Dating 15 Signs You're Comfortable Being Single 12:14 PM It's good for a person to spend time alone. It gives them an opportunity to discover who they are and to figure out why they are always alone. -Amy Sedaris This post was originally written for and posted on Thought Catalog. 15 Signs You're Comfortable Being Single 1. You’re okay staying in on a beautiful weekend. You don't call random people to hang out on a sunny Saturday. You'd raYou’dcatch up on your reading or watch your favorite re-runs. 2. You are sincerely happy about your friends' milestones, engagements, weddings, and new babies. 3. You don't get uncomfortable when you go out with other couples. 4. You can dine out, watch a movie or travel alone. 5. When someone asks about your relationship status, you answer honestly without batting an eye because you don't think it's embarrassing or lame to be alone in a couple-filled world. 6. Your calendar is always full: vacations, breakfast/lunch/dinner with old friends, movie dates with your siblings or friends, seminars, and other essential activities outside work/school.7. When people think something's wrong with you because you’re single, you conclude that there’s wrong with them. 8. You don't know how it is to be dating or in a relationship anymore, and it doesn't bother you one bit.How many times do you need to send them messages? Which decisions do you need to consult with them about? (And why?). 9. You ignore the sweet nothings you receive in your inbox or phone because you don’t have time for someone you know is not severe or is not showing potential for a partner. 10. You are genuinely happy with where you are right now, even when things aren't going your way.11. Your plans may involve settling down, but you're not pressured to do it any time soon. 12. You hate asking someone's permission to buy something or go somewhere. So you come, and you go as you please. 13. You enjoy your own company, so you don’t feel like missing out on something. 14. Your heart goes out to those who are afraid to be alone and wish they’ll see the light and embrace singleness rather than be in an unhappy relationship only because they want to feel secure. 15. You’re not bitter about your failed relationships anymore. You are actually grateful that it ended. If it didn’t, you wouldn't be this happy right now.How comfortable - and happy - are you with your status?Hero image
Lux Thinking Aloud Dear Selfie Generation 12:51 PM Dear Selfie Generation, You're not the first to take photos of yourself with a hand-held camera. We did it with our enormous film cameras hoping that when it gets developed, our faces aren't cropped or our shots off center. We did it even before the term "selfie" was coined. We're that cool. Google images We took photos of ourselves smiling, making faces, doing crazy stuff in the most awkward situations and the oddest places, but we never put our lives or those of others around us in danger. We never went overboard. We may have been less creative due to the limited options we have had then but we never hurt ourselves. We will never hurt ourselves for photos. We're not that desperate for attention. We're not that shallow. We knew the difference between showing off and just having fun. We were more responsible, I daresay. My dear selfie generation, it's okay to be creative, but it's never okay to pretend to be someone you're not. Don't force it. It's okay to take pictures of yourself. I've got nothing against you showing the world how endowed you are. If you have it, flaunt it. But like everything else in life, moderation is the key. If you've taken too many pictures showing too much cleavage, don't cry or demand for respect when maniacs start sending you lascivious messages or comments. Take responsibility. There's nothing wrong with sharing your experience with your friends, but don't over share. Some of us really don't give a damn about what brand of clothes you wear unless you're promoting or selling them. Personally, I love it when you post pictures of the beautiful places you've visited or even the unusual and/or mouthwatering food you've tried. Expect me to comment or message you asking where to find those or how to get there. Flood my feed with more than that and I'll hide or unfollow you for sure. Just so you know. My dearest selfie generation, please don't ever get your validation or base your self-worth from the number of likes you get. You are worth more than that. Having a smartphone may be the "in" thing right now, but being smart never goes out of style. I hope you'll always remember that. Love, The Coolest Generation From Pre-Selfie Era Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Lux Thinking Aloud Monday Gratitude List 2 12:05 PM Another Monday. A brand new start for everyone. What better way to start this day than having a heart full of gratitude. So here's my... Monday Gratitude List 1. As I've mentioned in my last Monday Gratitude List, I started on a new social entrepreneurship (dream big, start small). Since then, the orders are just coming in. It's amazing! What I love about this business is that I don't just profit from it, I'm also promoting goodness. The company supports The Filipino farmers, uses purely organic and natural ingredients and supports charities including building villages for the poor. Also, I've been a loyal user of their products since they launched. So it's so easy for me to promote them. Talk about profit, pleasure and purpose rolled into one. Update: My online dealer shop Human Nature Lucky Shop is now open! So you can order from me wherever you are! 2. I met two good friends without planning to. It was a brief meeting, just a hi and goodbye kind of meeting. But it's knowing that despite the distance and the long time of not seeing each other, you're still friends that gives a certain feeling of belonging and comfort. 3. Another beautiful and enlightening talk at The Feast with their brand new series Haunted House Talk 2: Monster Kids. The big message of the talk: To hold on, you must let go. 4. I've just received my dividend from my insurance. Hurrah! 5. Receiving heart warming comments and emails from readers I don't know. Oh, such delight! What are you grateful for? See also: Monday Gratitude List 1 Monday Gratitude List 2 Monday Gratitude List 3 Monday Gratitude List 4 Monday Gratitude List 5 Happy Thanksgiving! Join the Grateful LinkUp. Get the InLinkz code here. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Life Lessons Don't Forget To Breathe 10:15 AM Men, for the sake of getting a living, forget to live. -Margaret Fuller Don't forget to breathe! Aren't we all dog-tired when the week has finally come to an end? We work to make a living. We work to put food on the table, get ourselves a decent place to live in, feel normal, and belong. But what keeps you going when the going gets tough? When your stress level gets too high, and the people around you become unbearable, why can't you quit? It's easy to give up when you have no reason to hold on. It's easy to walk away when there's no reason to stay. But if you have a goal and a big "why", you give yourself time to breathe. You know you have to. Being too busy makes you forget what's important. You need to focus on your reasons. Breathe to remember them. Maybe you're a traveler and you still have 10, 20 or more places to tick off your list. Maybe you're the breadwinner and can't quit because too many mouths depend on you. Maybe you want to set up your own business, and you're going to need that start-up amount. Maybe a member of the family is sick, and you help support their treatment. Maybe you want to return to school, and asking your folks to pay for your tuition feels inappropriate. Or maybe you know you're blessing people with what you do, and you've found your purpose. Lucky you. Whatever your reason is, don't forget to breathe. Breathe because you deserve to enjoy life. Breathe because your hard work will all go in vain if you're too sick to enjoy the fruits of your labor. Breathe because not everyone's blessed enough to be where you are. Breathe because work is not the be-all and end-all of life.When things go crazy, and you're too exhausted to go on, don't forget to breathe.
Single Life If You're Scared To Be Alone 2:00 PM If You're Scared To Be Alone If you're scared to be alone, you have every reason and every right to be. If you're scared to be alone, take time to listen to me; If you're scared to be alone, you're right, it's never easy. But, to be alone also means to set yourself free. If you're scared to be alone, I know what you're going through. I've been there myself, I was just as scared as you. But, I've learned to conquer it and I know that someday you will, too. If you're scared to be alone, just remember who you are. Remember why you're here and what has brought you this far. It's because you chose the road less traveled. It's because you've learned. It's because you now know your worth and now it's your turn. It's your turn to love yourself more than anyone or anything. It's your turn to give up, to stop enduring, to stop waiting. It's your time to enjoy, to really live and not just exist. It's your time to thrive---no one can argue or resist. If you're scared to be alone, let me assure you that you're almost there. You're on the right track, just hold on 'cause life can take you anywhere. If you're scared to be alone, hold my hand and we'll walk this unfamiliar and scary path together. It may be rocky, it may be winding, but this journey won't last forever. If you're scared to be alone, don't look around you, but look above. You'll never feel empty if you know you have a Father who fills you up with love. See also: Hello, Loneliness!
