Saying goodbye is part of life. But what are the indicators that it's time? When do we stop holding on to people we care about, or at least distance ourselves from them?
3 Signs You Need To Say Goodbye
1. The relationship gets toxic.
When, at the end of the day, the relationship leaves you exhausted rather than refreshed.
When, instead of nourishing your soul, it poisons it.
When it's slowly killing you.
When it's robbing your joy and peace of mind, it's a clear sign you need to say goodbye.
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2. You constantly get rejected.
When you try to reach out, stay in touch, and involve people in your life, but they don't reciprocate. Every time you try to schedule time with them, they either cancel or decline upfront.
When you offer them your time, service, or love and they don't want any of it, what's the point of staying? Surely, you need to say goodbye when the rejection keeps happening.
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3. You stopped growing together.
When you have to cancel your own plans to give way to them.
When being in that relationship feels like it's clipping your wings and keeps you from flying, so to speak.
When you feel like it's going nowhere.
When, for some reason, it stops you from becoming the person you're destined to become because you always have to put them first.
Feeling stuck because the relationship is not letting you explore and expand is a sign that you need to say goodbye.
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Why you need to say goodbye
Saying goodbye helps us heal emotionally, grow personally, and handle life changes smoothly. It gives us closure, lets us express gratitude, and heightens emotional awareness.
It maybe painful at first to say goodbye to something or someone who has been a part of your life for quite a while. But spare yourself from further pain and misery by ending it as soon as you can.
We say goodbye to draining jobs and places we're familiar with; often, we also need to say goodbye to relationships that don't work and friendships we thought would never end.
Ultimately, you'll realize that you're better off.
Some people may play an important role in a certain episode of your life, but you don't need them until the season finale to complete your story.
27 comments
This is excellent!
ReplyDeleteBeautiful. Letting go can be a challenge, but the rewards of drawing loving boundaries and being true to oneself are infinite. Thank you for sharing such an open-hearted and honest post!
ReplyDeleteI'm glad I'm in the point in my life where I don't have to say many goodbyes
ReplyDeleteSome folks are so high drama that it wears one out. I think you've listed three very fine reasons to let someone drift off and out of your life. I know you'll do it kindly.
ReplyDeleteHave a fabulous day. ☺
Great post with excellent advice.
ReplyDeleteA friend of mine had a fortune cookie once that read, "Don't let go too soon--don't hang on too long." That sums it up. It's so hard to know the line between those two but looking back, you know the signs were there. Yes, if someone is rejecting spending time with you, it's time to move on. Life's too short to put effort into people who don't want to be with us.
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ReplyDeleteGreat advice! Again, this is beautifully written.
ReplyDeleteThis is a great post.Sometimes in life its hard to let go but in one way or another we have to learn how to do so.
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ReplyDeleteExcellent article. You're so right... saying goodbye is just a part of life, no matter how hard it is. Best of luck with everything! :)
ReplyDeleteErin
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good thoughts ... reading this though made me think of the boyz ii men song, about how it's so hard to say goodbye sometimes :)
ReplyDeleteGreatly written. Saying goodbye is never easy, but I've done it a few times this year with friendships; and I became better because of it.
ReplyDeleteWritingMonique
These are all good reasons to say goodbye to someone. I left behind a toxic relative and it was the best decision I could have made.
ReplyDeleteThoughtful and sensitive. Wonderful and loving advice. thanks.
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ReplyDeleteLove this, letting go is hard sometimes.
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It's so true, so painful...
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Happy new year love! xox
ReplyDeleteHélène
This is sad and yes, painful, but a good heads up and good signs to look out for. Sometimes it's hard to realize when you're in it. <3 Good post.
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Dear Lux, Another excellent post. Well, today is the day to say "Goodbye" to 2015 and let's look forward to a better 2016. Happy New Year to you and yours! All the best from Seattle!
ReplyDeleteSo very true. We sometimes cling to the way things used to be even when they're not that way anymore. Happy New Year!
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ReplyDeleteI agree 100%, great post.
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May you have more triumphs than trials
More joy than sorrow
More support than judgement
More Inspiration than discouragement
More resources and access than obstacles
and may you know through it all
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Peace.
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ReplyDeleteHappy New Year! Wish you all the best for 2016! I don't have any NYR this year too :D
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There is so much truth in every line of this truth Lux!
ReplyDeleteI would most agree that you should say goodbye when the relationship or any situation you are in makes you unbecoming of the person you deserved to be.
Certainly, it's time to put everything in history and write a new story.
This is such a valuable post and something that I wish I knew about 23 years ago. I allowed someone to drain me of my joy before I realized it was best to let go and it was hard. I have had to let go of friendships because they were no longer valuable to my life and one became toxic. Luckily, I was able to see these before I was hurt emotionally. Found you over at Monday Madness. ~Lowanda of Sunshine and Elephants
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