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You Don't Have To Celebrate Mother's Day And That's Okay

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You Don't Have To Celebrate Mother's Day And That's Okay

Woman smelling flowers lying in the field relaxed

Mother's Day is a special holiday honoring mothers and mother figures. But not everyone feels comfortable celebrating this day. Maybe you prefer not to celebrate this occasion. Or you're a "mother" who doesn't fit the traditional mold. Know that you don't have to celebrate Mother's Day, and that's okay.

You may have had a complicated relationship with your mother or experienced the loss of one. 

You may not identify as a conventional mother but as a single parent, a non-binary parent, or a same-sex parent. 

You may be someone who has chosen not to have children or is struggling with infertility.

Or maybe you've chosen to be a foster mom or mother of stray animals, providing them with a loving home.

Whatever your situation, it's essential to recognize that motherhood comes in many forms, and all should be honored and recognized

Here's a heartwarming video from BBDO Asia featuring unconventional moms and the beautiful love they share with their kids. Prepare some tissues. 


You don't have to celebrate Mother's Day, and that's okay.

Mother's Day should be a day of inclusivity and empowerment, not exclusion.

If you don't like celebrating Mother's Day, know you are not alone. 

Your feelings are valid. It's okay to acknowledge and honor them. 

Take this day to focus on self-care and do something that brings you joy. Spend time with loved ones who support you and respect your feelings.

If you're an unconventional mother, know that you are still amazing, just as you are. 

Your unique experiences and perspectives bring diversity and richness to motherhood. So celebrate your journey and the love you give to your children, regardless of how society may define motherhood.

Let's celebrate everyone who gives their love unconditionally, regardless of their title or label. 

Celebrate Mother's Day. Or don't. No pressure. 😉

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  1. Hi, Lux! If you examine the vintage 1950s print ads that I have been posting in my monthly series, you will see some that advertise premium chocolate candies, one of the traditional gifts given to the special women in our lives on Mother's Day. Invariably, those idealized images showed a nicely dressed, white, middle class woman, a traditional stay-at-home mom. Those ads excluded millions of mothers of color, poor working class mothers and gay parents. Thanks for posting that video. It reminds us that mothers come in all shapes and sizes, races, nationalities and sexual orientations. Some have chosen alternative lifestyles and continue to be great role models for their children. Those mothers deserve our respect, admiration and gratitude. In the end, mothering is about loving, guiding, caring, nurturing and allowing a child the freedom to grow and follow his or her own path. The message is clear and powerful. Don't force. Let people be themselves.

    Thanks for visiting me today at Shady's Place Music & Memories. Have a safe and happy weekend, dear friend Lux!

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  2. Hello!
    A very inspiring post! I agree with you, if someone doesn't want to celebrate this day, they have the right to do so and that's good! We have to live according to ourselves, because this is our life.
    Greetings from Poland!

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  3. Interesting article on something I've never considered. There are lots of holidays I don't celebrate because they aren't relevant to me. But, everyone does have a mother. You raise the great issue of whether that's worth celebrating!

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  4. I hope this doesn't post twice--it didn't seem to work the first time. I do have lots of holidays I don't celebrate because they aren't relevant to me, but everyone has a mother! The issue you raise is whether that's worth celebrating. Great question.

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  5. Not sure the comment is posting so thought I'd try the alternative method:

    I hope this doesn't post twice--it didn't seem to work the first time. I do have lots of holidays I don't celebrate because they aren't relevant to me, but everyone has a mother! The issue you raise is whether that's worth celebrating. Great question.

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  6. My daughter and I are going to celebrate Mother's day together. My mom passed away in 2011.

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  7. Agreed. Pressure is too often applied when celebrating any holiday.

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  8. Thank you, Lux for sharing this beautiful post, motherhood is so much more than having biological children in your home. And there are many reasons why Mother's Day may be difficult. For me, I have 2 prodigal children and my own mother recently died. Mother's Day feels hard, and that's OK. I personally like the International Women's Day mindset better, because ALL women are celebrated.

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  9. Lovely thoughts about 'Mother's Day' ~ If you celebrate I hope you have a great day ~

    Wishing you good health, laughter and love in your days,
    A ShutterBug Explores,
    aka (A Creative Harbor)

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  10. Thank you for this thoughtful post. It is my hardest day of the year, I think. It's nice to see something so compassionate.

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  11. yes, yes, Lux. this was a hard day for so many. and yet there were little pockets of sunshine along the way. and for that, I am grateful.

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