But the thirties are a specially dangerous time for women. They have outlived the shyness and restraints of girlhood, and not attained to the caution and discretion of middle age. They are reckless, and consciously or unconsciously on the lookout for adventure. They see ahead of them the end of youth, and that quickens their pace. -Rose Macaulay
People get depressed when they turn a year older, and they're still single because they feel they're doomed to be lonely. But, let me tell you---you're cool!
I really do think so. Here are 13 reasons why:
13 Reasons Why It's Cool to Be Single at 30
1. Financial freedom
You earn your own money, and you can spend it anyway you want without having someone to answer to. No parents to interrogate you, no spouse or children yet to consider.
2. Own your time
No curfew. No one to tell you what time you need to be home, or what time you should be waking up. You sleep whenever you wish.
3. You decide for yourself.
You make your own decisions, no matter how big or trivial they may be.
Your parents can give you advice, and you may ask your friends for their opinion, but it's still your call.
4. More comfortable
You're more comfortable now in your own skin. No more "Ugh, I feel so awkward" trying to figure out what you want phase.
You can change hairstyles and don't give a damn what people might say as long as you feel good about it.
You can choose clothes that are comfortable (and stylish) to wear, not the clothes your parents chose for you or what your peers are wearing.
You're more confident now with who you are.
5. New Boldness
You can speak your mind, and you're not scared to be misjudged. You no longer worry about what people might think about your opinions or if they will take it against you.
6. You've had enough
You don’t put up with other people’s crap anymore.
If it doesn’t make you
- happy
- earn more money
- grow...
You can simply leave it.
Your time is better spent on meaningful work or on people who nourish your soul.
7. Free to "adult"
The freedom to watch adult films, go to places exclusive for adults, and not faking your age, feeling guilty or mortified about it.
8. You know better.
You met a wide range of people. You’ve heard a lot of crazy crap. You’ve been through hell and back, and you feel as though you can take anything life will throw at you.
You are learned and enlightened. You may not have figured everything out yet (who does anyway?), but you're wiser than you were in your 20s.
9. Richer
You’re definitely richer now than you were before. Wealthier in terms of money (that is, if you have saved and invested well enough years before), healthier (if you’ve been taking care of your body), and wealthier in experience and friends.
10. Smarter
You understand and appreciate the essence of compounding interest. You used to hear Greek whenever you came across that word, and when someone tried to explain it to you.
Now, you feel a natural connection with that phrase, and you know that it’s a friend, not a foe.
You may make the wrong choices from time to time, but you're (hopefully) making better decisions than you used to.
11. Getting second chances
It’s never too late to be what you want to be because now you have the resources and the time in the world to pursue your long-overdue dream. You are your own priority now.
12. Wise enough to choose your own battle.
You know which battles to pick; which ones you need to continue fighting, surrender or ignore.
13. Paint anything!
You have a blank canvas of life. Though you’re in your mid-life now, you still can have a brand new start.
30 and still single? Hey, you're cool!
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Fellow 30-ish single. Totally feel you on this post!
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