Dating 10 Possible Reasons Why Women Choose Bad Boys 8:00 AM 10 Possible Reasons Why Women Choose Bad Boys From a third person’s perspective, it may be hard to understand why good women choose bad guys over the nice husband material types. We can psychoanalyze them all day, but here are ten possible reasons why women choose bad boys. This post contains affiliate links, so we’d get a commission if you purchase through the links at no additional cost to you.1. Breaking the rules means fun Women want someone who can break the monotony.They look for a partner to surprise and take them out of mediocrity.They want someone who can give them an adrenaline rush and constantly keep them on their toes. The bad guy is a rule breaker. And the thrill they offer could be a reason women choose bad boys. Giphy 2. Mind conditioning from the mediaThe media conditioned us to believe the rotten apple can still be good.Many movies feature stories about women falling for bad boys who are actually nice. Or turned out to be just a troubled or misunderstood creature. Good Will Hunting is a good example.Women have been exposed to the bad boy turned good scenario even when they’re still little girls.Aladdin was a liar and a thief. But he only does it for survival. Plus, he gives what he has to someone who needs it more.The Beast was mean and kidnapped Belle, but Stockholm syndrome made them fall for each other.There’s character development in the end, so the possibility of a happily ever after for the girl who chooses the bad boy is there.Giphy3. Confidence is sexy Bad boys exude confidence, and confidence is sexy. Nothing is more attractive than a man who knows what he wants and goes for it. It could be because women want security. And a man who seems like he’s sure of himself gives that vibe. Giphy 4. Daddy issues If you’re a fan of How I Met Your Mother, you know that Barney Stinson’s favorite “prey” are women with daddy issues. They want someone precisely the opposite of what their fathers wish for them.Or because of homing instinct. They gravitate to what is familiar or makes them feel at home. So if they’ve been badly treated by the man supposed to love and protect them growing up, they’re attracted to someone who does the same.It’s the kind of relationship or treatment they know and understands.Sad reality. Women may choose bad boys because of their broken relationships with their fathers. Giphy 5. Bad boys are challenging Men love the chase. Women love a good challenge. What challenge?Turning the rebel into the ideal guy.The more the lousy guy rejects them, the more they want to go after them. To prove their worth. To change his mind, perhaps. We can also say that women don’t like the bad boys they see. Instead, they like the idea of being responsible for his transformation into a nice guy. Some women make bad boys their personal projects. A goal to accomplish.Sometimes they give too much of themselves in the hopes of bringing the best out of the person they choose.They allow themselves to become a rehabilitation center for boys with issues.That sense of accomplishment to achieve something that seems impossible is exciting and enticing.Girls choose the bad boys because they love a challenge.Giphy 6. Girls just wanna have fun Men are not the only ones afraid of commitment or settling down. Since nice guys seem to be the marrying type, so some women avoid them. They don’t want to be tied. At least not yet.Bad boys are more carefree and appear more fun to be around. They’re not the type who would settle down anytime soon. Drunkgifs 7. Solving the mystery The bad boy has a story he hides from the world. Who doesn’t love a mystery?The pleasure in uncovering that enigmatic bad boy.Curiosity gets the better of some women. So they choose the elusive bad boy. Giphy 8. The damsel in distress in search of the knight in shining armor According to clinical psychologist Dr. Kanan Khatau Chikhal: “Most of these women who fall for this kind of man are intimidated by the outside world. They are naturally shy and instantly attracted to someone who can take on the world, protect and take care of them.”That sums it all up.Some women need saving from the cruel world. And the dauntless bad boy offers that. Giphy 9. Inferiority complex The lack of self-worth often leads women to believe they deserve to be treated like crap.So they stay even when the guy doesn’t give them the attention, affection, and respect they deserve. Giphy 10. The instinct to care for someone in needUnderneath all the bravado, you’re just a sad little boy with delusions of grandeur… who can’t fence for shit by the way. -Rafe AdlerWomen are naturally sympathetic and are born with maternal instincts. They quickly need to protect and care for those considered as society’s reject or are often picked on. Bad boys look like they need to be loved and nurtured, and women are ready to offer that. GiphyAdmit it. At one point, you want to try something everybody tells you not to. The danger is exciting. Too good to resist.The what-ifs...What if he has a kind heart but just doesn’t show it?What if he’s sweet but doesn’t want to be vulnerable?What if it works out. He’s gonna change for me at some point?What if he’s just misunderstood? He’s not really mean. He’s just straightforward.Yeah, right.You’ve justified and defended them even though everyone can see that we’re only blinded by infatuation.Or maybe because we’re good, and that’s what we automatically see or want to see in others.We don't see the world as it is; we see it as we are. - Anaïs NinWe risk anything for what we believe is love. We make silly decisions that we know we’ll regret in the end. Sometimes we get the happily ever after we dream of. Other times we fail.I love this quote from Gilmore Girls:I mean, you have your morals, standards, and good common sense, and then, bam, you meet some guy, and all that goes right out the window. For every good woman, there's a dirty little wolf ready to lead her astray! You can't help it. He's got the eyes, the chin, and chest hair you could carpet your dining room with. I mean, what's a woman to do? We're not made of steel, for God's sake! Take good care of yourself. And don't be embarrassed Toots! This has happened to all of us. It’s happened even to the best of us.What’s important is that, in the end, we learn a valuable lesson from every failed relationship.Especially from our experience hanging around with the guy your mother warned you about.Women may choose bad boys initially, but they will always strive to bring out the excellent guy in them. Because the truth is, women may like to mess around with the bad boys, but deep down, they know it’s still better to marry the nice guy.
Fashion & Style That Dresslink Wishlist Came True 8:00 AM Because hope comes from in you, and wishes are just magic. -Laini Taylor That Dresslink wishlist I had? It came true. A few days ago, I got my package. You see, it's fairly easy to shop at Dresslink. (1) Register here. (2) Choose the item you want. They're organized by categories (What's New, Special Offers, Baby's & Kids, Women, etc.). When you hover on each tab, you'll see that some have subcategories. Women for example has dresses, tees, shawls and the like. (3) Browse and choose. You can easily see the reviews of previous customers, the price, and the ietm description. (4) Click the item and choose your size, color choice, quantity. (5) You may opt to Buy It Now or Add To Cart. You may even create your own Wishlist if you're still undecided and go back to finalize your orders later. (6) Choose your payment method. There are several ways and the number of days the items will arrive is indicated on each method. That's it. The Verdict The items were inside a resealable plastic bag packed individually. Here they are straight outta packaging. Don't expect optimum quality as they're not expensive to begin with. But I'm not saying the products aren't good. For me they are priced right given the quality of the items. Just to set your expectations though, the dress came with these (like extra threads) on both sleeves and back. May not be the case for all dresses. No biggie. Nothing a pair of scissors can't solve. Amaryt? ^_^ Korea Ladies Women O-neck Short Sleeve Loose Varieties Of Style Dress Of Your Choice I'm Asian petite so this is how the dress fits me. You may wear it with a belt. [necklace and shoes: my own] New Fashion Women's Golden Chain Envelope Purse Clutch Synthetic Leather Handbag Shoulder Bag Dinner Party The keywords here are "dinner party". There's only enough space for your phone, cards or wallet, car key, a few beauty essentials and whatnot. It's elegant looking so I like it. New Women's Warm Winter Skinny Slim Leggings Stretch Pants Thick Footless Tights It's ideal for cold weather because they really are warm and thick. It fits me perfectly. [shoes and accessories: my own, top: my sister's :)] Women Fashion Jeggings Stretch Skinny Leggings Tights Pencil Pants Casual Snowflake Pattern Jeans We hear jeggings and we think it's jeans that's extra stretchable and comfortable like leggings. But this one's actually leggings that looks like jeans. I already know that prior to ordering because I've read it on the customer reviews section. It really does look like jeans when you wear it. That's what I like about it. [top and shoes: my own] Fashion Ladies Women Sequin Decoration O-neck Short Sleeve Patchwork Casual T-shirt This shirt is not cotton material and it's almost see through. The size (medium) is smaller than we expected as it's exactly my fit and I'm normally size small with shirts. I think if you want to buy this, you consider a size larger just to be on the safe side. [in photo: my sister] That's it for my wishes. It's been fun for me. I hope you'll have fun too. Tell me about it, yeah? If you like this blog post about life and love, please share the article using the social media buttons below or on the left. Thanks!
Fashion & Style My Dresslink Wishlist 12:00 AM Dress shabbily and they remember the dress; dress impeccably and they remember the woman. -Coco Chanel A frugal person who loves beautiful stuff but does not want the hassle of going out and paying more than necessary. That's me. Sometimes I wish there's just one place where I can get exactly those mentioned. You can say I'm a wisher. Doing away from my usual philosophical and deep views, let's talk about wishes. The everyday essential and practical things women (and gentlemen) need---clothes! And accessories to go with them. Practical does not necessarily have to mean shabby. Believe it or not, there is a place where you can find voguish yet amazingly low prized pieces of fashion; from shirts or tops, dresses, shoes, bags, and accessories. They have items for women, men, kids, even lamps & lighting and other stuff for homes. If you wish for fashionable clothing and other items you need for a lesser price and a convenient way of getting it, Dresslink is the place for you. I made my own wishlist from their site (that is after hours of getting lost in this fashion paradise). Here's my Dresslink Wishlist: Korea Ladies Women O-neck Short Sleeve Loose Varieties Of Style Dress Of Your Choice New Women's Warm Winter Skinny Slim Leggings Stretch Pants Thick Footless Tights New Fashion Women's Golden Chain Envelope Purse Clutch Synthetic Leather Handbag Shoulder Bag Dinner Party Women Fashion Jeggings Stretch Skinny Leggings Tights Pencil Pants Casual Snowflake Pattern Jeans Fashion Ladies Women Sequin Decoration O-neck Short Sleeve Patchwork Casual T-shirt If you check out their site, there are a looooot more to choose from. They even got items at $0.01!!! Crazy good! Here are samples below (check out this link for more). And items with free shipping fee. This one cute pendant got my attention, but they've got so much more that you have to check it out yourself. I like online shopping because I don't like waiting in the long lines at the counter. Who does? Most of all, I'm a frugal person. More than looking good, I like that I can splurge without feeling guilty about my finances. Dresslink is a great place for great fashion finds online for less. I like too that you can see immediately the reviews of the customers who have already ordered the item you're interested in. So, you can gauge whether it's worth buying too or not, and what to expect from the product once you receive it. That means you won't be disappointed when you expect something and receive it in a different condition. Online shoppers know what that means. They also have a guide of measurements so you would know what the correct size you should choose. Ahhh, so many things to like about Dresslink. Such a wish come true. What practical wishes do you have? This article may contain affiliate links.. Photos from Dresslink. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Life Lessons 5 Simple Lifestyle Change To Defeat Depression 4:34 PM Maybe you have to know the darkness before you can appreciate the light. -Madeleine L'Engle Have you ever been depressed? If not, you're lucky. Depression could be nasty. Depressed people feel like all hopes have been sucked out of them. Like all lights have been put out; everything becomes pitch dark. It's suffocating. When you fight depression, it's as though you're fighting a losing battle. Carol shares with us what depression is, plus 5 easy lifestyle change to help defeat depression: Depression is a phase and not a disease. Treating depression is possible if you know that you have it; most people suffering from this condition deny its existence. Family and friends may notice some changes in the behavior of the person, but there are some symptoms that will prove you are suffering from the sinking feeling of depression. Symptoms of depression: Irritation without reason Uncontrolled anger Sleeping disorder Fatigue Appetite issues Losing hope Frequent episodes of crying Sudden weight gain or weight loss The above symptoms may point towards some underlying health issues... but could be due to depression too! Depression can be triggered by many emotional and physical reasons. Sometimes it’s the sudden loss of a loved one, prolonged illness, or hormonal changes. Whatever may trigger this problem, here are some simple changes that you can introduce in your life to fight it. Fighting depression through a simple lifestyle change. 5 Simple Lifestyle Change To Defeat Depression Stay active, stay fresh Exercise is one of the major solutions for depression. Choose the exercise that you would enjoy and include it into your daily regime. Go for a walk, dance, or swim to get a mood boost. Keeping yourself active would eliminate undesirable thoughts and hence, combat depression. Finding a workout companion would be even better as exercising with a friend would keep you motivated, and take away the feeling of loneliness. Exercise releases happy hormones in your blood stream thus, bringing down the symptoms of depression. Find an outlet Venting out your problems will not solve them but would make them bearable. Let it out to a friend, family, or a counselor as this will remove the feeling of heaviness from your heart. Speak up and admit if there is a problem. This will make your life easier and solve problems in your relationships. Healthy relationships and well-expressed emotions would automatically treat depression and its symptoms. Eat right When all other organ systems work right, you will have only one area to work on. Taking fiber rich food would keep your body lighter and make you feel energetic throughout the day. When your body is happy and active, your mind will also be happy. Avoid foods that are high in fats and calories as it will make you bloated and add to your restlessness. Love yourself Depression makes you hate yourself and everything around you. Start loving yourself. Shop, have a makeover, or make your surroundings bright and welcoming. Loving yourself and your surroundings will fill you up with the positive energy. Take the time to nurture your body and soul as this will give you an instant mood lift. Medication Medication should be the last resort. You may check with your doctor if you need some counselling or medication to treat this issue. Depression can be treated early. If it stays for a prolonged period, chances are it will become chronic. Listen to your body and soul---and help it! About the author: Carol is a freelance writer. She mostly writes on healthy and lifestyle subjects. Currently, she is associated with US Premium Garcinia Cambogia, an online store for garcinia cambogia extract, which helps in reducing weight. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Faith The Gift Of Emptiness 9:00 AM I thank God for my gift of emptiness. Emptiness is like a gift wrapped haphazardly by the Giver in a nondescript wrapper. You wouldn't know how beautiful it is until you've opened it. If it wasn't for that hungry pang for something better, I wouldn't have striven harder. If it wasn't for that emptiness, I wouldn't have been desperate to search for an answer. I would have been complacent. I might have been living contentedly with "just enough". Your emptiness can do stupendous things in your life. The Gift Of Emptiness My emptiness did these incredible things in my life: My emptiness gave me the drive to learn something new; to keep on growing, to keep on searching for ways that will make my life better. My emptiness made me rethink my decisions and enabled me to see things more clearly. It made me recognize the distractions, and made me focus on the more important things. My emptiness taught me that the world can confuse us about what matters most. Because the world is made of people just as imperfect, flawed and empty as we are. In time, we will understand what is essential and what is superficial. My emptiness made me empathetic. It made me see the emptiness in others too. It made me kinder. My emptiness created a space that made me ready and open to receive more. Thankfully, my emptiness did not drive me to desperation and accept whatever it is that's available just so I can say I have something to call my own. On the contrary, it taught me to never settle for less than what I truly deserve. My emptiness and weakness made me believe more in the power and strength of God at work in my life. I did not understand it at first and it was difficult. It is hard to keep believing you'll be okay when you can't see the end. But I held on. And I'm glad I did. Indeed, God remains faithful even when we are not. My emptiness made me excited for the great plans that are yet to be revealed. My emptiness helped me appreciate the little things. A simple message asking how I’m doing, a listening ear, a portion of someone’s time, God's quiet presence, a random act of kindness, beautiful songs, glorious mornings---these are great blessings not everyone get to experience. All these things which I used to take for granted, I now treasure. My emptiness made me desire to seek the Source that will fill me up and will never leave me thirsty again. Embrace your emptiness and know that it is only a phase---a beautiful phase that can do surprisingly marvelous things the way only emptiness can. Receive and cherish the gift of emptiness. It is an essential part of growing. It is a place you need to go through to get to your destiny. Shared this article on The Praying Woman
Single Life This Happy Single Asks 12:00 AM Never compare your beginning to someone else's middle. Sometimes, this happy single asks: What's out there? Who's out there for me? Is this all there is for me? Sometimes, this happy single asks one too many times it seems: When's my time? Is it tomorrow? Is it next week? How much longer do I have to wait? Some nights are colder. Longer. More cruel. People could be ruthless; laughing at her life choices, making her feel she's not good enough. So sometimes, this happy single asks: when is it going to stop? But there are days---many, many days when her faith prevails and her hope is renewed. So this happy single asks with excitement: What's he like? Have I already met him? (God forbid!) What would that day be like? Is it going to be just another ordinary day and destiny will sneak up on me? Or will I be swept off my feet like in the books or movies? Yes, sometimes her imagination runs wild. But, that's the beauty of being single. You have a blank canvas. You can paint your future the way you want to. She's honestly, genuinely happy for her peers getting hitched or starting a family of their own. She celebrates their milestones with joy. Yet, sometimes this happy single still asks: How about me? Is this all what life has in store? Maybe it's normal to be curious, to be anxious of the unknown and the uncertain. And maybe it's okay to get tired of waiting sometimes. Maybe one day she'll find the answers to all her questions. Maybe just for some. Maybe still, she may never find out. That's alright, she thinks. For to each his own. You can't compare your beginning to someone else's middle. Tweet Now, that's what she knows for certain. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Dating Guide To Flowers And Their Meanings 12:00 AM Isn't it more fun when you receive flowers, and you know there's a meaning behind them? How intriguing that each flower represents different things. It's thoughtful and will undoubtedly help you score points with your partner and spice up your relationship. Here's a flower meanings list for your guide the next time you buy your partner some blooms. Flowers And Their Meanings 1. Carnations Light red carnations - admiration Dark red carnations - more profound sentiments of love and affection White carnations - purity and luck Pink carnations - gratitude 2. Daisies Daisies - innocence, purity, beauty 3. Iris Yellow iris - passion 4. Orchids Orchids - wealth, love, rare and delicate beauty 5. Lilies Peruvian lilies/Alstroemeria - friendship and devotion 6. Roses Red roses - love and romance Pink roses - elegance, expression of admiration and appreciation White roses - innocence, purity, honor, reverence Orange roses - desire, enthusiasm, fashion, excitement, fervent romance Lavender roses - enchantment, love at first sight 7. Stargazers Pink stargazers - prosperity and abundance White stargazer - purity and sympathy 8. Sunflowers Sunflowers - adoration, longevity, loyalty, cheerfulness 9. Tulips Tulips - generally mean perfect love Red tulips - true love Purple tulips - royalty Yellow tulips - hopeless love, cheerfulness, sunshine Variegated tulips - beautiful eyes 10. Calla lily Calla lily - magnificent beauty, chastity, virtue, purity It doesn't hurt to be extra sweet and thoughtful. It's good to go the extra mile to strengthen your relationship or make someone feel special. No need to wait for a special occasion. Say it with flowers. What flowers are you planning to give? Do you know the meaning behind them? Source: proflowers