Lux Thinking Aloud My Name And Its Meaning 3:37 PM What’s in a name? That which we call a rose By any other name would smell as sweet. -Romeo and Juliet The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 10: Google the meaning of your name and talk about how it fits or doesn't fit you I don't have to Google my name to know its meaning. My parents made it clear to me ever since. It means I'm the lucky charm and that everyone were happy around the time I was born since it was when something great happened to the family. I'm going to focus instead on the nickname most people call me. It started during college when some of my closest friends would call me by it (I just tweaked the spelling); Lux. At first I didn't know it means anything (but it's simpler and I like the sound of it) until my priest friend told me. "Lux" is Latin for "light". Ahhh, now we're talking. I've always been optimistic. I always look at the bright side. Sure, there were times when my light has been taken away from me temporarily. Like when everything I believed in turned out to be a big hairy ugly lie. Or when what I hoped for never came to pass. Or when I got so hurt the ugly beast of hatred and grudge sleeping inside me woke up and roared too loud for too long. Oh, it was a struggle. Yet despite the pain, despite the anger, despite the sense of vindication building inside me, I chose to forgive. I was so bitter for a long time, that I admit. Despite the mess though, I chose to forgive, accept what's there and still look at the pros that came with it. I've learned (enLIGHTened!), I've been better, I'm happy again. I also hope, I really try in my own way, to give light to those who need it. It is also quite a struggle since there are a lot of toxic, difficult and also hurt people that I have to deal with. With God's grace, I've learned to let go of petty things and forgive the big offenses. It's not magic. It doesn't happen overnight, but I've decided to live and let live. I believe it's a matter of choosing between believing in luck or waiting for things to happen, and deliberately living in the light, seeing clearly and freeing yourself from darkness. I choose the latter. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Single Life 5 Things My Future Spouse Needs To Be 3:45 AM We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love. -Dr. Seuss The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 8: 5 Things That Are Most Important To You In A Future Spouse The 5 things my future spouse needs to be? My friend asked me this question too and I guess I now have a better answer than I had then. The list may go on and on and on if I start, but let me try to narrow it down to five here: 5 Things My Future Spouse Needs To Be Lead me in faith He must bring me closer to God. Someone who shares the same faith with me or better yet, someone who's got a more personal relationship with God than I do. Someone who will encourage me and lead me in faith. He doesn't have to be a saint or a martyr, he just have to know God and put his faith into action. Financially literate Women want security, and the best way to make a woman feel secure is to provide for her needs and see to it that her future is in good hands. He doesn't have to be super rich, he just have to be knowledgeable in managing his finances and a good, generous provider. I just don't want to wake up one day and panic because I can't even buy us eggs and milk or won't be able to pay for our children's education (should we decide to have kids). No woman wants to feed a good for nothing lazy ass. Money plays an important role in every relationship. Money may not be everything, but it sure does affect every area of our lives. Wise, not just intelligent I know people who are academically intelligent but are far behind when it comes to dealing with "real life". They are intelligent in many things, they excel in school, but lack wisdom in dealing with what everyday challenges. A real man should not just be a know-it-all in academics, but someone who can survive the life in the jungle, so to speak. Someone who sees beyond the facts, who doesn't just rattle trivia but also possesses wisdom. Loyal A loyal person stays with you no matter what, keeps his promise and stays committed long before the mood he's in when he promised you things is long gone. With a good sense of humor. It would be great to be around someone who doesn't take himself, or life too seriously. Someone who can consistently make you smile and make you feel better when you're down. Someone who can bring you sunshine when it rains. Well, if he's also a good cook and a masseur on top of that then I think I'd be the luckiest woman alive. Gifs from Google images Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Lux Thinking Aloud Where You Are Vs. Where You Thought You Would Be 10:23 PM No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love him. -1 Corinthians 2:9 I always thought I'd get married at 25. When I was in my 20's I realized 25 is way too young to settle down. I felt like I was not even halfway to where I wanted to be. So I said, I'd postpone it until I'm 29.Guess what?I'm past 29 and I'm still single. What. Happened? To borrow a line from 500 Days of Summer, "What always happens...life." The Tempest Where You Are Vs. Where You Thought You Would Be There are many things that happened that I didn't expect, both good and not so good.I used to be submissive, reserved, and I'd settle for what was there.Now I know how to speak my mind, I stand for what I believe in, and I definitely don't shortchange myself. I thought in my 30s, I'd be staying at home, raising kids, running my own business, definitely NOT single. But I'm here cuddling with my dogs, meeting my friends at short notice, traveling at any time I wish, with no one to consult about my schedules and plans...Hey, it's not bad at all.I can say with all honesty that I am completely, totally happy with where I am right now.I can't imagine myself being a full-time housewife at this moment. Not because I don't want to. Maybe someday. I still love doing what I'm currently doing. Every moment of this singlehood will always be cherished. Whenever I check my bucket list, there are more things I haven't done yet and so many places I am yet to explore. But there are also ticked items that give me self-fulfillment. I know there's more and I want to do more. I know greater things are ahead which are better than I could ever ask for. I have long resigned to the idea that I have good plans for myself, but God has better bigger plans.My Provider has far greater, more beautiful things in store for me. Where I am right now is still far from where I thought I would be, but dang, this is way better than I imagined. This is Day 7 of The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge by Mandy HaleThis post contains affiliate links so I'd get a commission if you purchase through my links at no additional cost to you. This helps me maintain my site. Thanks in advance!
Single Life Every Woman Has The Exact Love Life She Wants 9:18 PM Every woman has the exact love life she wants allows. The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 6: Sound off on the quote, “Every woman has the exact love life she wants.” True or false? Are you in a relationship right now, and is it exactly how you envisioned it?Are you receiving the love you think you deserve? Or are you just waiting for an exit?If you’re a woman with the exact love life you want, congrats! Not everyone can say they’re as lucky.I know I wasn’t for a long time. Every Woman Has the Exact Love Life She Wants Sadly, some women don’t have the love life they want.They are abused physically, mentally, or emotionally by their partners, and no woman wants that kind of love life.Maybe some of these women have experiences in the past that made them believe they should tolerate the unjust treatment they get because that’s what they deserve.Someone must have instilled in their minds that it’s their fault it’s happening. Maybe that unhealthy relationship is their “homing instinct.” The same familiar environment they were raised in gives them, so it gives them comfort and security.Because the unfamiliar could be scary. Maybe they hope someday everything will get better.Maybe they’ve accepted their fate and stopped asking or looking for a change. Maybe that’s the way they love; unconditionally, blindly, totally. I’ve learned these from all the years of observing others and from personal experience. The quote, “Every woman has the exact love life she wants,” does not apply to everyone. At least not yet.Not until the woman lets go of that toxic person. Not unless she ends the abusive relationship. It’s a beautiful reminder, though. It’s a reality check. What you allow is what will continue.If you let yourself be the emotional punching bag or emergency fund of the person you chose, it will always be that way.Every woman has the exact love life she allows.So if you’re not in a relationship that makes you happy, and you don’t have a partner who appreciates, cherishes, and honors you, ask yourself...Is this really the love life I want?Hero imageThis post contains affiliate links so we'd get a commission if you purchase through the links at no additional cost to you.
Single Life 5 Ds Of Misconceptions People Have About The Single Life 10:17 PM You don't need a significant other to lead a significant life. - Mandy Hale When people find out that I'm still single, I get mixed reactions. Some would congratulate me and tell me to enjoy it while it lasts. That someday I'll find myself longing for the single bliss. Others would laugh and mock, and others still would feel sorry for me. Here's what most people think about the single life. 5 Ds of Misconceptions People Have about the Single Life Doomed If you're single, you're doomed to be alone and unhappy forever. Ridiculous. Desperate You're delusional and is desperately waiting for the perfect man, for your knight in shining armor to rescue you. Rescuing is not needed if you're good with who you are. There's definitely no such thing as a perfect man and chivalry is sad to say nearing extinction. It's not about waiting for prince charming to come because life is not just about waiting for the person you exchange "i do's" with. That for me is desperation. Imagine dedicating your life waiting to get married. I bet you'll marry any pig who would profess his love to you if that's the case. Different (negative) If you're still single, something's wrong with you. Clearly, something's wrong with the one who assumes this. Distasteful Nobody wants you. Wrong. You just realize that it's a huge waste of time to entertain men who aren't interesting or whom you know are not really that serious. Why give them false hope if you don't want to have anything to do with them? Dull You live a very boring, lonely and empty life. Life's a choice. Even if you're married or sleeping around with 10 different partners, party every day or have 12 children, you will still feel lonely and empty if you choose to be. Gif If you're single, you are treated like a freak because you're the odd one out. Like you're from a far away planet and your life and everything about you can never be understood by "normal" people like them. That's funny because whenever I speak with my friends who are either happily married, or single but obviously happy and satisfied, all they tell me is that I'm doing the right thing, I should never rush and that it's okay to stay single than "settle" for what's there or live up to other people's expectations. Those who wittingly say negative things about my status are those who are definitely and obviously not happy with their state---married or not. Those who are struggling with where they are and are desperate to get out of their situation. Ironic. It's true that some people hate you because they envy what they see in you, and perhaps in my case, it's being happy and contented with what I have and where I am. Maybe they were (or still are) desperate, lonely, unhappy and miserable when they were single. And maybe those who are still single who have the same misconception aren't as happy as I am now. Since majority gets married, the rest who doesn't are considered as outcasts. Like any other things, we all have our opinion about something. We may never understand why one chooses to do something but we're not asked to anyway. The least we can do is respect the other person's choice. I don't feel obliged to clear things out for those who don't understand but I hope someday, everyone will either respect each other or just let each other be. It's better that way.
