Faith How To Know Your Worth With 6 Important Questions 8:00 AM How To Know Your Worth With 6 Important Questions Every second you spend doubting your worth, every moment you use to criticize yourself, is a second of your life wasted, a moment of your life thrown away. -C. JoyBell C. What does knowing your worth mean?To know your worth is to realize your value, not according to what others think but how you see or measure yourself.How to know your worth?Here are 6 important questions you must ask yourself to know your worth. How do you want to be treated?How do you want to spend your time?How do you like to be reciprocated for what you give?What kind of relationship do you want to have?What kind of person do you want to become?What are your beliefs about yourself?1. How do you want to be treated?Knowing how you want to be treated is a step in realizing your worth.Do you want to be treated with respect and dignity in the workplace, by your circle of friends, or by your partner? Or do you want to feel rejected, unappreciated, or derided?If you say, "I deserve better," you know you're worth more than how you're treated.Giphy2. How do you want to spend your time?Where do you invest your time?Do you spend it chasing people who don't accept and appreciate you for who you are?Do you want to spend your day investing in your growth and improving the quality of your life?You know you want to spend time with people who lift you higher.Or on things that can help you improve and get you closer to your dream life.How you want to spend your time shows how much you value yourself.Tenor3. How do you like to be reciprocated for what you give?Know your worth by knowing how you want to be reciprocated.Respect begets respect. But some people feel entitled to receive respect-demands even-but has no intentions of giving it in return.Some partners want fidelity from their significant other but have no qualms about cheating.Be selfless in giving your love and service but know your limits.Know your worth in the relationship.Set up a boundary for yourself.Boundaries aren't there to build a wall between you and others. It's to protect yourself from abusers. It has self-respect.Tenor4. What kind of relationship do you want to have?Would you be happy to be in a parasitic relationship where only the other person(s) benefit(s)?Or would you be more content and at peace in a relationship where you and others involved (co-workers, family, life partner) gain and grow?Do you want to be with someone who will fight for you or who will give up easily?When you recognize your worth, you know exactly what relationship you want to be involved in.Tenor5. What kind of person do you want to become?Do you want to be striving or thriving?Do you want to be content and happy or perturbed and miserable?What you're allowing yourself to become shows how much you value yourself.Pinterest6. What are your beliefs about yourself?Your beliefs about yourself don't measure your self-worth.Newsflash: most of them aren't true!They're called limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are lies you tell yourself that restrict you from achieving your full potential.It's how you measure yourself influenced by how you were raised and what you've heard from others.Limiting beliefs tell you:You're not good enough.You don't have what it takes to qualify.You don't deserve to move forward.You're not worth it.GiphyYou will struggle to know your self-worth at first.Gauge yourself based on how your Creator sees you, not other people's opinions. He knows you best.Here are some Bible verses about knowing your worth:You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14).Because you are precious in my eyes and honored, and I love you, I give men in return for you, people in exchange for your life (Isaiah 43:4).So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded. You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised (Hebrews 10:35–36).You can do everything through Christ, who strengthens you (Philippians 4:13).The Lord is your helper, so you don't have to be afraid (Hebrews 13:6).Do not let your adorning be external-the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry or the clothing you wear-but. Instead, let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious (1 Peter 3:3-4).Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows (Luke 12:7).TenorYou'll know when to leave a toxic relationship when you realize your worth.You'll know what, who, and when to quit.You'll never apologize for things you should not apologize for in the first place.You'll let go of things that aren't making you happy or money.What happens when you realize your worth?You will not shortchange yourself. You will not settle for less than what you deserve.You know who you indeed are and will not negotiate that with anyone.You will not waste another second on people or relationships bringing you down.Knowing your worth is not arrogance. It's embracing the truth about who you are. Having self-worth is having self-respect and self-esteem.It's treating yourself with a healthy amount of self-love.You're worth more than eight cows.Have you heard about the story of the eight-cow wife? There's a village where a man gives a cow as a dowry to a woman's family to ask her hand for marriage. The more beautiful or "qualified" a woman is to become a wife, the more cows are given. Needless to say, a woman's worth is measured by the number of cows she receives from her husband-to-be. In this village lives a woman named Sarita. To say that she is plain is a compliment. Sarita grew up being told that she was worth only one cow. Everybody in their village-including her own family-expected nothing more than a single cow when a good-looking and rich gentleman named Johnny Lingo asked her hand for marriage. To everybody's surprise and her father's indignation, Johnny Lingo disagreed with the arrangement.Sarita's father was insulted. Sarita was heartbroken. She's accepted that she is worth only one cow, and a man refuse to give her that. But Johnny Lingo made himself clear. He will not give Sarita one cow...because he believes she is worth more than that. He saw something in her that no one else did. Sarita, for Johnny, is not a one-cow woman. She is an eight-cow wife. After their marriage, Sarita somehow transformed physically. She now walks with grace. She presents herself with confidence. She stands tall and proud because she knows and believes she is an eight-cow wife.Everybody in their village knows that by now, too. The old Sarita's gone. No one looked at her the same way again. Her joy became evident when she glowed. She radiates. Sarita is now one of the most beautiful women in the village. Because one man showed her and everyone around her her true worth. One man believed that she was extraordinary. I love this story so much. It's a good reminder that we are unique. We are more than the label others give us. Do you know how much you're worth? You're worth more than your number of followers and likes on social media. You're worth more than the price tag on your clothes and gadgets.You're worth more than your job or bank account.You're worth more than your grades in school.You're worth more than your relationship status.You're worth more than your social standing.You're worth more than what people say about you.Here's a beautiful reminder about knowing your worth by Jeremy Anderson: You are worth more than the throne.Think about this:God left His glorious throne to walk the dusty earth just to be with you...To feel how you feel and to understand your pain. You are worth the sacrifice. God did not just offer eight cows for you. He gave you His life. You are worth every single drop of blood...Every torn muscle...Every tormenting pain Jesus had to endure.You're worth every drop of tear and sweat from the body of no less than the Son of God.Imgflip Remember that the next time you forget your worth.(Most part of this reflection is from The Feast)
Listicle 20 Things Women Do More And Better Than Men 7:22 PM 20 Things Women Do More And Better Than Men Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition.-Timothy Leary Whether women are better than men or vice versa has always been an argument. But today, let’s celebrate the gentle force that makes the world more beautiful, colorful, and fun...Women! Here are 20 things women can do more and better than men.This post contains affiliate links, so we’d get a commission if you purchase through the links at no additional cost to you. 1. Women have more taste buds than men.Women tend to have more sensitive palates than men, which is why more women are in the sensory panels (Sensory Value).Our sense of smell and taste are closely linked, and the olfactory bulb in women has 43% more cells than in men. Giphy 2. Women can multitask better than men.A study was conducted to see who’s really better at multitasking - men or women. When the tasks were mixed up, both men and women made mistakes and slowed down.But men were significantly slower - taking 77% longer to respond, whereas women took 69% longer.We don’t need experiments to prove this, though. How many men do you know who can multitask better than women? Virality 3. Women live longer than men.Women outlive their male counterparts by about 5.5 years. According to Eurostat, life expectancy at birth for women was 84 years and 78.5 for men. Women’s sex hormone estrogen can combat heart disease, which according to the CDC, killed 357,761 men in the US in 2019.Women are also believed to have a stronger immune system. Giphy 4. Women talk more than men.Generally, women talk more than men. (Although in some cases relationships, it’s the opposite).Women speak about 20,000 words daily, while men speak only 7,000. Giphy 5. Women cry more than men.On average, women cry 30-64 times a year, while men cry 6-17 times yearly.Could it be because the patriarchal society has made us believe that crying is a sign of weakness for men?Or are men more discreet in showing their emotions? Giphy 6. Women’s hearts beat more than men’s.A woman’s heart can beat as many as six beats per minute faster than a man’s.According to the Cardiology Associates of Michigan, a woman’s heart and some of its chambers are smaller, the walls that divide some are thinner, and the veins are finer.Though a woman’s heart pumps faster than a man’s, a man’s heart ejects more blood with each pump. Tumblr 7. Women blink twice as often as men do.In an optoelectronic study of eyelid motion, the blink rate was significantly larger in women than in men.Women blink 19 times per minute vs. men, who blink 11 times per minute. During eyelid closure and opening, women moved faster than men.Batting eyelashes look better in women than men, don’t you think? 😁 Giphy 8. Women orgasm better than men.Though men orgasm in 95% of encounters compared to women’s 69%, their orgasm only lasts 3 to 10 seconds.Women’s orgasms can last as long as around 20 seconds to 2 minutes.The nerve endings in a woman’s clitoris are approximately more than 8,000. That’s double the number of nerve endings in a man’s penis.Women would have the best sex when they turn 28, while men reach their peak at 33.Yeah, women may fake it more often to please the man, but when they do orgasm, it’s better. 9. Women are more attentive and organized than men.Study shows that women’s brains were significantly more active in many areas than men’s, especially where focus and impulse control are involved.Women are more on top of things when it comes to meeting deadlines.In terms of home organization, women do it better than men. Gfycat 10. Women have higher IQs than men.Marilyn Vos Savant is not only the most brilliant woman but the smartest person in history, with an IQ of 228 (Guinness Book of World Records).In the men category, Christopher Michael Langan has an IQ score between 195 and 210. Giphy 11. Women are more likely to graduate from college compared to men.US Department of Education data shows that 65% of women who matriculated at a US four-year university in 2012 had graduated by 2018, compared with 59% of their male counterparts.Men who enrolled in a four-year college in 2013 were 10% less likely to graduate within 4 years.There are many factors to consider. As a woman, I say women are more committed to graduating because of the limited opportunity available after college than men. We want to achieve more and feel more accomplished; a college degree is one way to do it. Giphy 12. Women have higher investment returns than men.Women are better investors outperforming their male counterparts by 40 basis points or 0.4%.Women are more cautious when taking risks, which shows in their investments. Giphy 13. Women can handle job interviews better than men.Women show that they can manage stress better, which helps them handle job interviews. Although HR managers click the male profile more, according to LinkedIn, women are 16% more successful in landing a job. Giphy 14. Women are most likely to survive car accidents compared to men.In a car crash, women are more likely to get injured (Insurance Institute for Highway Safety) because a car’s safety features are designed for male drivers. Crash dummies, for instance, are modeled after an average man. Nevertheless, as of this writing, reports show that women are more likely to survive car accidents than men. Giphy 15. Daughters are more likely to care for their parents.Probably because women are naturally more nurturing and caring, daughters are found to care for their aging parents more than their sons.The University of Michigan Health and Retirement Study shows that daughters give an average of 12.3 hours of elder care per month, while sons provide just 5.6. Giphy 16. Women are better communicators than men.Women’s brains are wired in a way that they excel in verbal tasks.Communication is a two-way street. Women are found to be better listeners and are more polite and empathetic than men, which makes them more effective communicators. Giphy 17. Women outperform men in memory tests.It’s normal for both men and women to get more forgetful, especially aging.Menopaused women experienced brain fog and continued memory depletion.Still, women outperform men in memory tests from childhood to adulthood.Here’s what they found out in a test conducted:Females generally access their memories faster than males and date them more precisely Women use more emotional terms when describing memoriesSuperior verbal memory for females appears to be independent of intelligence levelFemales also have greater specificity for events imagined to occur in the futureBe careful what you say because a woman remembers everything.And they may forget where they put their keys or phone, but they remember what you said 4 years ago at 3:27 PM.I wish I’m just kidding. Giphy 18. Women are more adept in languages compared to men. Girls’ language ability develop earlier compared to boys.In the early stage, girls, on average, acquire language faster than boys and have a more extensive vocabulary.Estrogen was found to promote the growth of language centers and related areas in the brain, while testosterone had the opposite effect.Women show superior verbal performance not only for first language acquisition but also for acquiring a foreign language. Giphy 19. Women can sustain relationships better than men. It’s no secret that women are more emotional than men.Women show more emotions, listen emphatically, and are more open in sharing their stories, so they build stronger relationships with their peers.These traits come in handy at work or in business. Giphy 20. Companies with women bosses perform better than those led by men.Because they’re more organized and attentive to details...Able to multitask better and be more productive...Are better communicators...Have sharper memories and a higher IQ...Can build better relationships at work...It’s no surprise that companies with female bosses perform better.Here’s what The Pipeline report says:“London-listed companies with no women on their executive committees have a net profit of 1.5%, whereas those with more than one in three women at that level reach a 15.2% net profit margin.” Giphy How amazing it is to be a woman.It’s not always fun, but oh, the things a woman can do!And they do it better. In high heels even! Hug a superwoman in your life today! Sources:Medical NewsHarvard Business NewsDaily MailPubmedGeorgetown UniversityBrookingsCNBCNBC NewsNCBIBBC
Dating 5 Common Worries Of A Single Woman & What To Do About Them 2:35 AM 5 Common Worries Of A Single Woman & What To Do About Them Is being single worth losing sleep over? It’s 2 AM. The world is quiet and sleeping. But here you are. Lying awake in bed wondering if you’d ever find The One. You wish you could fast forward and skip to the good part.But you can’t.You’re single AF. Uncertainties start to overwhelm you. Self-doubt begins to dampen your spirit.The future looks scary...mainly because you feel alone.You try to shake off that negative feeling and ask, “How do I stop worrying about being single?”Don’t fret. For every anxiety, there is a remedy.What do single women worry about the most?Here are five common worries of a single woman and what to do about them. Worry #1: All my friends are getting married or pregnant!When you see your peers celebrating milestones and feel like you’re stuck, it’s easy to feel insecure.You start questioning what’s next for you.When am I going to meet my spouse? Will I ever be able to start my own family?You don’t want to feel left behind.People will be pressuring you to settle down.Some of them are well-meaning. But it does feel intrusive and disrespectful sometimes.So what to do when you start to worry about your friends moving forward and ahead of you? Remedy:It pays to be patient. There’s nothing wrong with taking your time. How you spend your lifetime is at stake here, so don’t jump into hasty decisions and settle for just anyone.Don’t sabotage your future just because you’re lonely at present.Strip away envy.Be genuinely happy for your friends’ achievements and breakthroughs.Celebrate your victories too. You may not have found The One yet, but the freedom of being single is priceless. Seize every moment. Unlike you, your friends may enjoy their time with their new baby but cannot sleep as much as they want. You can go to bed and wake up at any time.You have everything in your hands to experience life as you please.No commitments. No hassles.Embrace your alone time.Because one day, when you least expect it, it will all be over.Gratitude is the best antidote for envy. Be thankful for what you have and for where you are. Remember when you used to pray for those things? And you have no idea how many people wish they could trade places with you. Giphy Worry #2: My biological clock is ticking! Age affects the fertility of men and women.Studies show that as women age, the chances of conceiving drop.Women are born with all the eggs they will ever have, and as they get older, the eggs get fewer.A woman’s fertility starts to reduce in her early 30s. By age 40, only 1 in 10 women will get pregnant per menstrual cycle. Remedy:Freeze your eggs.Believe in miracles.Consider adoption.If you really want to be a biological mother, your age may be another source of worry if you’re still single.Thanks to modern technology, though, there are ways to increase your chances of having a baby and a healthy one even when you’re 35 and up. Some women opt for other fertility options like IVF or donor eggs.If you can afford it, you can freeze your eggs until you’re ready to have a baby.Remember the stories of Sara and Elizabeth in the Bible? Some people don’t believe in miracles or God, but that’s their call. If God can make Sara a mother at the age of 90 and Elizabeth was 88 when he gave birth to John...Don’t you think you also have the chance to get pregnant even when you’re beyond the ideal age? Hopefully, not as old as these legendary women in the Bible, of course.Nothing’s impossible with a God who can turn water into wine and raise the dead.Believe that you are just as highly favored as the people in the Bible.Or maybe the child for you is already out there, from another family. Waiting for a parent who can give them a better life. GfycatWorry #3: When is Prince Charming going to rescue me? The problem here is all in the head.Maybe because Disney conditioned us to believe that Prince Charming is the only way to get us to the life we want.So when it takes too long for your knight in shining armor to come and get you, you wonder if he’ll arrive.Or if there’s something wrong with you because why wouldn’t anyone want to rescue a fair lady like yourself?Remedy:Get rid of your Cinderella complex. You’ll get disappointed if you depend on others to give you what you need. Waiting for The One will be easier if your love tank is full. Then, it will be an exciting adventure.Remember: You’re not a damsel in distress who needs saving. You’re capable enough to take care of yourself. Stop waiting for love, marriage, and Prince Charming to come along and rescue you, and start designing a life you don’t wish to be rescued from. - Mandy Hale Gfycat Worry #4: I’m not desirable enough. Am I not pretty?Am I too short? Or too tall?Am I not smart enough?Don’t I have the right personality?Am I not dating, girlfriend, or wife material?What is wrong with me? Remedy: Carry yourself with grace.Work on finding your self-worth.Believe that you are enough. Because you really are.Be careful how you talk to yourself because you listen (Lisa M Hayes).God doesn’t create rejects. Just because the glossy pages of beauty magazines tell you you’re not the standard of beauty doesn’t mean they’re right. Who are they to say? They’re just as imperfect as you are.Those women are loaded with heavy makeup and are Photoshopped.Remember that you are beautiful and worthy just the way you are.Nothing is more beautiful and irresistible than confidence. GiphyWorry #5: I’ll end up alone and miserable!Maybe you’ve met old single women who are grumpy and hateful.Maybe you’ve been watching too many movies where they portray women beyond their marrying age as desperate and hostile characters.Or maybe you’ve been putting your happiness in other people’s hands.That’s why you’re worried that you’ll never find joy if you don’t find a partner.Remedy:Choose to be happy! You are as happy and as lonely as you decide to be. Happiness cannot and will never be found in another person or from an outside source. Find the pros of being alone. Being alone is not tantamount to being miserable. You can be in a relationship and still be discontented and lonely. Two happy individuals make a happy relationship. If you’re unhappy in your own company, don’t expect others to be. Giphy Summary: Common Worries and Remedies for Single WomenThe next time worries about being single rear their ugly heads, you know what to do.Kick envy with gratitude.Believe you are favored.Design a life you don’t need rescuing from.Know your worth.Choose to be happy. Never ever compare your story with others, especially those in the movies. Your story is unique. Don’t insult your Maker. It’s not hard to be single. There are many perks to being alone.You’re free. You have a blank canvas.It’s actually exciting if you think about it.Knowing you have many options is like walking at a buffet table.Don’t listen to those making you feel like an outcast because you’re not in a relationship.You’re not!And they don’t hold your future. Stop overthinking and start believing.Stop betting against yourself and start being your own cheerleader.You’re exactly where you should be. But no, you won’t be stuck there forever. Unless you want to. Are you single? What worries you, and what do you do about them?
Dating Finding The Right Shoes And The Right Partner 1:44 AM Finding The Right Shoes And The Right Partner Finding love is like finding shoes. People go after the good-looking ones, but they end up choosing the one they feel comfortable with. -Unknown Finding the Right Shoes and the Right PartnerJournal entryOctober 13, 20108:21 PMScouting the stores to find the perfect pair of shoes is like searching the world for a life partner. Giphy You search far and wide, seeking with anticipation and a heart full of hope. You even try your luck online.You don't want to settle for the cute affordable pair though it's your perfect fit. Maybe because it hurts your toes. The materials used aren't comfortable and durable enough.It's not compatible.You realize you can't endure the pain in exchange for its cheap price. You won't let the perfect physical look deceive you. If it hurts, you let it go. No matter how good it looks. If it won't let you go places and enjoy your freedom, it has no place in your closet. In your life.If it's too expensive and comfy, you scrutinize every inch. Is it really worth it? What if it will leave you with nothing in the end? What if it just looks good, you grit your teeth and pay the price but later on find out it's not the perfect fit?You've been taken advantage of. So you search, and search, and continue searching for the right pair---or the right partner. You never get tired. You don't listen to those telling you to give up and just settle for what's there.Even though they mock your standards. Every day your belief that finding the one that suits you best is almost within reach. You continue to look for the one believing that you will find. You hold on to your vision. You realize that there is joy in waiting, and there is so much to learn in the process. You get to know yourself more; what you really want and what you will not compromise. So you carry on. The world is so big, and the choices seem endless. In your heart, you know you will find the one that's specially made for you. Maybe it's in the next corner waiting for you to claim it at the right time.You keep on keeping on. GiphyBecause you know in the end, finding the right shoes...and the right partner is worth the long quest.This post contains affiliate links so we'd get a commission if you purchase through the links at no additional cost to you.
