Dating 5 Common Worries Of A Single Woman & What To Do About Them 2:35 AM 5 Common Worries Of A Single Woman & What To Do About Them Is being single worth losing sleep over? It’s 2 AM. The world is quiet and sleeping. But here you are. Lying awake in bed wondering if you’d ever find The One. You wish you could fast forward and skip to the good part.But you can’t.You’re single AF. Uncertainties start to overwhelm you. Self-doubt begins to dampen your spirit.The future looks scary...mainly because you feel alone.You try to shake off that negative feeling and ask, “How do I stop worrying about being single?”Don’t fret. For every anxiety, there is a remedy.What do single women worry about the most?Here are five common worries of a single woman and what to do about them. Worry #1: All my friends are getting married or pregnant!When you see your peers celebrating milestones and feel like you’re stuck, it’s easy to feel insecure.You start questioning what’s next for you.When am I going to meet my spouse? Will I ever be able to start my own family?You don’t want to feel left behind.People will be pressuring you to settle down.Some of them are well-meaning. But it does feel intrusive and disrespectful sometimes.So what to do when you start to worry about your friends moving forward and ahead of you? Remedy:It pays to be patient. There’s nothing wrong with taking your time. How you spend your lifetime is at stake here, so don’t jump into hasty decisions and settle for just anyone.Don’t sabotage your future just because you’re lonely at present.Strip away envy.Be genuinely happy for your friends’ achievements and breakthroughs.Celebrate your victories too. You may not have found The One yet, but the freedom of being single is priceless. Seize every moment. Unlike you, your friends may enjoy their time with their new baby but cannot sleep as much as they want. You can go to bed and wake up at any time.You have everything in your hands to experience life as you please.No commitments. No hassles.Embrace your alone time.Because one day, when you least expect it, it will all be over.Gratitude is the best antidote for envy. Be thankful for what you have and for where you are. Remember when you used to pray for those things? And you have no idea how many people wish they could trade places with you. Giphy Worry #2: My biological clock is ticking! Age affects the fertility of men and women.Studies show that as women age, the chances of conceiving drop.Women are born with all the eggs they will ever have, and as they get older, the eggs get fewer.A woman’s fertility starts to reduce in her early 30s. By age 40, only 1 in 10 women will get pregnant per menstrual cycle. Remedy:Freeze your eggs.Believe in miracles.Consider adoption.If you really want to be a biological mother, your age may be another source of worry if you’re still single.Thanks to modern technology, though, there are ways to increase your chances of having a baby and a healthy one even when you’re 35 and up. Some women opt for other fertility options like IVF or donor eggs.If you can afford it, you can freeze your eggs until you’re ready to have a baby.Remember the stories of Sara and Elizabeth in the Bible? Some people don’t believe in miracles or God, but that’s their call. If God can make Sara a mother at the age of 90 and Elizabeth was 88 when he gave birth to John...Don’t you think you also have the chance to get pregnant even when you’re beyond the ideal age? Hopefully, not as old as these legendary women in the Bible, of course.Nothing’s impossible with a God who can turn water into wine and raise the dead.Believe that you are just as highly favored as the people in the Bible.Or maybe the child for you is already out there, from another family. Waiting for a parent who can give them a better life. GfycatWorry #3: When is Prince Charming going to rescue me? The problem here is all in the head.Maybe because Disney conditioned us to believe that Prince Charming is the only way to get us to the life we want.So when it takes too long for your knight in shining armor to come and get you, you wonder if he’ll arrive.Or if there’s something wrong with you because why wouldn’t anyone want to rescue a fair lady like yourself?Remedy:Get rid of your Cinderella complex. You’ll get disappointed if you depend on others to give you what you need. Waiting for The One will be easier if your love tank is full. Then, it will be an exciting adventure.Remember: You’re not a damsel in distress who needs saving. You’re capable enough to take care of yourself. Stop waiting for love, marriage, and Prince Charming to come along and rescue you, and start designing a life you don’t wish to be rescued from. - Mandy Hale Gfycat Worry #4: I’m not desirable enough. Am I not pretty?Am I too short? Or too tall?Am I not smart enough?Don’t I have the right personality?Am I not dating, girlfriend, or wife material?What is wrong with me? Remedy: Carry yourself with grace.Work on finding your self-worth.Believe that you are enough. Because you really are.Be careful how you talk to yourself because you listen (Lisa M Hayes).God doesn’t create rejects. Just because the glossy pages of beauty magazines tell you you’re not the standard of beauty doesn’t mean they’re right. Who are they to say? They’re just as imperfect as you are.Those women are loaded with heavy makeup and are Photoshopped.Remember that you are beautiful and worthy just the way you are.Nothing is more beautiful and irresistible than confidence. GiphyWorry #5: I’ll end up alone and miserable!Maybe you’ve met old single women who are grumpy and hateful.Maybe you’ve been watching too many movies where they portray women beyond their marrying age as desperate and hostile characters.Or maybe you’ve been putting your happiness in other people’s hands.That’s why you’re worried that you’ll never find joy if you don’t find a partner.Remedy:Choose to be happy! You are as happy and as lonely as you decide to be. Happiness cannot and will never be found in another person or from an outside source. Find the pros of being alone. Being alone is not tantamount to being miserable. You can be in a relationship and still be discontented and lonely. Two happy individuals make a happy relationship. If you’re unhappy in your own company, don’t expect others to be. Giphy Summary: Common Worries and Remedies for Single WomenThe next time worries about being single rear their ugly heads, you know what to do.Kick envy with gratitude.Believe you are favored.Design a life you don’t need rescuing from.Know your worth.Choose to be happy. Never ever compare your story with others, especially those in the movies. Your story is unique. Don’t insult your Maker. It’s not hard to be single. There are many perks to being alone.You’re free. You have a blank canvas.It’s actually exciting if you think about it.Knowing you have many options is like walking at a buffet table.Don’t listen to those making you feel like an outcast because you’re not in a relationship.You’re not!And they don’t hold your future. Stop overthinking and start believing.Stop betting against yourself and start being your own cheerleader.You’re exactly where you should be. But no, you won’t be stuck there forever. Unless you want to. Are you single? What worries you, and what do you do about them?
Dating 15 Signs You're Comfortable Being Single 2:14 AM It's good for a person to spend time alone. It gives them an opportunity to discover who they are and to figure out why they are always alone. -Amy Sedaris This post was originally written for and posted on Thought Catalog. 15 Signs You're Comfortable Being Single 1. You’re okay staying in on a beautiful weekend. You don't call random people to hang out on a sunny Saturday. You'd raYou’dcatch up on your reading or watch your favorite re-runs. 2. You are sincerely happy about your friends' milestones, engagements, weddings, and new babies. 3. You don't get uncomfortable when you go out with other couples. 4. You can dine out, watch a movie or travel alone. 5. When someone asks about your relationship status, you answer honestly without batting an eye because you don't think it's embarrassing or lame to be alone in a couple-filled world. 6. Your calendar is always full: vacations, breakfast/lunch/dinner with old friends, movie dates with your siblings or friends, seminars, and other essential activities outside work/school.7. When people think something's wrong with you because you’re single, you conclude that there’s wrong with them. 8. You don't know how it is to be dating or in a relationship anymore, and it doesn't bother you one bit.How many times do you need to send them messages? Which decisions do you need to consult with them about? (And why?). 9. You ignore the sweet nothings you receive in your inbox or phone because you don’t have time for someone you know is not severe or is not showing potential for a partner. 10. You are genuinely happy with where you are right now, even when things aren't going your way.11. Your plans may involve settling down, but you're not pressured to do it any time soon. 12. You hate asking someone's permission to buy something or go somewhere. So you come, and you go as you please. 13. You enjoy your own company, so you don’t feel like missing out on something. 14. Your heart goes out to those who are afraid to be alone and wish they’ll see the light and embrace singleness rather than be in an unhappy relationship only because they want to feel secure. 15. You’re not bitter about your failed relationships anymore. You are actually grateful that it ended. If it didn’t, you wouldn't be this happy right now.How comfortable - and happy - are you with your status?Hero image
Single Life If You're Scared To Be Alone 4:00 AM If You're Scared To Be Alone If you're scared to be alone, you have every reason and every right to be. If you're scared to be alone, take time to listen to me; If you're scared to be alone, you're right, it's never easy. But, to be alone also means to set yourself free. If you're scared to be alone, I know what you're going through. I've been there myself, I was just as scared as you. But, I've learned to conquer it and I know that someday you will, too. If you're scared to be alone, just remember who you are. Remember why you're here and what has brought you this far. It's because you chose the road less traveled. It's because you've learned. It's because you now know your worth and now it's your turn. It's your turn to love yourself more than anyone or anything. It's your turn to give up, to stop enduring, to stop waiting. It's your time to enjoy, to really live and not just exist. It's your time to thrive---no one can argue or resist. If you're scared to be alone, let me assure you that you're almost there. You're on the right track, just hold on 'cause life can take you anywhere. If you're scared to be alone, hold my hand and we'll walk this unfamiliar and scary path together. It may be rocky, it may be winding, but this journey won't last forever. If you're scared to be alone, don't look around you, but look above. You'll never feel empty if you know you have a Father who fills you up with love. See also: Hello, Loneliness!
Dating Finding The Right Shoes And The Right Partner 1:44 AM Finding The Right Shoes And The Right Partner Finding love is like finding shoes. People go after the good-looking ones, but they end up choosing the one they feel comfortable with. -Unknown Finding the Right Shoes and the Right PartnerJournal entryOctober 13, 20108:21 PMScouting the stores to find the perfect pair of shoes is like searching the world for a life partner. Giphy You search far and wide, seeking with anticipation and a heart full of hope. You even try your luck online.You don't want to settle for the cute affordable pair though it's your perfect fit. Maybe because it hurts your toes. The materials used aren't comfortable and durable enough.It's not compatible.You realize you can't endure the pain in exchange for its cheap price. You won't let the perfect physical look deceive you. If it hurts, you let it go. No matter how good it looks. If it won't let you go places and enjoy your freedom, it has no place in your closet. In your life.If it's too expensive and comfy, you scrutinize every inch. Is it really worth it? What if it will leave you with nothing in the end? What if it just looks good, you grit your teeth and pay the price but later on find out it's not the perfect fit?You've been taken advantage of. So you search, and search, and continue searching for the right pair---or the right partner. You never get tired. You don't listen to those telling you to give up and just settle for what's there.Even though they mock your standards. Every day your belief that finding the one that suits you best is almost within reach. You continue to look for the one believing that you will find. You hold on to your vision. You realize that there is joy in waiting, and there is so much to learn in the process. You get to know yourself more; what you really want and what you will not compromise. So you carry on. The world is so big, and the choices seem endless. In your heart, you know you will find the one that's specially made for you. Maybe it's in the next corner waiting for you to claim it at the right time.You keep on keeping on. GiphyBecause you know in the end, finding the right shoes...and the right partner is worth the long quest.This post contains affiliate links so we'd get a commission if you purchase through the links at no additional cost to you.
Listicle 13 Reasons Why It's Cool To Be Single At 30 12:22 AM 13 Reasons Why It's Cool to be Single at 30But the thirties are a specially dangerous time for women. They have outlived the shyness and restraints of girlhood, and not attained to the caution and discretion of middle age. They are reckless, and consciously or unconsciously on the lookout for adventure. They see ahead of them the end of youth, and that quickens their pace. -Rose Macaulay People get depressed when they turn a year older, and they're still single because they feel they're doomed to be lonely. But, let me tell you---you're cool! I really do think so. Here are 13 reasons why:1. Financial freedom You earn your own money, and you can spend it anyway you want without having someone to answer to. No parents to interrogate you, no spouse or children yet to consider. 2. Own your time No curfew. No one to tell you what time you need to be home, or what time you should be waking up. You sleep whenever you wish. 3. You decide for yourself. You make your own decisions, no matter how big or trivial it may be. Your parents can give you advice and you may ask your friends' opinion, but it's still your call. 4. More comfortable You're more comfortable now in your own skin. No more "Ugh, I feel so awkward" trying to figure out what you want phase. You can change hairstyles and don't give a damn what people might say as long as you feel good about it. You can choose clothes that are comfortable (and stylish) to wear, not the clothes your parents chose for you or what your peers are wearing. You're more confident now with who you are. 5. Boldness You can speak your mind, and you're not scared to be misjudged. You no longer worry about what people might think about your opinions or if they will take it against you. 6. You've had enough You don’t put up with other people’s crap anymore. If it doesn’t make you happyearn more moneygrowyou can simply leave it. Your time is more valuable to spend on meaningless things or people who don’t nourish you. 7. Free to "adult" The freedom to watch adult films, go to places exclusive for adults and not faking your age, feeling guilty or mortified about it. 8. You know better.You met almost all kinds of people. You’ve heard a lot of crazy crap. You’ve been through hell and back that you feel as though you can take anything life will throw at you.You are learned and enlightened. You may not have figured everything yet (who does anyway?) but wiser than you were back when you were at your 20’s. 9. Richer You’re definitely richer now than you were before. Wealthier in terms of money (that is if you have saved and invested well enough years before), healthier (if you’ve been taking care of your body) and wealthier in experience and friends. 10. Smarter You understand and appreciate the essence of compounding interest. You used to hear Greek whenever you come across that word and when someone tries to explain it to you. Now, you feel a natural connection with that phrase, and you know that it’s a friend not a foe.You may make the wrong choices from time to time but you're (hopefully) making better decisions than you used to. 11. 2nd chances It’s never too late to be what you want to be because now you have the resources and the time in the world to pursue your long overdue dream. You are your own priority now. 12. Choosing your own battle You know which battles to pick; which ones you need to continue fighting, surrender or ignore. 13. Paint anything! You have a blank canvass of life. Though you’re in your mid-life now, you still can have a brand new start. 30 and still single? Hey, you're cool! Shared on Thought CatalogGifs from Giphy
Books The Widower And I 12:54 PM The Widower And I It´s rare for someone to say something to you just a few words really and actually make you see yourself from a completely different vantage point. -How To Talk To A Widower This post contains affiliate links so we'd get a commission if you purchase through the links at no additional cost to you. The Widower And I This 22nd day of the The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge: "What fictional character in a movie, TV show, or book do you identify with and why?" got me stuck for 4 days! It was so hard to pick one character that I could identify with. Actually, I knew who to write about the first time I saw the 22nd challenge---Doug in How To Talk To A Widower. I just had some hesitations. Doug is a guy and he is a widower! I'm a single woman in my 20s. If you haven't read How To Talk To A Widower yet, please PLEASE do!Especially if you like unpretentious characters like Holden Caulfield in The Catcher In The Rye. Doug was devastated when his wife Hailey died. He tries to live and to stay normal but he couldn't escape the ruthlessness of being lonely at night. He hates it when people feel sorry for him. He knows he'll be okay soon, but that doesn't mean he'll stop feeling the pain. He doesn't hurry up, he lets time heal him, he lets Hailey's memories comfort him, he allows himself to feel his love for her even after she's gone. He trips, he fails, he struggles through the cruelty of life, but he doesn't stop living. He tries to be okay. He knows he'll be okay. He is so human. So real, so gritty...so me. You'll laugh at his boo boos, you'll grieve with him, you'll feel his love, you'll love his imperfections. Let me write here again why I love Doug: I know exactly what it means to act as normal as possible for the world to see. I know how hard it is to hold on to something you used to have but isn't there anymore. I know how awful it is to deal with something that happened so abruptly, so sudden, and how cruel it is that the world would not even give you enough time to let it sink in first before it goes on. I know how crazy it is to get pissed and then feel guilty about getting pissed and then get pissed about feeling guilty. I know how difficult it is to cry yourself to sleep, wake up without feeling the purpose of waking up anymore but getting up anyway and showing the world you're still okay. I just know how messed up Doug felt and I’m glad that he made me realize I’m not alone, even if he’s just a fictional character. Between the Widower and I, we all have a Doug in us.
Lux Thinking Aloud I'm A Once In A Lifetime Kind Of Woman 3:18 PM I'm a once-in-a-lifetime kind of woman. "I am not just a one-in-a-million kind of girl. I am rare. I am precious." Claim that, ladies! Don't buy the lies that boys say to get to your pants. You are worth the effort. You are worth the wait. You are valuable. You are worth more than eight cows (read the story's reference here). Don't dumb yourself down so you'll be more approachable. Don't shortchange yourself. Being choosy about the people you let into your life is okay. Protect your inner circle. Don't surround yourself with those who are not contributing to your well-being. When you finally free yourself from people who don't value you, you make more space for those who do. Don't let labels or stereotypes define you. Don't succumb to what society dictates. Be the Proverbs woman. Be like Ruth, who didn't sit around waiting for a man to rescue her situation. Raise your standards, and don't apologize for it. Be a once in a lifetime kind of woman so those who let you go thinking they can do better will realize that you're the one who got away. Never apologize for having high standards. People who really want to be in your life will rise to meet them. -Ziad K. Abdelnour
Single Life 5 Things My Future Spouse Needs To Be 5:45 PM We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love. -Dr. Seuss The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 8: 5 Things That Are Most Important To You In A Future Spouse The 5 things my future spouse needs to be? My friend asked me this question too and I guess I now have a better answer than I had then. The list may go on and on and on if I start, but let me try to narrow it down to five here: 5 Things My Future Spouse Needs To Be Lead me in faith He must bring me closer to God. Someone who shares the same faith with me or better yet, someone who's got a more personal relationship with God than I do. Someone who will encourage me and lead me in faith. He doesn't have to be a saint or a martyr, he just have to know God and put his faith into action. Financially literate Women want security, and the best way to make a woman feel secure is to provide for her needs and see to it that her future is in good hands. He doesn't have to be super rich, he just have to be knowledgeable in managing his finances and a good, generous provider. I just don't want to wake up one day and panic because I can't even buy us eggs and milk or won't be able to pay for our children's education (should we decide to have kids). No woman wants to feed a good for nothing lazy ass. Money plays an important role in every relationship. Money may not be everything, but it sure does affect every area of our lives. Wise, not just intelligent I know people who are academically intelligent but are far behind when it comes to dealing with "real life". They are intelligent in many things, they excel in school, but lack wisdom in dealing with what everyday challenges. A real man should not just be a know-it-all in academics, but someone who can survive the life in the jungle, so to speak. Someone who sees beyond the facts, who doesn't just rattle trivia but also possesses wisdom. Loyal A loyal person stays with you no matter what, keeps his promise and stays committed long before the mood he's in when he promised you things is long gone. With a good sense of humor. It would be great to be around someone who doesn't take himself, or life too seriously. Someone who can consistently make you smile and make you feel better when you're down. Someone who can bring you sunshine when it rains. Well, if he's also a good cook and a masseur on top of that then I think I'd be the luckiest woman alive. Gifs from Google images Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Lux Thinking Aloud Where You Are Vs. Where You Thought You Would Be 12:23 PM No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love him. -1 Corinthians 2:9 I always thought I'd get married at 25. When I was in my 20's I realized 25 is way too young to settle down. I felt like I was not even halfway to where I wanted to be. So I said, I'd postpone it until I'm 29.Guess what?I'm past 29 and I'm still single. What. Happened? To borrow a line from 500 Days of Summer, "What always happens...life." The Tempest Where You Are Vs. Where You Thought You Would Be There are many things that happened that I didn't expect, both good and not so good.I used to be submissive, reserved, and I'd settle for what was there.Now I know how to speak my mind, I stand for what I believe in, and I definitely don't shortchange myself. I thought in my 30s, I'd be staying at home, raising kids, running my own business, definitely NOT single. But I'm here cuddling with my dogs, meeting my friends at short notice, traveling at any time I wish, with no one to consult about my schedules and plans...Hey, it's not bad at all.I can say with all honesty that I am completely, totally happy with where I am right now.I can't imagine myself being a full-time housewife at this moment. Not because I don't want to. Maybe someday. I still love doing what I'm currently doing. Every moment of this singlehood will always be cherished. Whenever I check my bucket list, there are more things I haven't done yet and so many places I am yet to explore. But there are also ticked items that give me self-fulfillment. I know there's more and I want to do more. I know greater things are ahead which are better than I could ever ask for. I have long resigned to the idea that I have good plans for myself, but God has better bigger plans.My Provider has far greater, more beautiful things in store for me. Where I am right now is still far from where I thought I would be, but dang, this is way better than I imagined. This is Day 7 of The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge by Mandy HaleThis post contains affiliate links so I'd get a commission if you purchase through my links at no additional cost to you. This helps me maintain my site. Thanks in advance!
Single Life Every Woman Has The Exact Love Life She Wants 11:18 AM Every woman has the exact love life she wants allows. The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 6: Sound off on the quote, “Every woman has the exact love life she wants.” True or false? Are you in a relationship right now, and is it exactly how you envisioned it?Are you receiving the love you think you deserve? Or are you just waiting for an exit?If you’re a woman with the exact love life you want, congrats! Not everyone can say they’re as lucky.I know I wasn’t for a long time. Every Woman Has the Exact Love Life She Wants Sadly, some women don’t have the love life they want.They are abused physically, mentally, or emotionally by their partners, and no woman wants that kind of love life.Maybe some of these women have experiences in the past that made them believe they should tolerate the unjust treatment they get because that’s what they deserve.Someone must have instilled in their minds that it’s their fault it’s happening. Maybe that unhealthy relationship is their “homing instinct.” The same familiar environment they were raised in gives them, so it gives them comfort and security.Because the unfamiliar could be scary. Maybe they hope someday everything will get better.Maybe they’ve accepted their fate and stopped asking or looking for a change. Maybe that’s the way they love; unconditionally, blindly, totally. I’ve learned these from all the years of observing others and from personal experience. The quote, “Every woman has the exact love life she wants,” does not apply to everyone. At least not yet.Not until the woman lets go of that toxic person. Not unless she ends the abusive relationship. It’s a beautiful reminder, though. It’s a reality check. What you allow is what will continue.If you let yourself be the emotional punching bag or emergency fund of the person you chose, it will always be that way.Every woman has the exact love life she allows.So if you’re not in a relationship that makes you happy, and you don’t have a partner who appreciates, cherishes, and honors you, ask yourself...Is this really the love life I want?Hero imageThis post contains affiliate links so we'd get a commission if you purchase through the links at no additional cost to you.
