Single Life 5 Ds Of Misconceptions People Have About The Single Life 10:17 PM You don't need a significant other to lead a significant life. - Mandy Hale When people find out that I'm still single, I get mixed reactions. Some would congratulate me and tell me to enjoy it while it lasts. That someday I'll find myself longing for the single bliss. Others would laugh and mock, and others still would feel sorry for me. Here's what most people think about the single life. 5 Ds of Misconceptions People Have about the Single Life Doomed If you're single, you're doomed to be alone and unhappy forever. Ridiculous. Desperate You're delusional and is desperately waiting for the perfect man, for your knight in shining armor to rescue you. Rescuing is not needed if you're good with who you are. There's definitely no such thing as a perfect man and chivalry is sad to say nearing extinction. It's not about waiting for prince charming to come because life is not just about waiting for the person you exchange "i do's" with. That for me is desperation. Imagine dedicating your life waiting to get married. I bet you'll marry any pig who would profess his love to you if that's the case. Different (negative) If you're still single, something's wrong with you. Clearly, something's wrong with the one who assumes this. Distasteful Nobody wants you. Wrong. You just realize that it's a huge waste of time to entertain men who aren't interesting or whom you know are not really that serious. Why give them false hope if you don't want to have anything to do with them? Dull You live a very boring, lonely and empty life. Life's a choice. Even if you're married or sleeping around with 10 different partners, party every day or have 12 children, you will still feel lonely and empty if you choose to be. Gif If you're single, you are treated like a freak because you're the odd one out. Like you're from a far away planet and your life and everything about you can never be understood by "normal" people like them. That's funny because whenever I speak with my friends who are either happily married, or single but obviously happy and satisfied, all they tell me is that I'm doing the right thing, I should never rush and that it's okay to stay single than "settle" for what's there or live up to other people's expectations. Those who wittingly say negative things about my status are those who are definitely and obviously not happy with their state---married or not. Those who are struggling with where they are and are desperate to get out of their situation. Ironic. It's true that some people hate you because they envy what they see in you, and perhaps in my case, it's being happy and contented with what I have and where I am. Maybe they were (or still are) desperate, lonely, unhappy and miserable when they were single. And maybe those who are still single who have the same misconception aren't as happy as I am now. Since majority gets married, the rest who doesn't are considered as outcasts. Like any other things, we all have our opinion about something. We may never understand why one chooses to do something but we're not asked to anyway. The least we can do is respect the other person's choice. I don't feel obliged to clear things out for those who don't understand but I hope someday, everyone will either respect each other or just let each other be. It's better that way.
Single Life Major What Ifs Of The Single 10:25 PM Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart. Live in the question. -Rainer Maria Rilke The Single Woman's 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 4: Your biggest fear as a single person Sometimes I wish I'm as brave inside as the mask I put on for the world. Sadly, I'm not. I've got fears. Fear for my loved ones, fear of the unknown, fear of not being able to accomplish anything. Mostly, as a single person, I fear that I might get stuck. Don't get me wrong. I love my life (if I didn't I would have made a way to change it). It's just that I'm one of those little girls who dreamed of growing into the Proverbs wife and becoming a loving mother. Major What Ifs Of The Single What if it will take longer for my dreams to come to pass than my patience and faith can bear? What if the path prepared for me is not what I've always envisioned for myself? What if I couldn't hold on much longer? What if...? I know my time will come and I have learned to wait patiently and faithfully for God's timing, but there are just days when I...well, behave like a normal human being. I worry. I get discouraged. I get scared. Still, I carry on like a warrior in the battlefield; sweating profusely, trembling in fear, uncertain of each step I take. I've learned that if there's something I want to do, I will have to do it no matter how uncertain and scary it may be. Because courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is doing it afraid. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Single Life Moments When Being Single Is Really Awesome 6:12 PM Maybe we could be each other's soul mates. Then we could let men be just these great, nice guys to have fun with. -Sex and the City The Single Woman's 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 3: Describe a moment or a day when being single was really awesome. The single life could be tough. It could get lonely and frustrating. But, it could be the best time of your life too. Moments When Being Single Is Really Awesome FREEDOM In making decisions While most people I know have their schedules and decisions tied up and dependent on their partner's/spouse's/kids' schedules, I am totally free to decide for myself. I love it that I am able to drop whatever I'm doing and pack my things and go out of town, see a movie or meet a friend with just one text or call. I'm free to wake up or sleep whenever I want to, work overtime without having the trouble of calling someone to move or cancel a scheduled date or appointment, go out and come home at any hour without considering another person's feelings or time, and just be where I want, when I want to, doing what I want. I moved and changed places a lot this past year. All the time, I only have myself to think about. Is the place convenient for me? Will I be comfortable? What's in it for me? Will I be able to save more and spend less? It's discovering what I need and want and who I really am in the process that makes it awesome being single. With finances I passed by this department store and saw the big SALE signs hanging all over the place. Without guilt and second thoughts, I shopped around to my heart's content. I pay my own bills so there's no one to consult when I want to buy something, no one to answer to when I go beyond my budget for the week (seldom happens), no infant milk, no diapers, no tuition fees or allowances, no "extra" in my budget. I know I'd get to that, so while I'm still free from it, I'd revel on having my income all to myself. In little things I admit that it gets lonely sometimes. But, if you are comfortable with where you are and you know exactly why you're there, you sleep blissfully every night. LEARNING PHASE I'm in a phase of my life where I'm like a sponge, absorbing everything I could learn and soaking myself up with the good things (by choice!). I go to seminars and conferences with my single friends, talk to different kinds of people and learn from them, seeing the world in their perspectives and learning that we all have our own battles. I think if I'm not single, I will have less time to do what I'm doing now since I'll have different priorities; taking care of my husband, kids, the household, paying bills, and whatnot. I will have a different focus and I might rarely have time to talk to other people aside from school teachers, baby sitters and fellow mommies exchanging mommy notes (something I look forward to though). WOUNDED HEALER Being not just single, but also someone with lots to share in the relationship area, I am able to speak words of encouragement and give my opinion or share my experience to my single friends who are going through the same hell and dilemma I went through before. Being single made me a better person. If that's not awesome I don't what is. BEAUTIFUL DILEMMA There's a beautiful dilemma in decision making when you're still single; where to take my lunch, what movie to see, what color of shoes to buy, where to spend my next vacation, who to meet this coming weekend. Being single is REALLY awesome because it brings a certain kind of freedom that all my married friends envy and never fail to remind me to be thankful for. They always tell me to enjoy this stage and to never hurry no matter what other people say because in time, no matter how much I want to, I will never bring this back. They envy even just the trivial things that come with being single that I often take for granted like sleeping in or staying up late. This will not last for long, so while I'm in it let me bask in the awesomeness that comes with being single. Gifs from Google images Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Single Life When Being Single Really Sucks 6:09 PM There are times when being alone kicks hard and leaves you curled up in pain, gasping desperately for air. The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 2: Describe a Moment When Being Single Really Sucked Being single is fun, but like many things, it has its downside. Let's get real. Let me be blunt about it. There are moments when being single really sucks. There are times when being alone kicks hard and leaves you curled up in pain, gasping desperately for air. When Being Single Really Sucked Looooong days There are really, really long days when you need someone to talk to or just listen to you rant away patiently, hold your hand and assure you that everything's going to be okay. Your friends are great to be around with, but you will always have this longing for something more intimate. A relationship that goes deeper than friendship could go. +1 I don't mind going solo and being surrounded by couples. I can't help it if my friends would bring a +1 in some of our get-together. I totally understand. But if I REALLY need to bring someone with me, although my list of friends are long, it's a little frustrating when I can't just pick one. It would have been easier if you've got this one permanent person you know you can automatically bring with you. Post-breakup drama I've had long term relationships. So each break up, no matter how long the relationship went is always bloody, always messy, always sucks. The adjustment period from having someone to turn to all the time, someone you regularly text, call, have meals with and go places with to having to deal with loneliness or being alone for the first time in a long time can really get to you. Being easily attached, adjusting from "having" to "losing" was really devastating for me. Holiday blues Holidays are mostly when people come home or get together with their loved ones. When you're alone during the holidays, yes there's nothing wrong about that. But sometimes, as human nature, you long to feel that you belong. You long to feel home with someone. Ridiculous comments It sucks when people poke fun at you like you're a freak without caring to know you have good reasons why you are single. It sucks to hear people make snide remarks and make you look desperate. We humans have this inexplicable, insatiable, unending need of having someone or something that can make us feel complete. We need to feel wanted, to hold and be held, to have someone to keep us warm when it gets a little cold, someone to fall asleep with, someone to start our day and have breakfast with, someone waiting to welcome us home after a long day, to make plans and do something unplanned with, someone to share our victory and pain with. We all have a desire to love and be loved. Life is a roller coaster ride; being single included. It has many ups and downs. It's one crazy ride. When I get to the "down" part I just remind myself that I'm not alone in this journey (though it really feels that way). I'm grateful that I wasn't born envious or jealous of others. I know how to find and create my own happiness. Being single is not for the faint of heart. Sometimes being single really sucks. But, we can't have rainbows without a little rain, right? Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
