miserable make yours better? How sick are we? These questions have been bugging me since I started going out in the "real" world. Am I too idealistic or simply delusional to think we can still change? That there is hope for mankind? That we can still make the world a better place for everyone? My heart goes out to the world. I'm desperate to know.
Lux Thinking Aloud I'm Taking Charge 5:33 PM We are not creatures of circumstance; we are creators of our own circumstances. -Benjamin Disraeli I'm taking charge. I have allowed circumstances to dictate my life for a long time. I have let myself get away with making excuses and blaming others. I have let myself suffer from other people's wrong decisions and shortcomings. Not anymore. I have decided that I have had enough. No more excuses. I'm not taking any bullshit anymore. I will not let obstacles intimidate and discourage me from getting the life I have always wanted. I will use them as my stepping stones instead. I will not wallow in self-pity. It's normal to get hurt, to grieve for a while, to rest. But quitting is not an option. Everybody gets hurt. Everyone has had their fair share of betrayal, abuse, heartache, and failures. Those are all parts of growing and living. But all those are temporary. They are not the end of my story. I refuse to accept them as the end of my story. That's why I'm taking charge. I will not let a lack of knowledge or experience about certain things kill my dreams. No more blaming. Yes, some people in my life should have treated me better, should have known better than use and abuse my kindness and generosity. They should not have dragged me into their mess. But what good does it do to keep on pointing fingers? Upon reflection, I realize that I have contributed to the situation, no matter how small. I have cooperated. If I didn't, things would have been different. I have let myself get pushed around by life. It's time to push back. I refuse to get stuck. I'm taking charge.
Rants The One Who Got Away 9:53 PM There’s the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you’re with, and the one who got away. How often do you think about the one that got away? I always say I'd rather be the one who got away than the one who let go and forever lives in regrets. Things don't always end up the way we want them to, and there's nothing we can do but accept it. Let go and move on, so they say. I don't know about you, but sometimes I still find myself wondering about the what-ifs. What if I tried again? What if I believed the story, accepted the apology, and gave it another chance? What if I stretched my patience a little bit more? What if I tried to understand more? What if we fought harder for each other? What if I didn't give up? I'll never know. I guess it will always stay that way. I think it's better to stay that way. I know that once in our lives, we meet someone we thought we'd spend our happily ever after with before life took over and changed everything. The plans we carefully made for our future with this person ended. Reality cut like a knife and woke us from our beautiful dreams, forcing us to return to the real world and deal with the pain we thought would never stop. Maybe for another person, you are the one who got away. I believe it's part of the plan; to meet someone whose memories we'll forever cherish but whom we NEED to let go of. It's not my kind of plan, but what can we do? Life's a bitch. A friend of a friend posted this on Facebook (we don't know who the author is), and it's too good not to share. It speaks a lot about the one who got away---something most people can relate to.Everyone has their own Robin. We Know Memes We all have someone that got away. For all of us, here's one good read: The One Who Got Away(Author Unknown) In your life, you’ll make a note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special and ones who will always mean something. There’s the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you’re with...and the one who got away. Who is the one who got away? I guess it’s that person with whom everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. I suppose there was no fault in the person nor flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't fall the right way. I believe in the fact that ending up with someone and finding a longtime partner, that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance. How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you’re not ready to commit maturely, it doesn't matter who you’re with. It just doesn’t work. Small problems become big; inconsequential ones become deal breakers simply because you’re not ready, and it shows. It’s not that you and the person you’re with are no good; it’s just that it’s not yet right, and little things become the flash point of that fact. Then one day, you’re ready. You really are. And when this happens, you’ll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, or they or she might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work because it’s the right time, and you’ll make it work. And it’ll make sense. It really will. So that day comes when you’re finally making sense of things, and you find yourself different. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and you've become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there’s no telling when this day will come. Hopefully, you’re single, in a long-term relationship, or married with three kids…it doesn't matter. All you know is that you have changed. And for some reason, the one who got away is the first person you think about. You’ll think about them because you’ll wonder, “What if they were here today?” “What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?” The one who got away is– the biggest “What if?” you’ll have in your life. If you’re married, you’ll just have to accept the fact that the one who got away got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us.But hopefully, you’re mature enough to realize that you’re already with the one you’re with, and this is just another test of your commitment, which will strengthen your marriage when you get past it. You’ll think about him/her occasionally, but it’s alright. It’s never nice to live with a “might have been,” but it happens. Maybe the one who got away is the one who’s already married. In which case, it’s the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips when you’re old and gray and reminiscing. But if neither of that is the case, then it’s different. What do you do if it’s not yet too late? Simple –find him or find her. The existence of the “one that got away” means that you’ll always wonder…what if you got that one? Ask him out to coffee. Ask her out to a movie. It doesn't matter if you’ve dropped in from out of nowhere. You’d be surprised. You just might be “the one who got away” as well for the person who is your “the one who got away.” You might drop in from nowhere, which won’t make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it’ll fall into place somehow. It would be a great feeling, in the end, to be able to say to someone, “Hey you, you’re the one who almost got away.” Is there someone in your life who got away?
Lux Thinking Aloud Hello, Loneliness! 5:48 PM It is in our loneliest that God speaks the loudest. -Mandy Hale Hello, Loneliness! It's been a while, huh? What brings you here? I didn't miss you. I didn't call for you. What on earth are you here for? Me? Oh, I have been very busy, no all thanks to you. You see, in my attempts to forget you and push you away, I kept myself busy. In trying to find your enemy Joy, I kept myself occupied with fun things.GiphyI've been out there...Meeting friends...Serving others...Hustling...Planting my seeds...Resting only when I have done enough or when I am too tired to go on. I am now living my dream.It's like walking out in the field just as David did, with only a sling in his hand to face Goliath. It is scary! Not gonna lie.But I know that if I fight you hard enough, there's something wonderful and fulfilling waiting for me in the end.I know I'm not just doing this for myself but for those who need to know they're not alone on their journey. That God has a message for them too. When I remember these, the fear of being ridiculed, the fear of failing, the fear of not being good enough... they all become insignificant.I mean, who would've thought a stone and a sling would be enough to defeat a giant feared by many?I bet Fear belongs to your family too. It keeps trying to stop me. Gives me serious impostor syndrome and limiting beliefs.TenorI've been doing great in your absence, Loneliness. Why did you come back? Why are you reminding me again of what I have lost? Nagging me of the could-have-been and what-ifs? Why are you making me question my decisions when I have seen time and again that I did the right thing?I gotta give it to you.You've come back stronger. You bid your time, didn't you?And you've been an epidemic for the longest time.But my dear Loneliness, you can't keep me down for a long time. You will never win this fight. I have accepted my mistakes. I have forgiven those who hurt me. I have forgiven myself. I have learned to enjoy my solitude. I have found myself because of you. I've known myself better. I have discovered my strength when you tried to beat me. I have learned to live with the pain and find happiness even in your presence.In your strongest sting, I have felt God's voice encouraging me to keep going. I have felt God's love snatching me from your evil clutches.As you emptied me, taking all that I have, I have learned that Christ is enough. So although I have you to thank for the many beautiful things that are happening in my life right now, here's me slamming the door in your face again.WifflegifHello Loneliness, my old friend. It's never good to see you. Goodbye and please never come back. You're not welcome here. Watch this video to help you get rid of loneliness:This post contains affiliate links so I'd get a commission if you purchase through my links at no additional cost to you. This helps me maintain my site. Thanks in advance!
Rants Ramblings: It's One Of Those Days 3:07 PM If it's not making me productive, happy, or feel good, I don't have time for it. It's one of those days when I try with all my willpower to remember that difficult people deserve my kindness and understanding more than anyone else. It's when I try to remember the lessons I've learned from listening to inspirational talks and reading good stuff. It's when I have to look past and play deaf to people begging for attention. Like toddlers having tantrums trapped in an adult's body. It's when observing people, which I often do turns meh. It's when people look down on other people just because they sin differently from them. It's when people act righteous and self-important, focusing on other people's speck in the eye when they have a log in their own. When I have to ask myself again: why do people dish it out if they can't take it? Some are just plain one-sided. It's when character is put to the test, at which most undoubtedly and miserably fail. Once again I have to take a deep breath, and recall the lines: "It's their inner battle. It must be very, very, very hard to be living in their heads." It's when I have to stop myself from retaliating, and remember that some people are just. not. worth. my. emotions. It's when being a Christian is something I would most gladly give up temporarily, but can't. Because, what's the essence of being a Christian when I'm only good with people who are good to me? Even pagans do that, right? But, oh, I said that through gritted teeth. Today is when I question yet again the sincerity of the people around me. Who remains true when you're out of earshot? Why can't we just be consistent? Why do we associate honesty with bitchiness and settle for fake smiles and insincere hellos instead? So, yes, today is also the day I'm reminded why I'd rather be anti-social. Content to be on my own. Shut off from the rest of the world. Shrug and be like, whatever. Because the smiles I see are just as scary as the monsters behind those friendly masks. Because if it's not making me productive, happy, and making me feel good, I don't want to make time for it. Because though I have faith in humanity, some people seems hopeless. Have you had one of those days? See also: Unsubscribe From Other People's Drama
Rants Stop Blaming Religion, The Government, The Weather Or Your Neighbor's Dog For Your Messed Up Life 11:09 PM Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. - Charles R. Swindoll Stop blaming religion, the government, the weather or your neighbor's dog for your messed up life. Yes, the government should be giving us what we deserve from the tax they collect from us every freaking time we receive our salary or spend our money. Yes, the government should not be stealing from us, should be fixing the problem of our country from poverty to education to healthcare to infrastructures. But, the government can't throw our trash for us so as to avoid clogging of drainage which eventually causes flood. I think no matter how well constructed our roads are, if we keep on treating our streets as garbage areas it will always clog. The government can't pass your exams for you. You have to do it. Study. Stop partying, and spending your allowance on drugs and booze until you've got none left to pay for your tuition fee. The government won't make your resume and look for jobs for you. You have to move your lazy ass. The government can't save a portion of your salary for you and invest it to secure your future. If you let your tax end your dreams, then you're doomed. If you didn't sleep because you partied all night, who's fault is it that you feel crappy waking up? Stop blaming religion. It's okay if you don't believe in higher power, that's your choice. No one's questioning your faith, or the lack thereof. But to blame religion for your poverty? For war? For you acne breakout? Are you saying other people's belief is messing up your perfect world? But, your beliefs aren't messing up their lives. They're not blaming you for their tribulations, aren't they? They're taking responsibility. If you expect ONLY the faithful, ONLY the government or ONLY the church leaders/organizations to feed the hungry, shelter the homeless and clothe the naked, isn't it passing the responsibility to others? Aren't you saying "that's your job, not mine. I've got nothing to do with that?" What makes you different from the rest of the world that you're criticizing. What makes you better? I believe peace begins inside all of us. Like happiness, it's an inside job. You can't expect to live in a quiet world, when your inner world is in pandemonium. Because you can't give something you don't have. You can't demand a peaceful workplace when you don't want to live harmoniously with the people around you, when you look for trouble constantly and you love conflict, when it's your hobby to provoke others. You can't demand for a great life if you're living in mediocrity. You can't ask for an abundant future if you don't even have the self-control over your finances. You can't blame the world for your illness if you haven't been taking care of yourself. If you keep on pointing fingers and blaming others for your mishaps, it's like saying your life, your destiny, everything about you is controlled by others. It's like saying you're helpless and you can only improve your life if they will change or improve it for you. It's saying they are responsible for you. You can't change the world, but you can change yourself. You can't control the government, but you can control yourself. It's not the government's, the religion's, the weather's or your neighbor's life to live. It's yours. Why will you let your life be controlled by these external factors? Why will you give them an authority to shape your destiny? Are you that helpless? Life is what YOU make it. Not what the government, the religion, the weather or your neighbor's dog make. Please.Grow some balls and start taking responsibility. Look at where you are contributing to the situation. You can't be that innocent. It takes two to tango. It's your life. Own it.
