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Where You Are Vs. Where You Thought You Would Be

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Where You Are Vs. Where You Thought You Would Be

No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love him. -1 Corinthians 2:9

I always thought I'd get married at 25. 

When I was in my 20's I realized 25 is way too young to settle down. 

I felt like I was not even halfway to where I wanted to be. So I said, I'd postpone it until I'm 29.

Guess what?

I'm past 29 and I'm still single. 

What. Happened? 

To borrow a line from 500 Days of Summer, "What always"

Where you are vs where you want to be - life happens
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Where You Are Vs. Where You Thought You Would Be

There are many things that happened that I didn't expect, both good and not so good.

I used to be submissive, reserved, and I'd settle for what was there.

Now I know how to speak my mind, I stand for what I believe in, and I definitely don't shortchange myself.

I thought in my 30s, I'd be staying at home, raising kids, running my own business, definitely NOT single.

But I'm here cuddling with my dogs, meeting my friends at short notice, traveling at any time I wish, with no one to consult about my schedules and plans...

Hey, it's not bad at all.

I can say with all honesty that I am completely, totally happy with where I am right now.

I can't imagine myself being a full-time housewife at this moment. 

Not because I don't want to. Maybe someday. 

I still love doing what I'm currently doing. Every moment of this singlehood will always be cherished.

Whenever I check my bucket list, there are more things I haven't done yet and so many places I am yet to explore. 

But there are also ticked items that give me self-fulfillment.

I know there's more and I want to do more

I know greater things are ahead which are better than I could ever ask for.

I have long resigned to the idea that I have good plans for myself, but God has better bigger plans.

My Provider has far greater, more beautiful things in store for me.

Where I am right now is still far from where I thought I would be, but dang, this is way better than I imagined.

This is Day 7 of The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge by Mandy Hale

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  1. You know ... I see a common thread amongst many of us single women that we thought we'd be married and/or with kids by the age of 23 - 25. That makes me wonder what is society teaching young ladies about love (and where we should be in life by certain ages)?

  2. Ahh, you are so right! This is so similar to what I was aiming to say in my post! I think I want to do a follow up post talking about how a redirection (great word!) can just make you fight for it a little harder. And, I also was a shy, timid introvert and now I'm a fighter. Lots in common :-)