The One Who Got Away9:53 PM
the saddest are these, 'It might have been'.
-John Greenleaf Whittier
How often do you think about the one who got away? I always say, I'd rather be the one who got away than the one who let go and forever live in regrets. It will be torture!
Things don't always end up the way we want them to and there's nothing we can do but accept it. Let go and move on so they say.
I don't know about you, but sometimes I still find myself wondering about the what ifs.
What if I tried again?
What if I believed the story, accepted the apology and gave it another chance?
What if I stretched my patience a little bit more?
What if I tried to understand more?
What if I fought harder?
What if I didn't give up?
I'll never know. I guess it will always stay that way. I guess it's better to stay that way.
I know that once in our lives, we meet someone we thought we'd spend our happily ever after with before life took over and changed everything:
The plans we carefully made for our future with this person ended. Reality cut like a knife and woke us up from our beautiful dreams, forcing us to go back to the real world and deal with the pain that we thought would never stop.
Maybe for another person, you are the one who got away. I believe it's part of the plan; to meet someone whose memories we'll forever cherish but whom we NEED to let go. It's not my kind of plan too, but what can we do?
Life's a bitch.
Life's a bitch.
A friend of a friend posted this on Facebook (we don't know who the author is) and it's too good not to share. It speaks a lot about the one who got away---something most people can relate to.
We all have someone that got away. For all of us, here's one good read:
The One Who Got Away
In your life, you’ll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special and ones who will always mean something. There’s the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you’re with...and the one who got away.
Who is the one who got away? I guess it’s that person with whom everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person nor flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't fall the right way, I suppose.
I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.
How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you’re not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn't matter who you’re with, it just doesn’t work. Small problems become big; inconsequential become deal breakers simply because you’re not ready and it shows. It’s not that you and the person you’re with are no good; it’s just that it’s not yet right, and little things become the flash point of that fact.
Then one day you’re ready. You really are. And when this happens you’ll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work because it’s the right time and you’ll make it work. And it’ll make sense, it really will.
So that day comes when you’re finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want and you've become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there’s no telling when this day will come. Hopefully, you’re single or be in a long-term relationship, or be married with three kids…it doesn't matter. All you know is that you have changed. And for some reason, the one who got away, is the first person you think about.
You’ll think about them because you’ll wonder, “What if they were here today?” , “What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?”
The one who got away is– the biggest “What if?” you’ll have in your life.
If you’re married, you’ll just have to accept the fact that the one who got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you’re mature enough to realize that you’re already with the one you’re with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you’ll think about him/her every so often, but it’s alright. It’s never nice to live with a “might have been,” but it happens.
Maybe the one who got away is the one who’s already married. In which case it’s the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you’re old and gray and reminiscing.
But if neither of that is the case, then it’s different. What do you do if it’s not yet too late? Simple –find him or find her. The very existence of the “one that got away” means that you’ll always wonder…what if you got that one? Ask him out to coffee. Ask her out to a movie. It doesn't matter if you’ve dropped in from out of nowhere. You’d be surprised, you just might be “the one who got away” as well for the person who is your “the one who got away.” You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won’t make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it’ll all just fall into place somehow. It would be a great feeling in the end, to be able to say to someone, “Hey you, you’re the one who almost got away.”
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