Marry your best friend.
You may have heard that line many times before that it’s already lost its profundity.
I used to not take that seriously. I thought it's impossible for all people to marry their best friend. And that it's unnecessary...
Until I got married.
Now, I couldn’t emphasize enough the importance of this truth.
And I’m one of those annoying people who will remind the singles out there to marry your best friend!
Before you protest...
I'm not telling you to start forcing yourself to love your best friend. Or pressure your best mate to marry you.
If you and your best friend are already falling for each other and there's a high chance of tying the knot soon, congratulations!
If it's far from reality, don't fret.
My husband and I didn't start our relationship as friends. We went from meeting to getting to know each other and dating. But I can say I my husband has become my best friend.
Why is it good to marry your best friend?
5 Reasons Why It's Good to Marry Your Best Friend
Your best friend will cheer you on and support you. Even when no one else does. Even when you're not entirely confident with what you're pursuing.
2. Round-the-clock conversation.
Remember when you were in high school?
You'd sleepover at your best friend’s house and talk all night. It feels like time flies when you’re together. And you never run out of topics.
Marriage is like sleeping over with your best friend every night.
When you couldn’t sleep because worry keeps you up, it’s good to have someone you can talk to. It eases the anxiety somehow.
When you’re both wrinkled and grey, and your hip and joints ache of old age, what you'll have left is conversation.
Find someone you'll be comfortable sharing even your deepest darkest fears with.
Be with the person you can talk to about anything at anytime without worrying about being judged.
3. Sacred silence.
Spending time in silence together is equally important as having a meaningful conversation.
When you’re weary and you need a day of doing nothing, it’s reassuring to have a best friend who can sit with you in comfortable silence.
To know when to be quiet and enjoy that precious moment is vital. Especially when your partner is an introvert.
Silence is a soothing and gratifying remedy for the toxicity of the world.
4. Worst critic.
Your best friend will tell you what you NEED to know, not what you want to hear. Because your growth and success are as important to them as they are to you.
There may be misunderstanding and fights along the way. That happens to the bestest of friends. Let it strengthen your relationship and not shatter it.
TIP: Be careful with honesty. Don't use the truth as an excuse to be cruel.
5. Unconditional love.
Your best friend can give you unconditional love.
I've heard this from one of the talks in The Catholic Marriage Summit:
As humans, we have a deep desire to be known by another soul. And to be loved despite the knowing is a beautiful gift.
There is something liberating and satisfying in the knowledge of being bound to a person who loves you despite of and not because of who you are.
Beautiful isn't it?
I'm thankful and blessed to marry someone who puts my needs before his. Who considers me in all things even with something as trivial as deciding what to eat. Who listens patiently and loves me for who I am flaws, pimples, moods and all. 😁
So marry someone you like to be with, talk to, and someone who brings out the best in you.
Marry your best friend or work towards becoming best friends with your spouse.
Forever sounds like a long time. Might as well spend it with someone you love and like. Spend it with your best friend.
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