Lux Thinking Aloud

I'm Taking Charge

5:33 PM

We are not creatures of circumstance; 
we are creators of circumstance. 
-Benjamin Disraeli


I'm taking charge.

I have allowed circumstances to take charge of my life for a long time.
I have let myself get away with excuses and blaming.
I have let myself suffer from other people's wrong decisions and shortcomings.

Not anymore.

I have decided that I have enough.
No more excuses.

I will not let obstacles intimidate and discourage me from getting the life I have always wanted.

I will use them as my stepping stones instead.
I will not wallow in self-pity. It's normal to get hurt, to grieve for a while, to rest. But, quitting is not an option.

Everybody gets hurt. Everyone has had their fair share of betrayal, abuse, heartaches and failures. Those are all parts of growing and living. But all those are temporary. They are not the end of my story.

I will not let lack of knowledge or experience about certain things kill my dreams.

No more blaming.

Yes, some people in my life should have treated me better, should have known better than use and abuse my kindness and generosity. They should not have dragged me into their mess. But what good does it do to keep on pointing fingers?

If I would really analyze it, I have contributed to the situation no matter how small. I have cooperated. If I didn't, things would have been different.

I have let myself get pushed around by life. It's time to push back.

I refuse to get stuck.

I'm taking charge.


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  1. sounds good. you go girl xoxo

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  2. Life gets even better when we take charge, when we exercise control over the things that we can, and just let go of those we can't. Yeah, push the world around!

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  3. Good for you and now I recommend that you listen "You're Damn Right I Got the Blues". And punch the air as you sing it. :-)

    Greetings from London.

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  4. Good for you, darling!

    xoxox,
    CC

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  5. Oh you are speaking for me too! Your post is just what I need!
    Deb

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  6. That was absolutely inspirational and motivating! You just motivated me to keep fighting in life! Thank you!

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  7. Best wishes dear. Hoping to hear more new things hereafter~

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  8. Such a positive and strong post.. I wish I be at this stage of taking the charge soon.. I am trying to be this way :

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  9. Hi, SuperLux! Thanks for the SDMM tweet, dear friend. In seminars I learned (and later taught) the following adage about dealing with the circumstances of life. I find it inspiring.

    "It's not what happens to you but what you do about it that makes all the difference."

    If you have been kind and generous to people and they have taken advantage of you, betrayed you and dragged you into their mess, then you need to distance yourself from them. If that is not possible then you need to stop cooperating with (enabling) them. Don't give them the power to affect your mood and keep you stuck. Take back the power. Seize control of your life. Grab the rudder of your ship and steer it clear of the reef. You be the driver. Take the wheel of the bus and drive it out of the ditch and onto the open road. You get to decide the type of thoughts that run through your mind. If they are unresourceful thoughts you may replace them with empowering ones. (The word "may" is substituted for "can" in seminar teaching. It is used as an embedded command designed to reach the subconscious and give it permission to change behaviors.) You may find that it is easy to control your thoughts. It's like turning a light switch on and off. With a little practice you will be able to do it at will. Happy motoring!

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  10. Yay!!! Luxy is back people!...I have missed you mami...You know, I wondered what was keeping you away. I am happy you are pushing back mami. We gotta be strong. We can't let life push us to the left and right, we need to push back against the wind. Mami, keep fighting! The troubles of this world was here before we were born. Let's not let it get to us. **big teddy hug** muah!

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  11. That's the spirit, grl! I too think the same way :) keep it up!

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  12. That is exactly where I was on Christmas day in 2014... I made a concious choice to change it and the direction my life was taking.

    I totally agree the people that have hurt us and used us... could not have done that without our permission... I was full of anger over it... I had to let it go. It's not easy, I fail from time to time, I'm human... but I like the path I'm on now, so I stay close to it... I want joy and this path can get me there... Good luck on your path too... ♡

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  13. You sure are on the right path. Totally agreed that we decide what we want and our future.

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  14. This a good read to start the week. Thanks for sharing
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  15. The right way to be indeed. Plus why waste time blaming the people that used and abused and stuff, they sure as hell aren't wasting time on us, so don't give them the satisfaction and live your life.

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  16. Good for you! Now decide on your dream and write it down. Look at it every day, and it will become a part of your life.

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  17. Coucou,
    Tu es très inspirante et j'essaie tous les jours de suivre cette voie ❤(^▿^)

    Bisous et bonne semaine

    Manon

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  18. SuperLux – Great post. May I reply with some old sayings, I’m paraphrasing: 1. In life, it’s not the destination that matters, rather it is the journey. You are clearly moving in the right direction. And 2. The difference between stumbling blocks and stepping stones is how you use them. John

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  19. Good for you! Go be the writer of your own story.

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  20. LOVE this encouragement to start the week off. No matter what other people do to us or circumstances we're handed, how we respond is in our hands and our hands alone.

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  21. Good Morning!
    And good for you!
    I was 40 when I finally decided to take charge of my life.
    And man...does it feel good!
    Have a great day! : )

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  22. Good for you ~ We are in charge of our journey and our decisions ~ Cheers ~

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  23. You go girl. You're spot on here.

    Have a fabulous day. ☺

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  24. Hi SuperLux! What thoughtful posts you have published in the past week! I love the Benjamin Disraeli quote. Good for you for choosing to take charge! It's not easy, but it's worth the struggle. You go!

    I've been knocked down by life a number of times, and I found I could stay flattened or get up and fight my way back. When my first marriage came apart, I thought anything good in my life was over forever ~ at the ripe old age of thirty. What a joke! Wonderful things were waiting for me around the next corner. After about five months of staggering around shell-shocked, I woke up to all the possibilities life held, and started moving forward one step at a time. My mantra became, "Next step, next step." Literally at times. I kept telling myself I had two choices. I could lay down and die or I could fight back. I came through much stronger and with a clear idea of who I was and what I wanted. Hang tough! It's not easy, but taking charge has many rewards.

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  25. Have a nice day! =)

    NEW POST on http://whattostyle.blogspot.com/

    God bless you!
    xoxo,
    Jessica

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  26. This is so inspirational! really hope everything is going well fot you! I might just do this myself! x x

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  27. Good for you, you are very brave! And most of all, good luck!

    Fashionably,
    Patricia
    http://www.wingsforliberty.com/

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  28. That how you do it. Taking change is the first step in getting to that place of happiness. M

    Kreyola Jounerys | Instagram

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  29. You have gotten your head to a very good place! Do not let yourself suffer because of other people. You are better than they are!

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  30. You go girl, take charge & go after what you want :)

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  31. good for you! always better to take charge of your own life:-) x

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  32. Go get 'em! You have the right attitude. You must always look to yourself.

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  33. this post sounds very good
    new post on my blog, i wait you
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    kiss

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  34. Sounds like you are growing up and realizing it is time to leave the drama behind. Time to focus on yourself and surround yourself with like minded people.

    Allie of ALLIE NYC
    allienyc.com

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  35. Hi Lux! This sounds like your own Declaration of Independence. Wow, you sound so strong. I love that! I hope I can be more like you someday. Sounds like you've learned a lot from your past experiences too.
    Blessings
    Ceil

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  36. LOVE this!! So inspiring and I bet you any money that someone out there needed to read this and help them out of a bad situation or what not. I love posts like these, it really helps other people out xx

    http://floralsandsmiles.blogspot.ca/
    twitter.com/floralandsmiles

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  37. Yeah! Love the picture and the post! Keep this awesome attitude! This post is a great reminder to you of how strong you are. Deciding to change and take charge is a great step to take. So happy for you! :)
    ~Jess

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  38. And she's back! I missed you dear. I'm so glad you're taking charge, we'll be here to cheer you on.

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  39. Well done! It takes a strong and courageous person to not give in to the negativity that surrounds us. You're awesome for taking a stand and fighting for your own happiness! It will definitely come to you with the way you are! xxxx

    http://mystery-girl007.blogspot.com/

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  40. Hi doll I nominated you for the Liebster Award

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  41. So true, I can definitely relate to this.

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  42. Sounds really motivating!

    See you xx

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  43. What beautiful, inspiring words :) You encourage me and many others to be more positive! Thank you :)

    Rachel xx
    http://www.thedailyluxe.net

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  44. So motivating, Lux! I wanted to throw pom poms in the air at the end ;). This: "I will use them as my stepping stones instead." YES! We can use things as blocks to stop us or stomp them into stepping stones. Rooting for you!

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  45. Brilliant!
    It really does take a whole lot of courage to take control of your life, to make a stand and refuse to give in to others' negativity.
    Well done you!!! xoxoxo

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  46. I’ve just found your blog and I’d like to say that I’m in love with it!
    I like your posts and photos! Really amazing!
    I’ll be happy to see you in my blog!)

    Diana Cloudlet
    http://www.dianacloudlet.com/

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  47. Awesome, positive post! Go get 'em, girl!

    -Ashley
    Le Stylo Rouge

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  48. This is a great post! I like how this was a declaration to all of us and to yourself that you really are going to be taking charge of your life from now on. All I can say is go out there and do it. No one is better to decide what happens to you than you. And I hope the end result is going to be an amazing one. I am sure it will be ^.^

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  49. Good for you!

    Rocks are not my only joy. I have many. Thanks for coming by.

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  50. I strongly believe in taking charge and not blaming others/destiny/God for not realising our dreams. Awesome post!
    Baci,
    Coco et La vie en rose - Valeria Arizzi

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  51. Such an motivational post! Love your blog!
    I'm your newest follower. :)
    Marie

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  52. that is the spirit...and attitude...
    we can waste a lot of life blaming others for where we are
    when most of it is our effort...and attitude....

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  53. May God bless you with strength and courage to take charge & let no one intimidate you.

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  54. AMEN.... We all need to take charge of our own lives.... Not always easy--but that is what we need to do. Enjoyed this post.
    Hugs,
    Betsy

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  55. i think to be the boss of your mind is very important. Great article!

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  56. I like this!! It's time to take charge of your life, giving up is not an option. Thanks for sharing!!

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  57. Wow! Great post and thanks for sharing.

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  58. We definitely have to be the leading lady of our own lives. Amazing post.

    Kay of Pure & Complex
    www.purecomplex.com

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  59. Lux, I needed to read this post as much as you needed to write it! You go girl! And I'm right there with you, my friend.

    @barbaragareis
    www.facebook.com/barbaragareis
    #bloggercaregroup

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  60. Good for you... my best wishes!!!!
    Kisses, Paola.

    Expressyourself

    My Facebook

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  61. We all have to reach this point at some time in life, I'm glad you are there. It lends a new lease on life. Be encouraged and press on!
    Thanks for linking up for #mondaymotivation

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  62. this is inspiring. thank you.

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  63. Great post. It becomes easier in life as I take do things my way. http://sophialastyles.blogspot.co.uk/

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  64. You go, girl! I am rooting for you. I really appreciate this honest and heartfelt post, it is very inspiring. Thank you so much for sharing. :)

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  65. YOU GO GIRL!!! All the very best! :)
    Even I don't like when things are not in my control... it just irritates me to death!!! I need that independence in every aspect of my life!!!

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  66. great motivation! I will lead my life as well!
    thank you for this post!
    xoxo

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  67. Good for you! Chin up, walk straight ahead! Cheers!

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  68. Well written. Yes quitting is not an option.

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  69. What you said about trees is also true. I too have always wondered, how many lives they've witnessed come and go. If they could speak, we could just sit around a big tree and listen to all that happened.
    Following you.

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  70. This post really hit a cord with folks. Congrats and good luck as you press on with your new resolve. ;)

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  71. great pep talk, and definitely an inspiration to those of us who feel like we've lost control of some aspects of our lives :)

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  72. Thank you very much, very interesting, you have to trust the process! No more guilt. Yup!

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  73. With that attitude, you can only WIN. You go! Yes, it's not what happens to us in life but how we react to it.

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  74. =) I've always said you make your own reality. =) We all need those moments where we wake up and realize we are ultimately powerful for how our lives turn out and that we have the ability to shape them.

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  75. How strong!

    many Hugs from Austria <3

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  76. Such a great post...definitely inspirational! :)

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  77. Good to hear. Self-pitty is terrible, it never leads to anything.

    /Avy

    http://mymotherfuckedmickjagger.blogspot.com

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  78. No more excuses, I have enough...
    SO RIGHT
    Thank you a lot :)))

    xoxo
    www.bellezzefelici.blogspot.com

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  79. A very inspirational, uplifting, positive post ... good for you :)

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  80. Yep I think you're going to make it, me too.

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  81. go girl and change for the better! God bless dear :)

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  82. That is the right attitude. Good luck!

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  83. It sounds good! Good luck!
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  84. great! I hope things work out for you, good for you!
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  85. Great post! I had the same problems but now I know that sometimes we have to change something :) Good luck :)

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  86. Hello greetings and good wishes.

    Excellent quote. This quote reminded me of another quote=====EITHER I WILL FIND A WAY OR MAKE ONE.

    Very positive, very confident thoughts.

    Wish you all the best

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  87. Love your new outlook on life! We all have some kind of hardship in our lives, but I truly believe life is what we make it - and I've learned that leaning on God to help me make that change is all the difference. Praying for you!

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  88. Have a great Weekend sweet Lady! lovely Greets <3

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  89. for sure, self-pity's a death sentence. we've got to walk through what has happened and come out the other end wiser and stronger.

    thank God He takes us there!

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  90. That's a beautiful post! And so important. You are right, we all had our fair share of bad experiences but we cannot let them decide if we are happy and we are where we want to be. Only when we take responsibility and decide how to react to all those things that happened to us we'll be truly happy and achieve our goals in life.
    Have a happy weekend!

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  91. great, creative post ;) kisses

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  92. Beautiful post and very well said. I agree, quitting is never an option... :)

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  93. This article articulates so much of your inner strength and a high caliber of positivity. I only hope, it works well as you have planned.
    Have a great weekend.

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  94. wow, this is really an amazing post! You're so strong, stay positive :)

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