Dating Strangers Again 8:30 AM Strangers Again How can you look at the same familiar eyes and not see the person you used to know... and love? Strangers Again One moment it seems as if nothing can separate you from this one person, and the next moment, you're strangers again. All good times are gone, and all promises vanished. It's sad when you see two people share their lives; laughter, secrets, and special and ordinary moments...Then one day, completely ignore one another. Like total strangers. The world around them is oblivious.Unaware that these two strangers who are avoiding each others' eyes, acting as if they don’t know one another used to share a world of their own that no one else can join in. Strange. Curious. How can you look at the same familiar eyes and not see the person you used to know... and love? Is he still there somewhere?Does he remember?Was it all a bad dream?Everything that happened feels like ages ago, so long that you start to wonder if it was even real. What of those who have been a huge part of your life, your plans for the future, you've given your all to, but whom life wouldn't allow you to be with anymore? What happens when your paths cross again? Do you keep ignoring one another until you've totally forgotten that certain phase in your life when you had each other? Until you both become a blurry memory that you’ll soon forget?Do all happy beginnings have to end with you being strangers again?
Dating 10 Signs Your Partner Is A Man-Child And Not A Man 11:00 AM Manhood is defined and decided by the ability to nurture and to protect, by the capability to provide and sustain. -C. JoyBell C. It's easy to shrug off some flaws and accept someone out of love. But what if it's a glaring red flag, and you're in danger of not only sabotaging the relationship but also destroying yourself in the process? What if your partner is not the man you thought he was? Tracey Clayton gives a clear and concise explanation in knowing the difference between a man and a man-child. I hope you enjoy learning from her article as much as I did. 10 Signs Your Partner Is A Man-Child And Not A Man It is known that men are slow to mature compared to women. It is also said that men are ‘children inside’. But as much fun as it may seem to have a male child by your side, it can sometimes get irritating. When in a relationship, we tend to notice details that show us that he is still ‘green’ and on the long road to maturity. It’s not the same as being in a relationship with a guy who can show his inner child and with a child who only appears to be an adult. If you observe him carefully, you can see for yourself what group your partner belongs to. Photo: mannaexpressonline.com 1. No control over his financesA mature man recognizes the importance of money and knows he should have a budget to live peacefully. If you barely make ends meet and in the end, it is you who pay the bills; if he doesn’t know what he spent the money on and you have fights due to his lack of financial responsibility too often...It's time to think about where your relationship is going. 2. His mom is always aroundYou can tell much about a man based on his relationship with his mother. If he always has to have his mother’s food, has his mom wash his clothes, calls her all the time, and vice versa...It means that he hasn’t stopped being her baby. You need a man who is aware of the importance of loving and respecting his mom while also remaining aware that he can step into adult life independently. actionagogo.com 3. His priorities haven’t changedWhen men are young, they have a lot of fun, risky, and crazy ideas about their future. Eventually, their priorities should change, and they should start thinking about a safe future, settling down, and being independent. It will be easy to realize whether he has already become a grown man or he’s still a teenager, something that wouldn’t suit you in the slightest. 4. Partying as if he were 18Women enjoy going out at weekends and having some fun with their partners while keeping their composure. We do not like to be forced to keep watch to prevent our partners from making a scandal in front of people. Or to prevent trouble, men can cause when they are with a group of friends and under the influence of alcohol. If we will be babysitting, we better do it back home. 5. He fears commitment A mature man is aware of everything involved in having a serious relationship. Especially about spending enough time together. Commitment does not only refer to marriage but also to the respect people involved should have for each other.If your partner constantly avoids the topic of your future together or acts as if he were single, better think again about dating him. Photo: workopolis.com 6. They do not know how to express what they feel We all know that some men find it hard to verbalize what they are thinking or feeling.A mature guy at least tries to. Maturity implies the ability to recognize oneself, to say what bothers you, and to tell that to the other person to avoid possible hurt. Being with a man with a poker face is frustrating and exhausting. 7. Completely ignoring his personal appearance Picture this:You have an appointment and pick out your best suit for the occasion. Here comes your man in old, ripped jeans and a wrinkled shirt. Horrible!Everyone has a personal style, but you can tell a lot about a man if he at least cares about his appearance. Don’t tell me you wouldn’t feel happy to walk hand in hand with a man who looks friendly and presentable. 8. They don’t accept their mistakes Saying ‘sorry’ signifies that the man you're dating is mature enough to admit mistakes. They accept that those mistakes can have some serious consequences. No relationship is perfect. If he thinks he's never guilty and tries to belittle you for being upset, the damage to your relationship can be severe.9. Collecting toysThere’s nothing wrong with being passionate about something. But if your partner constantly spends money on insignificant things like:new video gamespopular bobbleheads he rarely takes out of the packagingor tiny cars that he just can’t get enough of, etc. Then his adulthood is definitely in question.This kind of behavior points to certain psychological problems that your partner (or both of you) needs to deal with as soon as possible. Photo: funko.com 10. His childish things are the most important in the world If you’re not allowed to touch his precious books or ‘play’ with his toy cars...If you got yelled at just because you moved one of his things to a different spot...There’s definitely something wrong with your relationship. You should at least try to talk about it and dig the root of this issue. Irresponsible and immature behavior is a sign of emotional instability. It's nice to nurture the child in you, but if your guy is more of a boy than a man all the time, it can be challenging. Remember, sometimes you need to accept that your relationship harms you and that it is perfectly OK to seek happiness. Breaking up with someone because he’s childish is not always the right answer. But you should aspire to find a way to make it work.Seek help. And please, never ignore the red flags. About the author: Tracey Clayton is a full-time mom of three girls. She loves cooking, baking, sewing, and spending quality time with her daughters, and she’s passionate about writing. She contributes to High Style Life, whose motto is: “Live the life you love, love the life you live.” Find her on Facebook and Twitter.
Dating 5 Common Worries Of A Single Woman & What To Do About Them 2:35 AM 5 Common Worries Of A Single Woman & What To Do About Them Is being single worth losing sleep over? It’s 2 AM. The world is quiet and sleeping. But here you are. Lying awake in bed wondering if you’d ever find The One. You wish you could fast forward and skip to the good part.But you can’t.You’re single AF. Uncertainties start to overwhelm you. Self-doubt begins to dampen your spirit.The future looks scary...mainly because you feel alone.You try to shake off that negative feeling and ask, “How do I stop worrying about being single?”Don’t fret. For every anxiety, there is a remedy.What do single women worry about the most?Here are five common worries of a single woman and what to do about them. Worry #1: All my friends are getting married or pregnant!When you see your peers celebrating milestones and feel like you’re stuck, it’s easy to feel insecure.You start questioning what’s next for you.When am I going to meet my spouse? Will I ever be able to start my own family?You don’t want to feel left behind.People will be pressuring you to settle down.Some of them are well-meaning. But it does feel intrusive and disrespectful sometimes.So what to do when you start to worry about your friends moving forward and ahead of you? Remedy:It pays to be patient. There’s nothing wrong with taking your time. How you spend your lifetime is at stake here, so don’t jump into hasty decisions and settle for just anyone.Don’t sabotage your future just because you’re lonely at present.Strip away envy.Be genuinely happy for your friends’ achievements and breakthroughs.Celebrate your victories too. You may not have found The One yet, but the freedom of being single is priceless. Seize every moment. Unlike you, your friends may enjoy their time with their new baby but cannot sleep as much as they want. You can go to bed and wake up at any time.You have everything in your hands to experience life as you please.No commitments. No hassles.Embrace your alone time.Because one day, when you least expect it, it will all be over.Gratitude is the best antidote for envy. Be thankful for what you have and for where you are. Remember when you used to pray for those things? And you have no idea how many people wish they could trade places with you. Giphy Worry #2: My biological clock is ticking! Age affects the fertility of men and women.Studies show that as women age, the chances of conceiving drop.Women are born with all the eggs they will ever have, and as they get older, the eggs get fewer.A woman’s fertility starts to reduce in her early 30s. By age 40, only 1 in 10 women will get pregnant per menstrual cycle. Remedy:Freeze your eggs.Believe in miracles.Consider adoption.If you really want to be a biological mother, your age may be another source of worry if you’re still single.Thanks to modern technology, though, there are ways to increase your chances of having a baby and a healthy one even when you’re 35 and up. Some women opt for other fertility options like IVF or donor eggs.If you can afford it, you can freeze your eggs until you’re ready to have a baby.Remember the stories of Sara and Elizabeth in the Bible? Some people don’t believe in miracles or God, but that’s their call. If God can make Sara a mother at the age of 90 and Elizabeth was 88 when he gave birth to John...Don’t you think you also have the chance to get pregnant even when you’re beyond the ideal age? Hopefully, not as old as these legendary women in the Bible, of course.Nothing’s impossible with a God who can turn water into wine and raise the dead.Believe that you are just as highly favored as the people in the Bible.Or maybe the child for you is already out there, from another family. Waiting for a parent who can give them a better life. GfycatWorry #3: When is Prince Charming going to rescue me? The problem here is all in the head.Maybe because Disney conditioned us to believe that Prince Charming is the only way to get us to the life we want.So when it takes too long for your knight in shining armor to come and get you, you wonder if he’ll arrive.Or if there’s something wrong with you because why wouldn’t anyone want to rescue a fair lady like yourself?Remedy:Get rid of your Cinderella complex. You’ll get disappointed if you depend on others to give you what you need. Waiting for The One will be easier if your love tank is full. Then, it will be an exciting adventure.Remember: You’re not a damsel in distress who needs saving. You’re capable enough to take care of yourself. Stop waiting for love, marriage, and Prince Charming to come along and rescue you, and start designing a life you don’t wish to be rescued from. - Mandy Hale Gfycat Worry #4: I’m not desirable enough. Am I not pretty?Am I too short? Or too tall?Am I not smart enough?Don’t I have the right personality?Am I not dating, girlfriend, or wife material?What is wrong with me? Remedy: Carry yourself with grace.Work on finding your self-worth.Believe that you are enough. Because you really are.Be careful how you talk to yourself because you listen (Lisa M Hayes).God doesn’t create rejects. Just because the glossy pages of beauty magazines tell you you’re not the standard of beauty doesn’t mean they’re right. Who are they to say? They’re just as imperfect as you are.Those women are loaded with heavy makeup and are Photoshopped.Remember that you are beautiful and worthy just the way you are.Nothing is more beautiful and irresistible than confidence. GiphyWorry #5: I’ll end up alone and miserable!Maybe you’ve met old single women who are grumpy and hateful.Maybe you’ve been watching too many movies where they portray women beyond their marrying age as desperate and hostile characters.Or maybe you’ve been putting your happiness in other people’s hands.That’s why you’re worried that you’ll never find joy if you don’t find a partner.Remedy:Choose to be happy! You are as happy and as lonely as you decide to be. Happiness cannot and will never be found in another person or from an outside source. Find the pros of being alone. Being alone is not tantamount to being miserable. You can be in a relationship and still be discontented and lonely. Two happy individuals make a happy relationship. If you’re unhappy in your own company, don’t expect others to be. Giphy Summary: Common Worries and Remedies for Single WomenThe next time worries about being single rear their ugly heads, you know what to do.Kick envy with gratitude.Believe you are favored.Design a life you don’t need rescuing from.Know your worth.Choose to be happy. Never ever compare your story with others, especially those in the movies. Your story is unique. Don’t insult your Maker. It’s not hard to be single. There are many perks to being alone.You’re free. You have a blank canvas.It’s actually exciting if you think about it.Knowing you have many options is like walking at a buffet table.Don’t listen to those making you feel like an outcast because you’re not in a relationship.You’re not!And they don’t hold your future. Stop overthinking and start believing.Stop betting against yourself and start being your own cheerleader.You’re exactly where you should be. But no, you won’t be stuck there forever. Unless you want to. Are you single? What worries you, and what do you do about them?
Dating 15 Signs You're Comfortable Being Single 2:14 AM It's good for a person to spend time alone. It gives them an opportunity to discover who they are and to figure out why they are always alone. -Amy Sedaris This post was originally written for and posted on Thought Catalog. 15 Signs You're Comfortable Being Single 1. You’re okay staying in on a beautiful weekend. You don't call random people to hang out on a sunny Saturday. You'd raYou’dcatch up on your reading or watch your favorite re-runs. 2. You are sincerely happy about your friends' milestones, engagements, weddings, and new babies. 3. You don't get uncomfortable when you go out with other couples. 4. You can dine out, watch a movie or travel alone. 5. When someone asks about your relationship status, you answer honestly without batting an eye because you don't think it's embarrassing or lame to be alone in a couple-filled world. 6. Your calendar is always full: vacations, breakfast/lunch/dinner with old friends, movie dates with your siblings or friends, seminars, and other essential activities outside work/school.7. When people think something's wrong with you because you’re single, you conclude that there’s wrong with them. 8. You don't know how it is to be dating or in a relationship anymore, and it doesn't bother you one bit.How many times do you need to send them messages? Which decisions do you need to consult with them about? (And why?). 9. You ignore the sweet nothings you receive in your inbox or phone because you don’t have time for someone you know is not severe or is not showing potential for a partner. 10. You are genuinely happy with where you are right now, even when things aren't going your way.11. Your plans may involve settling down, but you're not pressured to do it any time soon. 12. You hate asking someone's permission to buy something or go somewhere. So you come, and you go as you please. 13. You enjoy your own company, so you don’t feel like missing out on something. 14. Your heart goes out to those who are afraid to be alone and wish they’ll see the light and embrace singleness rather than be in an unhappy relationship only because they want to feel secure. 15. You’re not bitter about your failed relationships anymore. You are actually grateful that it ended. If it didn’t, you wouldn't be this happy right now.How comfortable - and happy - are you with your status?Hero image
Dating Finding The Right Shoes And The Right Partner 1:44 AM Finding The Right Shoes And The Right Partner Finding love is like finding shoes. People go after the good-looking ones, but they end up choosing the one they feel comfortable with. -Unknown Finding the Right Shoes and the Right PartnerJournal entryOctober 13, 20108:21 PMScouting the stores to find the perfect pair of shoes is like searching the world for a life partner. Giphy You search far and wide, seeking with anticipation and a heart full of hope. You even try your luck online.You don't want to settle for the cute affordable pair though it's your perfect fit. Maybe because it hurts your toes. The materials used aren't comfortable and durable enough.It's not compatible.You realize you can't endure the pain in exchange for its cheap price. You won't let the perfect physical look deceive you. If it hurts, you let it go. No matter how good it looks. If it won't let you go places and enjoy your freedom, it has no place in your closet. In your life.If it's too expensive and comfy, you scrutinize every inch. Is it really worth it? What if it will leave you with nothing in the end? What if it just looks good, you grit your teeth and pay the price but later on find out it's not the perfect fit?You've been taken advantage of. So you search, and search, and continue searching for the right pair---or the right partner. You never get tired. You don't listen to those telling you to give up and just settle for what's there.Even though they mock your standards. Every day your belief that finding the one that suits you best is almost within reach. You continue to look for the one believing that you will find. You hold on to your vision. You realize that there is joy in waiting, and there is so much to learn in the process. You get to know yourself more; what you really want and what you will not compromise. So you carry on. The world is so big, and the choices seem endless. In your heart, you know you will find the one that's specially made for you. Maybe it's in the next corner waiting for you to claim it at the right time.You keep on keeping on. GiphyBecause you know in the end, finding the right shoes...and the right partner is worth the long quest.This post contains affiliate links so we'd get a commission if you purchase through the links at no additional cost to you.
Dating About Hush Puppies And Finding Your One True Love 11:26 PM Our feet are one of the most overworked and neglected parts of our bodies. Last weekend I went shopping with my friend and saw a big SALE sign.Hush Puppies.Because my current pair's already on the verge of giving up on me, we went inside.And there I found...Comfortable. Stylish. Great quality pairs. Like that cute little puppy that wags its tail when it sees you come home, these things bring comfort. This shoe shopping got me thinking...About Hush Puppies and Finding Your One True Love Searching for the right pair of shoes is like finding your one true love. There are many prospects out there. You'd be tempted to take the one that looks stylish. Unless you try it on though, you'll never know if it's right for you. Most of the time, it isn't. Sad but true. Looks could really be deceiving. So you move on and look for another one. The search seems endless and futile.If you're not patient, you'll settle for what's there in front of you. Regardless if you like it or not.But settling for less will only make you regret your decision in the end. Learn to enjoy the waiting moment and the search. The longer the journey, the sweeter it will be when you finally arrive at your destination.The more challenging the search, the more you'll cherish it when you find it.The pain you endured while walking around looking...The frustration that comes with disappointment if it doesn't fit...It'll be worth it. I promise.And bring a friend with you!A patient friend who also believes you'll be victorious in the end.A friend who wants the best for you. Who will not abandon you when the going gets tough.A friend who can help you see reason.Friends are angels in disguise. When you finally found the one, you'll be thankful for all those that didn't work out. They'll help you treasure the right one.They'll make you see the difference. The right pair of shoes, as with your one true love, doesn't have to be perfect. Nothing is. It just has to be the right fit.It should make you feel at home. Comfortable. And like you can go places. I'm glad I finally found the one... The one pair of shoes, that is. 😁Edit: I wrote this when I was single. The search for the right one is finally over. I'm now happily married to my husband who is my home, my comfort, and who makes me feel like I can go places. This post contains affiliate links. Meaning I get a commission if you purchase through my links at no additional cost to you. This helps me maintain my site. Thanks in advance.
