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10 Valuable Life Lessons My Husband Taught Me

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10 Valuable Life Lessons My Husband Taught Me

Just celebrated another milestone in our marriage. This life chapter has brought a lot of changes - not just in my last name. ๐Ÿ˜ There are lessons we've learned together as a couple and as individuals. And the valuable life lessons my husband taught me? I believe every marriage needs them.

1. My husband taught me that self-worth is non-negotiable. 

I don't have to tolerate people who are shortchanging me. He showed me that accepting negativity is a disservice to myself. That I need to take care of my health. That I deserve to be pampered. That I can demand higher pay because I'm good at what I do.

My husband taught me that self-worth is non-negotiable

2. How to communicate my feelings.

Here's the thing. If a child is crying and you tell them to stop, they grow up thinking they're not allowed to be upset, scared, angry, or show their feelings. 

In their young minds, they believe those feelings are wrong, invalid, or unacceptable. They get the impression that expressing their emotions is wrong, so they suppress them. Even when they reach adulthood and they know better.

My husband showed me that all my emotions are valid. I don't have to hide or dismiss them. He created a safe space where I could express them without judgment, and that's been a game-changer for my emotional health.

I still have a hard time sharing or expressing them, but he's a patient teacher (whose patience I always test in that regard ๐Ÿ˜…).

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3. To trust. Again.

Past hurts had me guarding my heart like a dragon guarding its treasure. But my husband's unwavering honesty and genuine actions chipped away at those walls, building trust along the way. 

He proved that not everyone's out to hurt, humiliate, or use me. I don't always agree with what he tells me, but he's repeatedly proven to me that he's right, so I've learned to trust his judgment.


4. It's okay to set boundaries.

He showed me that I can walk away from people regardless of who they are or their role in my life. If they're sucking out my time and energy or disrespecting me, they're out. Self-love should always be a priority.


5. Celebrate my individuality.

I'm an introvert, and all my life, I've been made to believe that how I behave is boring and, well, not normal. Because I prefer quiet and solitude at a time when my peers love to party and be out there. 

So I forced myself to be where the crowd was, mingle, and be as loud as the others. It drained me. It also made me doubt myself and dislike myself for who I am because I thought I wasn't cool or good enough to be accepted. 

My husband is the most extroverted person I've met. He respects my need for solitude and doesn't force me into uncomfortable situations. 

My husband taught me to celebrate my individuality.
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6. Learn to redefine stereotypes.

Growing up in our culture, I was bombarded with outdated gender roles. My husband, a modern-day man, shattered those expectations. He treats me as a wife AND someone with feelings, needs, and opinions. 

My husband and I are one, but I still get to keep my identity and make choices for my body. I don't have to conform to what society or tradition dictates, and he's there to support me on that.


7. How to be a real partner.

Maybe it's because I'm a middle child in a large brood. I've not been a leader. I'm not someone people turn to for opinions. So, I had no idea how to run a ship, so to speak. 

Marriage, as my husband taught me, is all about teamwork. 

Healthy relationships require two people working together, not against each other through rough waters.

You can't just take orders or take over. We navigate challenges together, celebrate victories as a unit, and share responsibilities with open communication.

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8. The 'mundane' matters.

The simple, everyday little things matter, like taking the trash out without being asked or preparing my breakfast while he lets me sleep in. An elaborate bouquet of flowers is lovely, but the flowers he picked from the road on his way home are just as meaningful. 


9. The real meaning of intimacy.

Speaking your partner's love language is intimacy. Whether you're sitting silently together doing separate things, wrapped up in each other's arms, or hundreds of miles apart, you can get intimate. Because intimacy with someone is a choice that goes beyond the bedroom walls.

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10. My husband taught me to be more patient.

Because are you really a husband if you're not annoying your wife? ๐Ÿ˜„ 

My husband is far from perfect, just like me. He makes mistakes, gets grumpy sometimes, and we don't always see eye-to-eye. 

We came from very different backgrounds and cultures and had opposing opinions. I've learned to be more patient because I can see him trying to be better. And I know what he does is for the best.

[I admit I need to work on this more - especially when I'm being hormonal because that's when I'm not in the mood to cut him some slack. ๐Ÿคท]


Valuable Life Lessons My Husband Taught Me

Marriage isn't just about fancy rings and cake-cutting ceremonies. Those moments are magical, but the real magic unfolds in everyday, quiet moments and unexpected life lessons learned. And my amazing husband has been a great teacher on this journey.

Happy anniversary to my better half. I'm blessed to do life with you. Cheers to more years of love, sunsets, dirty jokes, and flirty pickup lines! ๐Ÿฅ‚

Question for You

What life lessons has your partner or relationships taught you? Or do you have any marriage advice?

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  1. Your husband is a keeper. I have a keeper too.

    Have a fabulous day and week, Lux. ♥

  2. Happy marital milestone!

  3. Oh you blessed with a wonderful husband and am sure you are a treasure too ~ Happy Anniversary ~ hugs,'

    Wishing you good health, laughter and love in your days,
    A ShutterBug Explores,
    aka (A Creative Harbor)

  4. how blessed you are, Lux! what a beautiful anniversary ode to your husband, your marriage, your life together. God is good.

  5. all important and useful ...
    love the most: "My husband taught me to trust."

  6. Your husband sounds amazing - great to know there are some good ones out there, and this is a wonderful anniversary tribute!

  7. Those really are good lessons for life and for everyone!

  8. Great Post! Congrats on your marriage anniversary!
    Your husband is an amazingly clever person!
    I fully agree with all his teachings and advice!

  9. WOWZIE your husband is Godsend. He is a keeper for sure. What a wonderful relationship you have, bravo!

    Allie of

  10. I’m glad you have such a wonderful husband!

  11. Those are truly valuable life lessons that apply to everyone! I've learned that communication is key.
    Happy anniversary to you both! Here's to many more years of love and laughter. Cheers! ๐Ÿฅ‚

  12. What a neat post! Congrats!!

  13. You have a wonderful and supportive husband.

  14. Sounds like you have a lovely hubyhubs!

  15. Hi, Lux!

    Happy anniversary to you and your husband, dear friend!

    I'm delighted to have this opportunity to view the professionally produced video of your wedding day, and to learn more about your wonderful husband. It is interesting to learn that the two of you represent different cultures, and it is reassuring that he is, as you put it, "a modern-day man." You deserve nothing less than the best. Based on your individual needs and dreams and your summary of the life lessons taught and learned in your marriage, your husband is the very best kind of man for you. Consider yourself very lucky to have found such a rare individual.

    Lesson #2 hit home for me. When I was a young boy in the mid 20th century, parents routinely scolded and punished their children, not only for being "bad," a damaging word commonly used at the time, but even when they were simply playing, running, laughing and having fun. The principle too many parents adopted was "a child should be seen and not heard." What an unfortunate notion to implant in young minds! I also had an aunt who would routinely place the palm of her hand in front of my face as a warning and say "you need some of this," implying that I needed to be spanked or slapped. My only infraction was giggling and being a normal child! Her threats were cruel and abusive, but such disciplinary practices were common at the time.

    I am overjoyed reading how open, honest, mutually supportive and nurturing your marriage is. Congratulations again for reaching and celebrating this marital milestone, dear friend Lux!

  16. Awesome! Great that you found each other. Congratulations!

  17. So beautiful, darling!


  18. These are all such beautiful points, Lux! I'm so happy to hear about the relationship you share. That is what true love is about!

  19. You have a wondrous husband. Congrats!

  20. Happy anniversary! This is really wonderful how he support you.

  21. Happy anniversary! This is really wonderful how he supports you.

  22. This is such a lovely tribute to your husband and the strength of your relationship.

  23. These life lessons are really awesome and their meaning is so deep. Your husband is a wonderful guy and his thought process is amazing. You are so lucky to have a husband like this. God bless you both.
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  24. Happy anniversary. A true blessing a good husband is.

  25. What a wonderful husband and some incredible lessons. Thanks for sharing!

  26. Happy Anniversary to you both :) This was a wonderful read, thank you!

  27. First of all, what a gorgeous photo! Second, these are such lovely lessons. I'm so glad you've got someone affirming as your life partner.

  28. Happy anniversary, babe! What a lovely post!

    Le Stylo Rouge

  29. Happy Anniversary to you and your husband! ๐ŸŽ‰ He sounds like a good one. ๐Ÿ‘Œ May you enjoy a long and happy life together. ๐Ÿฅ‚๐Ÿพ

  30. Lucky lady--you married a smart and charming man!

  31. Dear Lux, OMG, this is a wonderful post. As a really old guy ๐Ÿ˜Š (Mid 70s) I see wisdom, wisdom, wisdom in this post. On my computer I have a folder named Wisdom. I will be saving a link to your post in that folder. You have done an excellent job of sharing several life lessons. Very best regards to you and your husband. John (PS … This year wife and I will celebrate our 54th Anniversary. ๐Ÿ˜Š)

  32. These are definitely fabulous life lessons. Glad you have someone in your life who has helped you learn these things. Happy Anniversary!

  33. He taught you lovely values :D

  34. It is so great when our partners are able to educate, challenge, and inspire us to be better versions of ourselves! It sounds like your husband does just that. My husband has taught me to listen to my own emotions and live in the moment with them.

  35. It's nice to read this, glad you found your soulmate :)