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Where You Are Vs. Where You Thought You Would Be

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Where You Are Vs. Where You Thought You Would Be
No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined 
what God has prepared for those who love him.  
-1 Corinthians 2:9

The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge
Day 7: Where you are in your life vs. where you thought you would be at this point

When I was in my teens, I thought I'd get married at 25. When I was in my 20's I realized 25 is way too young to settle down. I felt like I was not even halfway to where I want to be. So I said, I'd postpone it until I'm 29.

Guess what? I'm past 29 and I'm still single. What happened? To borrow a line from 500 Days of Summer, "What always"

Where You Are Vs. Where You Thought You Would Be

There are many things that happened to me that I never even dreamed of; both good and not so good. I used to be submissive, reserved and I just accept what's there. Now I know how to speak my mind, I stand for what I believe in and I definitely don't accept second rates.

Believe it or not, this timid, quiet introvert is now a fighter.

No, I don't go around looking for trouble. I just know now where I stand.

I am more confident. I can now admit it if I've done something wrong, too. I used to be The Denial Queen, you know?

I thought at this point, I'd be staying at home, raising kids, running my own business, NOT single.

But I can say with all honesty that I am better off where I am right now. I can't imagine myself being a full time housewife at this moment. Maybe someday. Not because I don't want to (I think it's every good woman's dream to take care of her family with all her focus and energy), but because I still love doing what I'm currently doing, I choose this lifestyle and I don't see myself doing other things. At least not yet.

Whenever I check my bucket list, there are more things I haven't done yet and so many places I am yet to explore. But there are ticked items that gives me self-fulfillment.

I know there's more and I want to do more. I know greater things are ahead which are better than I thought or even presently think.  

I have long resigned to the idea that I have great plans for myself, but God is just laughing at how little they are for He, my Father and Provider has far greater, more beautiful things in store for me.

This is not exactly the life I thought I'll have but dang, this is way better than I imagined.

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  1. You know ... I see a common thread amongst many of us single women that we thought we'd be married and/or with kids by the age of 23 - 25. That makes me wonder what is society teaching young ladies about love (and where we should be in life by certain ages)?

  2. Ahh, you are so right! This is so similar to what I was aiming to say in my post! I think I want to do a follow up post talking about how a redirection (great word!) can just make you fight for it a little harder. And, I also was a shy, timid introvert and now I'm a fighter. Lots in common :-)