Listicle 10 Things You'll Only Understand If You're A Woman 9:00 PM 10 Things You'll Only Understand If You're A Woman I'm a woman of the desert. But above all, I'm a woman.-Paulo Coelho How hard is it to be a woman in this patriarchal society?Are women just making a big fuss out of it because they like drama?Do women really love drama in the first place?Women make it look effortless to be a female in a male-dominated world.But there are things you'll never understand if you're not a woman yourself. 1. The physical transformation from a girl to a grown womanThe shift from a little girl to full-blown womanhood is beautiful but physically painful at the same time. Your breasts become sore and sensitive. You deal with the unfamiliar and torturous pain of dysmenorrhea or menstrual cramps.The physical transformation can make you feel clumsy. The psychological change makes you awkward.Welcome to womanhood! Something you'll never understand if you're not a natural-born woman. Giphy 2. The vulnerability that comes with being a woman No matter how brave you are, a woman's physical strength is no match for men. There are some exemptions, of course, but generally speaking, men are still stronger physically.As a woman, you're an easy target for an assault.If you're not a woman, you won't understand what it's like to be a walking sexual object. You'll only understand the vulnerability of being a woman if you're one. Giphy 3. Dealing with the annoying and scary catcalling Sometimes catcalling can be easily ignored and are harmless. But it can also get abusive, offensive, and scary. Catcalling is not about how you look or how skimpy your dress is. It's because you're a woman, and some men are disrespectful, seeing women as sexual objects more than human beings. You could be all wrapped up and still be catcalled. Because it's not you. It's them.Only a woman who has had to deal with catcalling, probably since she was 11, will understand how terrible it is to be on the receiving end of jeering. Giphy 4. The pain of menstrual cramps, pregnancy, labor pain, and actual birth-giving.Oh, the excruciating period pain a woman has to deal with. Every. Single. Month.As your uterus contracts, you feel sharp poking pain and tightening around your lower abdomen.But it doesn't end there.No, gentlemen. It's more complex.You also feel soreness in your breast and around your hip and lower back.Your legs feel as though you ran miles for hours and back again.As a bonus, you'll even get a splitting headache sometimes.You're in a constant ruthless circle of pain.Doctors acknowledge period pain can be almost as bad as a heart attack.A heart attack!And the world expects you to keep going like nothing's happening.Because women can.They carry on as if everything's normal.Women make being a woman easy even when many things happen in their bodies simultaneously.Like you're being tortured, you feel murderous, but you have to keep that sweet smile on your face. And let's not forget that giving birth is life-threatening. There's a 50/50 chance that a mother will not survive.Only a natural-born woman can understand the pain and discomfort of menstrual cramps, pregnancy, labor pain, and actual birth-giving.This post contains affiliate links, so we'd get a commission if you purchase through the links at no additional cost. Giphy Here's a fun reaction from Joshua Caldwell-Clarke when he found out about period pain. 5. The crazy hormonal change only a woman goes through. PMS (Premenstrual Syndrome) is a heartless bitch. And from what I've heard, so is menopause. Know how postpartum severe depression could get?Some lead to suicide.When a woman experiences hormonal change, the term mood swings don't give it justice.Your hormones are going crazy, and no lessons about the human anatomy can prepare you for the onslaught of irritability, sudden sadness, and sensitivity.Sometimes you just feel like crying for no apparent reason.There's also this weird craving for something so badly, often during the middle of the night, but not knowing what that something is. Giphy 6. The uncanny intuition of a woman. It's been planted in every woman's DNA to sense danger fast for her to protect her child. It comes in handy for other instances too. FBI should hire more female investigators. They can unearth secrets better. According to a study, women generally access their memories faster than males and date them more precisely.A woman can tell something's wrong even without clear evidence. Yet.A woman would remember what you said on March 19, 2001, at exactly 11:27 am. 😏From experience, a woman's intuition has never been wrong. Giphy 7. The stereotyping and labels that are given to women. If a man dates around, he's cool. He's suave. If a woman dates random guys, she's a slut. If a man stays single, he's an eligible bachelor. So he becomes a prize women should compete for. People are excited to know if he'll settle down anytime soon. If a woman is still single in her 30s, she will become a lonely, desperate spinster for the rest of her life. People pity or make fun of her. Where a man is called driven and assertive, a woman is too ambitious and bossy. Where a man is applauded for speaking his mind, a woman is called a bitch and a know-it-all.You'll never understand why women must fight harder to break the stereotype unless you're a woman too.Tenor 8. Gender discrimination and the need to fight for equality Even in our progressive society, some women are still paid less than their male counterparts.This is sad since studies show that female-led companies perform better.Meryl Streep said, "I was offered three witches [roles] when I turned 40 - in one year. And I thought: 'Oh, this is how it's gonna go?'"It seems the world thinks women are less bankable than men, especially as they age, so they deserve lesser pay.Gender discrimination is everywhere and has been around since time immemorial. Women have been underestimated, overruled, pushed aside, and pushed around for a long time.If you're a woman, you'll only understand the struggle and the need to fight for equal rights. 9. The joy and beauty of carrying and giving birth.I think women are foolish to pretend they are equal to men. They are far superior and always have been. Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater. If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby. - William GoldingFrom conception to childbirth, a woman's body does not stop growing a miracle in her womb---a beautiful baby.According to studies, residual fetal cells stay in the mother's body after giving birth. So her children will always be a part of her. Literally.And you'll never understand childbearing and childbirth unless you have a uterus. Tenor 10. The unique qualities only a real woman is privileged to possess.Are women better than men?Indeed there are many ways where men excel, and they deserve to be celebrated and honored.But women also possess qualities that are unique only to them.Here are 20 things women do more and better than men.If you don't have the xx chromosomes, you don't and can't have them.Giphy All these beautiful and not-so-pleasant things a biological woman goes through and possesses are precisely what makes her what she is. Being a woman is more than what meets the eye. It's more than physical. To become a woman, you need more than a makeover or a sex transplant. Just because you grow breasts, wear a dress, put on some makeup, and identify as a woman, doesn't make you one. You'll never know or understand what being a woman really is unless you were born as one.
Dating 10 Signs Your Partner Is A Man-Child And Not A Man 9:00 PM Manhood is defined and decided by the ability to nurture and to protect, by the capability to provide and sustain. -C. JoyBell C. It's easy to shrug off some flaws and accept someone out of love. But what if it's a glaring red flag, and you're in danger of not only sabotaging the relationship but also destroying yourself in the process? What if your partner is not the man you thought he was? Tracey Clayton gives a clear and concise explanation in knowing the difference between a man and a man-child. I hope you enjoy learning from her article as much as I did. 10 Signs Your Partner Is A Man-Child And Not A Man It is known that men are slow to mature compared to women. It is also said that men are ‘children inside’. But as much fun as it may seem to have a male child by your side, it can sometimes get irritating. When in a relationship, we tend to notice details that show us that he is still ‘green’ and on the long road to maturity. It’s not the same as being in a relationship with a guy who can show his inner child and with a child who only appears to be an adult. If you observe him carefully, you can see for yourself what group your partner belongs to. Photo: mannaexpressonline.com 1. No control over his financesA mature man recognizes the importance of money and knows he should have a budget to live peacefully. If you barely make ends meet and in the end, it is you who pay the bills; if he doesn’t know what he spent the money on and you have fights due to his lack of financial responsibility too often...It's time to think about where your relationship is going. 2. His mom is always aroundYou can tell much about a man based on his relationship with his mother. If he always has to have his mother’s food, has his mom wash his clothes, calls her all the time, and vice versa...It means that he hasn’t stopped being her baby. You need a man who is aware of the importance of loving and respecting his mom while also remaining aware that he can step into adult life independently. actionagogo.com 3. His priorities haven’t changedWhen men are young, they have a lot of fun, risky, and crazy ideas about their future. Eventually, their priorities should change, and they should start thinking about a safe future, settling down, and being independent. It will be easy to realize whether he has already become a grown man or he’s still a teenager, something that wouldn’t suit you in the slightest. 4. Partying as if he were 18Women enjoy going out at weekends and having some fun with their partners while keeping their composure. We do not like to be forced to keep watch to prevent our partners from making a scandal in front of people. Or to prevent trouble, men can cause when they are with a group of friends and under the influence of alcohol. If we will be babysitting, we better do it back home. 5. He fears commitment A mature man is aware of everything involved in having a serious relationship. Especially about spending enough time together. Commitment does not only refer to marriage but also to the respect people involved should have for each other.If your partner constantly avoids the topic of your future together or acts as if he were single, better think again about dating him. Photo: workopolis.com 6. They do not know how to express what they feel We all know that some men find it hard to verbalize what they are thinking or feeling.A mature guy at least tries to. Maturity implies the ability to recognize oneself, to say what bothers you, and to tell that to the other person to avoid possible hurt. Being with a man with a poker face is frustrating and exhausting. 7. Completely ignoring his personal appearance Picture this:You have an appointment and pick out your best suit for the occasion. Here comes your man in old, ripped jeans and a wrinkled shirt. Horrible!Everyone has a personal style, but you can tell a lot about a man if he at least cares about his appearance. Don’t tell me you wouldn’t feel happy to walk hand in hand with a man who looks friendly and presentable. 8. They don’t accept their mistakes Saying ‘sorry’ signifies that the man you're dating is mature enough to admit mistakes. They accept that those mistakes can have some serious consequences. No relationship is perfect. If he thinks he's never guilty and tries to belittle you for being upset, the damage to your relationship can be severe.9. Collecting toysThere’s nothing wrong with being passionate about something. But if your partner constantly spends money on insignificant things like:new video gamespopular bobbleheads he rarely takes out of the packagingor tiny cars that he just can’t get enough of, etc. Then his adulthood is definitely in question.This kind of behavior points to certain psychological problems that your partner (or both of you) needs to deal with as soon as possible. Photo: funko.com 10. His childish things are the most important in the world If you’re not allowed to touch his precious books or ‘play’ with his toy cars...If you got yelled at just because you moved one of his things to a different spot...There’s definitely something wrong with your relationship. You should at least try to talk about it and dig the root of this issue. Irresponsible and immature behavior is a sign of emotional instability. It's nice to nurture the child in you, but if your guy is more of a boy than a man all the time, it can be challenging. Remember, sometimes you need to accept that your relationship harms you and that it is perfectly OK to seek happiness. Breaking up with someone because he’s childish is not always the right answer. But you should aspire to find a way to make it work.Seek help. And please, never ignore the red flags. About the author: Tracey Clayton is a full-time mom of three girls. She loves cooking, baking, sewing, and spending quality time with her daughters, and she’s passionate about writing. She contributes to High Style Life, whose motto is: “Live the life you love, love the life you live.” Find her on Facebook and Twitter.
Fashion & Style The Magic Of Internet And Coupons 6:00 PM Buying something on sale is a very special feeling. In fact, the less I pay for something, the more it is worth to me. -Rita Rudner Sometimes I wonder what our life would be like without the internet. We’d still survive. We used to get by before this era and we came out okay, didn’t we? But the fast and convenient lifestyle this technology offers is so hard to resist. It has even revolutionized our shopping experience. Shopping without traffic or hassle, and great deals and coupons available everyday! Who would have thought this day would come? If we talked about this decades ago, we’d think it’s almost like magic. And I don't know about you but when I buy something with a coupon or in a bargain, I feel sooo good! CouponzGuru offers that. For example, they have the latest Chumbak coupon codes, and the best promo deals from Chumbak.com. It’s an e-Commerce Shopping Website in India offering trendy products. Chumbak.com has a huge collection of gorgeous apparels; flip flops, bags, travel and tech accessories, jewelries, key chains, mugs, photo frames, mobile cases, etc. CouponzGuru also have the latest Jabong coupons and deals. Jabong has become one of India's popular online shopping website. It is the country’s leading fashion and lifestyle e-tailer with over 200+ brands online. Jabong also has beauty products, cosmetics, jewelries and furniture. They have Nike, Puma, Reebok, Casio, Swayam, Van Heusen, Allen Solly, Adidas and over 200+ more brands. Aren’t they versatile? Speaking of Adidas, Adidas coupons are also available at CouponzGuru. For the sporty fashionista who loves Adidas but does not have much time to visit their store, CouponzGuru is your fairy godmother. We all work hard and we deserve to get the best value for our money without stressing out in the process. [Tweet this] With the internet and with the help of sites like CouponzGuru, there is surely something for everyone’s needs. And all that with just one click. Like magic. This post contains affiliate links.
Life Lessons 6 Things I Will Never Do To My Future Kids 6:00 PM They say that parenting is like dancing. You take one step, your child takes another. -Michael Jackson They say "never say never". They also say no book nor class can ever prepare you for motherhood and raising kids. But reading mommy blogs and talking to my mommy friends made me also realize that it is a deliberate decision how you want to talk to or act around your kids. Not just an instinct-driven choice. And it inspired me to write this post. I salute all mothers who use all their willpower to control their temper and not lose their ish when things go really loud and wild inside the house. It's funny how they write about their experiences, but I'm sure it's not funny at all when chaos happens. You are all real heroes! 6 Things I Will Never Do To My Future Kids Compare I will never compare my kids with another, even with their siblings. I'm sure some parents mean well and think that comparing their kids would motivate them. But the subliminal message of comparing is: "You are not good enough". Or "unless you be like or be better than this kid, you will never get my approval." I will, through God's grace, make it clear to my children that they are beautiful and worthy of love. They may have to change and improve some areas in their lives but that is part of growing and coping. The only person they need to compete with is themselves. The only record they need to break are their own. They must know that they are loved by me and by God exactly the way they are. Laugh at them I will never laugh at my children's dreams and mistakes. They may go through a stage where they will have crazy big and even silly dreams (my friend's son wanted to make finding spiders in the woods a profession when he was around five), but they will either outgrow them or they would know better soon enough. Besides, isn't that what being a child is all about? Working with your creativity and seeing the world with wonder? For children, anything is possible because no one told them yet otherwise. And I believe we should never stop encouraging them from honing their creative side. Children are bound to make mistakes because that's how they'll grow and improve. There's nothing to be embarrassed about. The important thing is that they learn from it. We all had one ridiculous dream when we were kids. We all made mistakes. We all are still making mistakes. But we all turned out okay, right? Make them feel alone I will never make my children feel alone as long as I'm there. The worst kind of loneliness is feeling alone while you're surrounded by people. I vow to make my children feel secure, loved, and cared about as long as I'm alive. Maybe even after that. I want them to know that they can always count on me to be there, to listen without prejudice or criticism. They will always have a place to come home to, and that someone's there waiting for them and ready to welcome them with a hug no matter where they've been or how long they've been gone. Having encountered different kinds of people from school to work, I've realized that the reason many kids feel lost and take the wrong path so to speak is because they don't have a sense of belongingness. They don't know who to turn to when things go wrong. They don't have a home to welcome them where they'll feel safe and loved. Shelter them I will never shelter them from reality. Some children grow up as brats because that's the way they were raised. Their parents managed to block the truth from them and filter the negativity. Of course it's natural for parents to be protective but we should never underestimate the children's understanding and wisdom. I think exposing them to the truths in life earlier will make them open-minded, cautious and empathetic. Example, bring them to outreach programs, let them see that poverty is real, educate them about the state of the planet or how cruel some people could be to animals and people. They must know that not everyone they meet have good intentions. Friends may betray them. Some people are broken and it's not their job to fix them. They have to know that a rose may be beautiful but it also has thorns that can prick if they're not careful. Shame them I will never shame them especially in the public. Shaming your kids in public (or even in private) is the same as taking away their self-esteem, making them question their self-worth and killing their self-respect and dignity. One time I was dining out with my sister and 3 tables away from us is a mother chastising her teenage daughter, calling her stupid repeatedly. They seemed unaware that all eyes and ears were on them. Who knows how long that girl would carry the label "stupid" around and live up to it? Stop sharing I will never stop sharing my faith with my kids. I will introduce them to Jesus, make Him real to them, talk about Him like He's some cool friend they could always run to and follow as an example. The reason why most people don't feel a connection with God is because they see Him as a distant, cruel king sitting at his throne the whole day waiting for someone to punish. They don't know that Jesus will never condemn them (John 8:11). God loves them more than they could ever comprehend (John 3:16). And that His love for them is always fresh (Lamentations 3:22). Not just crumbs or leftovers from yesterday but always whole and new. With these guidelines, by God's grace, with support from the people around me, reading mommy blogs all the more, and lots and lots and LOTS of trial and error, I think I can manage to raise children well enough. So help me God. Got parenting advice? Gifs from Google images Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? 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Listicle 5 Reasons To Love Michael Jackson 11:32 PM Love, joy, and peace for the world, that's what I want… peace for the world and love. -Michael Jackson If you love music and arts, you'll love Michael Jackson. There is no reason not to love the man. My most-read posts, and so far the ones that have gotten the most negative feedback are posts about Michael Jackson. Though billions admire him, there is still a minority who believes in the tabloid junks. meme But let me focus on the reasons why I and the rest of the Moonwalkers in the world love Michael Jackson. There are a LOT! Let me sum it up and give you 5 good reasons to love Michael Jackson. 5 Reasons To Love Michael Jackson 1. He's the greatest entertainer of all time. Watch his live performances, listen to his songs, read his poems and reflections. He gives his 100% and more and you can see it. Remove your prejudice when you watch him perform and you'll be in awe. I'm really very self-confident when it comes to my work. When I take on a project, I believe in it 100%. I really put my soul into it. I'd die for it. That's how I am. -Michael Jackson 2. He's a true humanitarian During his Dangerous tour, he earned $100M. All of which went to Heal The World Foundation. When Pepsi paid for the damage when he got a 3rd-degree burn while shooting a commercial, he put everything to Michael Jackson Center for Burn Victims. He bought an oxygen chamber for the victims. He was listed in the 2000 edition of the Guinness Book of World Records for breaking the world record for the "Most Charities Supported by a Pop Star". He had supported 39 charitable organizations either with monetary donations, through sponsorships of their projects, or participation in their activities. He remains to be the most charitable person/artist in the Guinness Book of World Records. When he shared his time and resources, he went big. Neverland was not just created for his own entertainment, he created it for the children to enjoy. I'm saying heal the planet, heal the world, save our children, save the forest. There's nothing wrong with that, right? -Michael Jackson 3. He's got the most beautiful smile in the world. Google says so. 4. His empathy and the way he used his influence and fame. He wrote songs about love, unity, peace, equality, saving the planet, saving the animals, saving the children, healing the world. In one taped conversation, he was heavily sedated and was talking to his doctor while waiting for sleep. He was still talking about helping the children of the world, saving them from pain and suffering.If you haven't yet, read the wonderful collection of his poems and reflections in Dancing the Dream. I've always believed that the real measure of celebrity success was not just how famous he becomes, but what he does with that fame and fortune. -Michael Jackson 5. He broke barriers and records. He was the first black artist to have been featured on MTV. His album Thriller is still the biggest-selling album of all time. He showed the world dance moves that inspired all other dance moves. His number of awards will speak for him (last count: 750). Michael Jackson created history and was selfless enough to encourage everyone to do the same. He wanted to change the world for the better. In all he did, he gave his all. He wouldn't release a song unless he thinks it's perfect enough. He wanted to give the best to his fans, which is evident in his achievements. Yet despite his achievements, the guy remained grounded; never attacked another artist, was never arrogant. The negative publicity and allegations put him into his ordeal but despite it all, he's given us his all and he never stopped giving. When you watch interviews of people who know him personally, they would say that Michael Jackson is the epitome of love. I guess that's why many people hate him.They can't stand Michael Jackson because he represents what they don't believe in or what they have a hard time grasping---love. When you get to know Michael Jackson onstage and behind the camera, there really is no reason not to love him. Michael Jackson is the brightest star to have ever shone in the world of music. Images from Google Some of the posts here may contain affiliate links. Meaning I get a commission if you purchase through my links at no additional cost to you. This helps me maintain my site.
