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rocks balanced by the beach

Anything in excess is not good. For example, too little or too much sleep can be harmful to your health. Balance is key.


I always try to keep an optimistic disposition. But the older I get, I realized it's better to also be a little pessimistic.

The sweet spot between optimism and pessimism is where we should be.

I've learned that those who did not survive the holocaust were mostly the optimists in the group.

Because when what they expected did not happen, it hit them really hard. They lost their hope.

And I've shared this quote by Hal Lindsay before but I'll share it again:

Man can live about forty days without food, about three days without water, about eight minutes without air...but only for one second without hope.

From experience, I know optimism has an ugly down side.

Indeed when you keep your hopes up, it hurts terribly when what you hoped for did not come to pass.

The higher the expectation, the bigger the disappointment.

So, I like to keep a balance between being optimistic and pessimistic. We need to be realistic. We need to keep our balance.

  • Dream big but also keep your feet planted firmly on the ground.
  • Hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.
  • Love others but also give yourself the right amount of self-love.
  • Work hard but rest well.

Keep yourself in check.

I believe keeping a balance between positive thinking and negative thinking is better for our mental health.

That way when things don't go our way, we don't get too beaten down.
When things turn out better than we expected, we celebrate.

I love the verse about the balance of everything in life.

There is an appointed time for everything. 
And there is a time for every event under heaven

A time to give birth and a time to die;
A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted.

A time to kill and a time to heal;
A time to tear down and a time to build up.

A time to weep and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn and a time to dance.

A time to throw stones and a time to gather stones;
A time to embrace and a time to shun embracing.

A time to search and a time to give up as lost;
A time to keep and a time to throw away.

A time to tear apart and a time to sew together;
A time to be silent and a time to speak.

A time to love and a time to hate;
A time for war and a time for peace.

-Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

I hope we learn to find this healthy balance in our lives.

Your turn

  • Are you an optimistic or pessimistic person?
  • What do you do when things don't go as expected?

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