Rants Ramblings Of An "Old" Woman 5:22 AM Women may be the one group that grows more radical with age. -Gloria Steinem Ramblings Of An "Old" Woman What’s the fuss about getting old? I've never made it a big deal. I actually still feel like I’m just starting. Call it Peter Pan Syndrome, call it immaturity, call it denial, if you please. Honestly, age never bothered me. What bothers me are the people who are making a fuss about it. I started working when I was 20. At that time, my youngest colleague was 27. The rest are in their early and mid thirties and even fifties. I never called them “old” because I don't consider them as such. I never made snide comments about their age and their status though majority were still single at that time. First, because I think it’s rude and inappropriate. Second, because I don't think being old is a bad thing. Why would it be? And third, because I think it’s none of my business what they do with their lives. When people tell me I'm old I don't argue, because I know I am definitely not that young anymore. But, when people say it like it’s a bad thing, like it’s a curse, like I’m suffering from this pathetic life and doomed to be alone and lonely forever, it bugs me. It shocked me at first. It also bothers me that there are people who have such an idiotic mindset. You'd think people will be more progressive in this modern world, but no. There are still those who choose to live backwards. I didn't realize we are living in a world full of morons until I hit 27. It was then when people started asking me the stupidest questions from, “You’re really that old?” (which is flattering at some point because it is followed by “You look so young!”) to “Are you gonna be an old maid?” and “Don’t you want to have babies?” Valid questions, yes. But to a 27-year old who just got out of a toxic relationship, and is finally starting to enjoy being single? Unfair. Some of these people? They’re 27 now or thereabouts, and they claim that they're still young. Uhm, okay. I think I'm missing something here. Fast forward to today, comments are getting worse, nastier and somewhat more hilarious. I know that some of these people are only concerned with my well-being. They are good friends with good intentions. They just want me to be happy. They just want to see me “normal”, and I'm thankful for that. Not everyone's blessed to have people looking out for them. On the other hand, there are still those who see me as a freak. "Single and over 30? Oh, dear. What's wrong with you? You're doomed." Am I really? Funny, because most of those who are pushing me to be in a relationship are those who are not happy with where they are, some obviously miserable and would want to get out of their relationships given the chance. Others are not even half as experienced as I am. What do they know about what I need and what’s best for me? Modesty aside, it’s not like I don't have a choice. There are those who express their interest. I still have strangers approach me for my number and send random messages online saying they want to get to know me (Now, that’s not flattering. It’s creepy and annoying). If I wanted to, I could easily text someone to come to my place and bring some foods (Filipino inside joke). If I wanted to. But, I don’t. When I say I don’t like this guy, it’s not me playing hard to get. It’s just that I respect their time, and I don't want to waste it as much as I don't want them to waste mine. If I think it’s not going anywhere, why give my attention? Now, you may be asking, how do I know if it’s going nowhere if I don’t give it a try? My answer is, if he really, truly, seriously, undoubtedly, sincerely wants to get to know you, he will find a way. He won't easily give up. Nothing worth having comes easy. And I'd like to believe that I am worth having. So, suck it up. It’s not because I have sky-high standards. After dating frogs, my image of the prince just got clearer. I now know what I want. I have non-negotiables. I think when you've had your fair share of unsuccessful relationships, and have been single for quite a while, you realize that, to be alone is not scary. To be with the wrong person is. Biologically, I know they have a point that my body clock is ticking. I may or may not get pregnant and if I would, it will be risky. So, what about Sarah (wife of Abraham)? What about Elizabeth? Or Ruth? Weren't they way past pregnancy age, and were still blessed? Are you saying they're more favored than you and me? That God has stopped making miracles with the people in the Bible? Even in the present, there are women I know, or whose stories I've heard of that are over 30, but are still able to give birth. I know I sound over-confident here, but I believe that if God is calling me to be a mother, He will make me. There’s a reason why He is infinite. There’s no limit to what He can do. If He’s got other plans, it surely is for the best. I've also got friends who are happily married, in a relationship, and also happily single who tell me to take my time, never rush it, never force it, and be grateful for this special time I have for myself. Guess who I listen to? If your relationship status defines your worth and is tied up to your identity, then you are doomed. If your relationship is making you a better person, by all means, stay in that relationship. If it makes you a miserable human being, leave. Difficult, but not impossible. Same goes with being single. If being alone makes you lonely, it’s best to go out there and meet new people. But, if you’re comfortable and at peace with yourself, there’s no rush in changing that. You can’t stop people from thinking the way they do. Everyone’s entitled to their own opinion---no matter how moronic they may be sometimes. At the end of the day, it’s your opinion that matters, because it is your life. When all the noise of the world fades away, it’s about what your heart whispers. It’s not about what the society dictates, it’s where you feet leads you. When you’re alone in a cold rainy night, are you wishing to be somewhere else, or are you happy exactly where you are? In solitude, it’s not those comments, or insults, or genius suggestions from people who don’t even know what you went through that you will hear. It is your inner voice that will resonate in the silence. What does it say? via Some eCards Photo credit: The Odyssey Online Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Rants The Not So Legendary Ending Of How I Met Your Mother 8:21 PM The Not So Legendary Ending Of How I Met Your Mother Spoiler alert! Just finished watching the not so legendary ending of How I Met Your Mother. I can’t believe that’s how How I Met Your Mother ended! Not cool. After all the heartaches Ted had to endure for nine long seasons, he will end up with Robin? Ugh! It was not mentioned that Ted and Robin got back together in the end. But, it’s not rocket science. Ted has and will always love Robin. Robin finally saw the light and realized that Ted is every woman’s ideal husband. Robin deserves Barney. Duh. But, Ted? He doesn’t deserve Robin. He deserves Tracy. Then again, CBS left us with no choice. Somewhere along the story, Tracy died. As if Ted hasn't been through a lot yet. As if he didn't have enough heartaches in the past yet. So what will poor Theodore do? Go back to his old love Robin who is (surprise, surprise) still single and living with her dogs. As if Robin can just trash and recycle Ted every time. I’m happy that Ted finally found her one true love in Tracy. I’m happy that Lily and Marshall are still together (they are the happily ever after every couple need to emulate). I’m not surprised that Barney is still living his legendary life the way he thinks it must be lived. Although now, he's priority is his love child. I’m just disappointed that after finally living his dream life, Ted will again fall back with Robin. Because he's got no choice anymore. Because his one big love Tracy died. Can life be more cruel? I've got nothing against Robin. She's a loyal friend. She's brave and bold enough to know what she wants and live her life at her own terms. She's not afraid to be alone. She gets what she wants and she's tough. No wonder men go after her. It's just that---I'll say it again and again, Ted doesn't deserve her. Ted deserves more. Ted is too good for her. There must be another way to end this series. It must be--- like the rest of the episodes in the nine long series, legendary. Please. Photo credit: Google images Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Quotes Indifference Because Some People Do Not Deserve Your Emotions 11:04 PM Indifference.in·dif·fer·ence/inˈdif(É™)rÉ™ns/noun: lack of interest, concern, or sympathy. Some people do not deserve your emotions. Some people are not worth your time and feelings. There are those you can refer to as vampires because being around them suck the life out of you: Toxic people. Users. Naysayers. Emotionally immature. It is not your obligation to adjust to them. Don't burden yourself. Life's too short to surround yourself with those who do not appreciate you, respect you or value you. You're not put on earth to suffer for others. You can only help them up to a point. They get to decide if they're going to help themselves or not. Don't waste your energy and your time on those who do not contribute to your well-being. Sometimes it's better to show indifference. Because some people do not deserve your emotions. Want more quotes? Follow About Life and Love on Instagram
Rants Just So You Know 12:57 PM When a woman is quiet it’s not because she doesn't know what to answer and you’re winning. She’s contemplating whether she should say what she thinks or if she’ll just let you think you're really smart and awesome you've left her dumbfounded. Just So You Know When you're still single at the age when "normal" people marry or start a family of their own, people look at you like you're a freak. Sometimes it’s amusing to see the looks on their faces, sometimes it’s flattering when they're surprised to know your age, sometimes it’s downright irritating. Especially when you hear comments from small minded individuals. People who think something’s wrong with you and not for a second think that there must have been a good reason why you chose to stay single instead of panicking like it’s the end of the world and you're doomed because no one’s “put a ring on it” yet. Honestly, I don't know if I'd ever get used to people who were born with a life mission of criticizing every single detail in your life like they're paid to do it. I’m torn between wanting to be a good Christian and unleashing that clawed bitch in me. As always, the good side wins. So I just bite my tongue and force a smile every time. And try with all the strength I could muster to NOT NOT speak my mind when addressing their comments. It’s like there’s this voice inside me saying, “Easy there, tiger. He’s not worth the energy”. So I back away and another poor person’s life has been spared from humiliation and utter harsh verbal combat from moi. When a woman is quiet it’s not because she doesn't know what to answer and you’re winning. She’s contemplating whether she should say what she thinks or if she’ll just let you think you're really smart and awesome you've left her dumbfounded. Just so you know. See also: Ramblings Of An Old Woman
Rants The Sun, The Moon, And The Truth 10:40 PM Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth." -Buddha Everyone lies, including me. As the song goes, "Honesty is such a lonely word. Everyone is so untrue." Still, it hurts like a mother when you're the one being lied to. Especially when the person would rather die than tell you the truth, and you know you did nothing to deserve it. I think it's the thought that you don't even matter to know the truth that hurts the most. It's discrediting. It's condescending. It makes you regret all the lies you told before as karma's acting like an unforgiving bitch to you. Also makes you angry at yourself for trusting too much. Oh, well. Life's like that. I guess we all need to remember to think about what our words can do to our lives, and other people's lives before we say anything. Words are potent indeed. It can make or break us. The Sun, The Moon, And The Truth Lies, no matter how sugar coated they may be will always always always break the liar and the person being lied to. I don't know why we have to build a web of lies but I think, desperation or ego sometimes get in the way that you choose lying over telling the truth. Maybe you want to protect the other person's feelings, or you just want to get away with something without being a d*ckhole. No matter what your intentions are, the end still does not justify the means. Whichever angle you try to look at it, it's still ugly. It's still unfair to the persons involved. It still destroys what has been built. One lie can change everything else, especially the way other people see you. Funny thing about the truth is that you can run from it, you can hide from it but, you can never escape it. It will always come out. It's like the universe put a default button to it that no law or adjustment can ever hide it. No lie can ever erase it. No one can ever change it. No matter how hard you try to convince other people, including yourself, the truth will find a way to reveal itself...always. Amazing! It's like the Law of Gravity. It's like the sun and the moon. No matter how cloudy it gets, it's just there and it will come out. It cannot be hidden forever. The funny thing about lying is watching the liar's reactions. It can be really entertaining. He seems convincing at first, fighting for what he seems to believe in but eventually crumbles before your eyes. He avoids you like a plague and eventually shuts his mouth. See, it's tiring to defend what's not true. You have to constantly think about new ideas, new reasons, new ways to convince people. You become inconsistent until you can't keep up with yourself. You forget where you've started, where you left off and you don't know when and where to end. It's actually fun to observe how the liar loses his power when the truth finally unveils itself. Ultimately, no lie can ever overshadow the truth. But the best thing about telling and knowing the truth is that it sets you free. Pinterest Gifs from giphy Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks!
Rants I Forgive You 11:41 PM I Forgive You i forgive you, though you're not truly sorry. i forgive you, though it still hurts and i don't know when the hurting would stop. i forgive you, not because you deserve it. we both know you don't. i forgive you, because i deserve to be happy again. we both know i do. forgive me if it took me this long to find the courage to forgive you. pray for me, that i'll finally find it in my heart to forgive myself for allowing you to hurt me.
Rants Never Underestimate A Woman's Ability To Find Things Out 11:12 PM A woman's intuition. It's uncanny.No one escapes it. When she spies on someone, she shames Sherlock Holmes. She can put two and two together by listening to random conversations, reading comments and tweets, and browsing tagged photos. She can figure things out from the smallest details you give her.The lilt in your voice. The faintest flicker in your eyes. The one piece of information that doesn't seem to fit the puzzle.They all add up to a woman's brilliant mind.So, never ever underestimate a woman's ability to find things out. She's always one step ahead of you.You're only making a fool of yourself if you think you'll outsmart her. Photo: Pinterest
Rants Reaction On Cyber Crime Law 11:14 PM If liberty means anything at all, it means the right to tell people what they do not want to hear. -George Orwell I don't want to write about something I don't fully understand. I honestly haven't read the article yet as whenever I click the link there's an error. Sabotage? Maybe. Do I go to jail with that presumption? Well, I'm out of the "territory" so I assume I'm safe. Disclaimer: What you will read here is just according to my limited knowledge of the law and my response to it. Reaction on Cyber Crime Law So what are the grounds? With the number of Filipinos who are actively using Facebook and other social networking sites, how can the government keep track? What is prohibited? What is the penalty for such crime? Not sure. But there's one thing I know; the government is trying to distract the Philippines again from the real issue. Every time something serious comes up, expect another attention-grabbing issue that will follow. Something of less importance as compared to the main problem. It's like a pattern. We're all aware of it but instead of focusing on the main issue, we let the media and the government distract us. Nagpapauto na lang. I'm not a fan of news or T.V. so I'm not that aware. My only source is Facebook and you can't believe everything you read. All I know is that a few weeks ago, pro and anti RH Bill are posting photos and statuses one after the other on their walls and now, this. Did I miss anything? I'm a little passive so when I've read about the news, I didn't react immediately. My first thought was just, "Sigh. Who's idea is this this time?". Do we really need to waste time tracking statuses, photos, blogs, likes and comments (if the last two are really included)? So how about poverty? What say you? Will this cyber crime really solve our problem? Is everyone even aware what the main problem of the country is to begin with? Will this make us more progressive? They say, you'll know what solution to take if you know what your problem is. So my dear countrymen, have you yet figured out what is the root cause of all these chaos? Or are we turning a blind eye again and sweeping the real issue under the rug like we always do? Diyan tayo magaling. Instead of keeping ourselves busy impeding freedom of speech, why don't we just think of ways that can help eliminate the real problem? This sounds familiar. People busy scrutinizing another, searching for flaws but keeps on ignoring their own? Do we not see them everyday? These are the big time power trippers. Since hindi ma solve ang issue sa buhay, maghanap ng issue ng iba. Mas madali nga naman yun. Well, they say if you face a challenge don't react, rather respond. Let's fight for our freedom of speech. But let's not forget to attend to what really matters. If there's one thing you think we should change in our country that will get us out of our situation, what would it be? Will this cyber crime hullabaloo save the starving children in the streets? Will it shelter the countless homeless family? Will it stop the flood when another storm visit our territory? C'mon. Akala ko ba magaling ang Pinoy? That's all I have to say for now. Is that police siren I'm hearing outside? Damn. Photo credit: Digitalmoz Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
