Should you marry your best friend?
I thought not everyone could marry their best friend. That's impossible. And unnecessary...
Until I got married.
Now, I couldn't emphasize enough the importance of marrying your best friend.
I'm one of those annoying people who will continue to remind the singles out there:
You should marry your best friend!
Before you protest...
What does marrying your best friend mean?
To marry your best friend doesn't mean you start forcing yourself to fall in love with your best friend. Or pressure your best mate to marry you.
To be friends first before you become lovers is ideal.
A successful relationship or marriage is built on a solid friendship.
If you and your best friend are already falling for each other...congratulations!
If it's far from reality, don't fret.
My husband and I didn't start our relationship as friends.
We went from meeting to getting to know each other and then dating.
It was fast. We both are not getting any younger, you know?
But I can say my husband has become my best friend.
Is it a good idea to marry your best friend? I'll give you five reasons why it is.
5 Reasons Why It's Good to Marry Your Best Friend
1. Instant and constant support.
Your best friend will cheer you on and support you. Even when no one else does. Even when you're not entirely confident yourself.
2. Round-the-clock conversation.
Remember when you were in high school?
You would sleep over at your best friend's house and talk all night. It feels like time flies when you're together. And you never run out of topics.
Marriage is like sleeping over with your best friend every night.
When you can't sleep because worry keeps you up, it's good to have someone you can talk to. It eases the anxiety somehow.
When you're both wrinkled and grey, and your hip and joints ache of old age, what you'll have left is conversation.
Find someone you'll be comfortable sharing even your deepest darkest fears with.
It's a beautiful feeling that you're with someone you can talk to about anything at any time. And not worrying about being judged.
3. Share sacred silence.
Spending time in silence together is equally important as having a meaningful conversation.
When you're weary and need a day of doing nothing, it's reassuring to have a best friend who can sit with you in comfortable silence.
Knowing when to be quiet and enjoy that precious moment is vital. Especially when your partner is an introvert.
Silence is a soothing and gratifying remedy for the toxicity of the world.
Having someone to share that with is bliss.
4. Having your worst critic.
Your best friend will tell you what you NEED to know, not what you want to hear.
Because your growth and success are as significant to them as they are to you.
There may be misunderstandings and fights along the way. It happens to the bestest of friends. Let it strengthen your relationship and not shatter it.
TIP: Be careful with honesty. Don't use the truth as an excuse to be cruel.
5. To love and be loved unconditionally.
Your best friend can give you unconditional love.
I've heard this from one of the talks at The Catholic Marriage Summit:
Humans have a deep desire to be known by another soul. And to be loved despite the knowing is a beautiful gift.
There is something liberating and satisfying in the knowledge of being bound to a person who loves you despite and not because of who you are.
I'm thankful and blessed to marry someone who puts my needs before his. Who considers me in everything, even with something as trivial as deciding what to eat. Who listens patiently and loves me for who I am, flaws, pimples, moods, and all. 😁
So marry someone you like to be with, talk to, and someone who brings out the best in you.
Marry your best friend or work towards becoming best friends with your spouse.
Forever sounds like a long time. Might as well spend it with someone you love...and like. Now that's a good reason why you should marry your best friend.
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