Lux Thinking Aloud Dance In The Rain 7:00 PM Dance In The Rain We have to work hard; we have to work smart We need to invest our money and save it...we need to start We've got to deal with heartbreaks; we have to feel the pain When all we really need to do is to dance in the rain. I know growing old is inevitable, but do we really need to grow up? What’s wrong with being a child inside? It’s not like we'll get stuck. We just have to hold on to that innocence and sense of wonder and not be afraid to fail, We must not let go of that magic we get when we dance in the rain. We need to see the world in the purest, most uncomplicated way Stop the unnecessary war, end this greedy, selfish play All these innocent lives taken, homes broken, and the world destroyed What is there really to gain? Stop this world destruction now; let’s dance in the rain. If we only learn to love like a child (or a dog!), no buts, no ifs, Only honesty, kindness, and truth leave our lips Then we can all live in prosperity and harmony, no one will complain Maybe we can all run under the sun or dance in the rain. When was the last time you danced in the rain?
Lux Thinking Aloud Dogs Are Family, Not Food 10:15 AM Dogs will lay down their lives for a friend. If you have the power to help change the world and save lives, wouldn't you? It's just a click away (links below). Dogs are family, not food. Dogs are the best things to ever happen to mankind. The loyalty of dogs is incomparable. If you've never had a pet dog (but why?!) you're missing so much. No other creature can ever love a human so purely, so unconditionally and so faithfully the way a dog does. One of our dogs one time literally threw himself in front of other dogs and fought bravely, leaving him a scar just to be sure I pass without getting harmed or bitten. And that's only one incident that these furry friends demonstrated their loyalty. I grew up with dogs around me. I can't imagine life without dogs. I can't imagine people stealing them from their families, cram them in a cage too small for them, hurt them in ways unimaginable, killing them brutally, i.e. skinning and burning them alive to eat their meat! It's atrocious. It's horrible. If you think, I'm exaggerating, Google Yulin Festival. That's EXACTLY what they do! I can't even bring myself to look at the pictures of these poor dogs. I wanted to post them here just to show you how serious the situation is but I can't. It's heartbreaking. I don't and will never understand the "fun" and satisfaction people get that they even made an annual festival out of this monstrosity. I ask you dear reader to please participate and help stop this festivity held on June 21-23. It's no festival! It's barbarism. If you could please spread the word on your social media, please use these hashtags: #StopYulin2015 #StopYulinFestival #StopYulinForever #NoToDogMeat #ItsNoFestival Please sign the petitions before it's too late: Change.org Care2 Petitions Human Society International Animalasia Forcechange Petitioncongress Thank you very, very, VERY much. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Rants Questions Of A Hopelessly Delusional Person 6:00 PM I love mankind ... it's people I can't stand! - Charles M. Schulz Questions Of A Hopelessly Delusional Person If caring too much about the world is a disorder and hoping it will get better soon is a delusion, then I must be hopelessly delusional. Can you help me and answer these questions running through my head constantly? Is it too much to ask for a gossip-free world? Where people don't talk about other people like their experts about their lives and just celebrate one another instead? So, where can we talk about ideas for improving our lives and making the world a better place to live in? Can we not stop trolling around and keep our filthy mouths shut if we've got nothing nice to say? Can we not be kinder since we've all been through the bad times and know how hard it is to deal with? Can we stop projecting our frustrations and insecurities toward others by criticizing them, facing monsters, and conquering our own mountains instead? Can we not be more brilliant and choose our battle? Walk away from people and fights that are not worth our time and effort? Can we not meddle in or, better yet, start unnecessary and irrelevant dramas? Should we not wisely use the limited and precious 24 hours given to us in a day? Is it not better, holier, wiser, and more self-fulfilling to focus and grow on our own faith instead of criticizing and looking for other people's shortcomings and loopholes in what they believe in? Will it make us look more right or righteous if we point out their faults? Don't we point to our insecurities and flaws when we do that? Will it make us feel superior if we rub their wrongs on their faces? How does highlighting and revealing another person's weaknesses and mistakes improve you? Will it put us on a pedestal if we keep stepping on other people's toes? Condescending does not make you a better person. It only makes you look pathetic. If we accept their flaws and correct them lovingly instead of judging and looking down on someone, wouldn't we be doing the world a big favor? How does making another person's life miserable make yours better? How sick are we? These questions have been bugging me since I started going out in the "real" world. Am I too idealistic or simply delusional to think we can still change? That there is hope for mankind? That we can still make the world a better place for everyone? My heart goes out to the world. I'm desperate to know.
Lux Thinking Aloud I'm Taking Charge 2:33 AM We are not creatures of circumstance; we are creators of our own circumstances. -Benjamin Disraeli I'm taking charge. I have allowed circumstances to dictate my life for a long time. I have let myself get away with making excuses and blaming others. I have let myself suffer from other people's wrong decisions and shortcomings. Not anymore. I have decided that I have had enough. No more excuses. I'm not taking any bullshit anymore. I will not let obstacles intimidate and discourage me from getting the life I have always wanted. I will use them as my stepping stones instead. I will not wallow in self-pity. It's normal to get hurt, to grieve for a while, to rest. But quitting is not an option. Everybody gets hurt. Everyone has had their fair share of betrayal, abuse, heartache, and failures. Those are all parts of growing and living. But all those are temporary. They are not the end of my story. I refuse to accept them as the end of my story. That's why I'm taking charge. I will not let a lack of knowledge or experience about certain things kill my dreams. No more blaming. Yes, some people in my life should have treated me better, should have known better than use and abuse my kindness and generosity. They should not have dragged me into their mess. But what good does it do to keep on pointing fingers? Upon reflection, I realize that I have contributed to the situation, no matter how small. I have cooperated. If I didn't, things would have been different. I have let myself get pushed around by life. It's time to push back. I refuse to get stuck. I'm taking charge.
Rants The One Who Got Away 6:53 AM There’s the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you’re with, and the one who got away. How often do you think about the one that got away? I always say I'd rather be the one who got away than the one who let go and forever lives in regrets. Things don't always end up the way we want them to, and there's nothing we can do but accept it. Let go and move on, so they say. I don't know about you, but sometimes I still find myself wondering about the what-ifs. What if I tried again? What if I believed the story, accepted the apology, and gave it another chance? What if I stretched my patience a little bit more? What if I tried to understand more? What if we fought harder for each other? What if I didn't give up? I'll never know. I guess it will always stay that way. I think it's better to stay that way. I know that once in our lives, we meet someone we thought we'd spend our happily ever after with before life took over and changed everything. The plans we carefully made for our future with this person ended. Reality cut like a knife and woke us from our beautiful dreams, forcing us to return to the real world and deal with the pain we thought would never stop. Maybe for another person, you are the one who got away. I believe it's part of the plan; to meet someone whose memories we'll forever cherish but whom we NEED to let go of. It's not my kind of plan, but what can we do? Life's a bitch. A friend of a friend posted this on Facebook (we don't know who the author is), and it's too good not to share. It speaks a lot about the one who got away---something most people can relate to.Everyone has their own Robin. We Know Memes We all have someone that got away. For all of us, here's one good read: The One Who Got Away(Author Unknown) In your life, you’ll make a note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special and ones who will always mean something. There’s the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you’re with...and the one who got away. Who is the one who got away? I guess it’s that person with whom everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. I suppose there was no fault in the person nor flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't fall the right way. I believe in the fact that ending up with someone and finding a longtime partner, that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance. How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you’re not ready to commit maturely, it doesn't matter who you’re with. It just doesn’t work. Small problems become big; inconsequential ones become deal breakers simply because you’re not ready, and it shows. It’s not that you and the person you’re with are no good; it’s just that it’s not yet right, and little things become the flash point of that fact. Then one day, you’re ready. You really are. And when this happens, you’ll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, or they or she might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work because it’s the right time, and you’ll make it work. And it’ll make sense. It really will. So that day comes when you’re finally making sense of things, and you find yourself different. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and you've become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there’s no telling when this day will come. Hopefully, you’re single, in a long-term relationship, or married with three kids…it doesn't matter. All you know is that you have changed. And for some reason, the one who got away is the first person you think about. You’ll think about them because you’ll wonder, “What if they were here today?” “What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?” The one who got away is– the biggest “What if?” you’ll have in your life. If you’re married, you’ll just have to accept the fact that the one who got away got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us.But hopefully, you’re mature enough to realize that you’re already with the one you’re with, and this is just another test of your commitment, which will strengthen your marriage when you get past it. You’ll think about him/her occasionally, but it’s alright. It’s never nice to live with a “might have been,” but it happens. Maybe the one who got away is the one who’s already married. In which case, it’s the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips when you’re old and gray and reminiscing. But if neither of that is the case, then it’s different. What do you do if it’s not yet too late? Simple –find him or find her. The existence of the “one that got away” means that you’ll always wonder…what if you got that one? Ask him out to coffee. Ask her out to a movie. It doesn't matter if you’ve dropped in from out of nowhere. You’d be surprised. You just might be “the one who got away” as well for the person who is your “the one who got away.” You might drop in from nowhere, which won’t make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it’ll fall into place somehow. It would be a great feeling, in the end, to be able to say to someone, “Hey you, you’re the one who almost got away.” Is there someone in your life who got away?
Lux Thinking Aloud Hello, Loneliness! 2:48 AM It is in our loneliest that God speaks the loudest. -Mandy Hale Hello, Loneliness! It's been a while, huh? What brings you here? I didn't miss you. I didn't call for you. What on earth are you here for? Me? Oh, I have been very busy, no all thanks to you. You see, in my attempts to forget you and push you away, I kept myself busy. In trying to find your enemy Joy, I kept myself occupied with fun things.GiphyI've been out there...Meeting friends...Serving others...Hustling...Planting my seeds...Resting only when I have done enough or when I am too tired to go on. I am now living my dream.It's like walking out in the field just as David did, with only a sling in his hand to face Goliath. It is scary! Not gonna lie.But I know that if I fight you hard enough, there's something wonderful and fulfilling waiting for me in the end.I know I'm not just doing this for myself but for those who need to know they're not alone on their journey. That God has a message for them too. When I remember these, the fear of being ridiculed, the fear of failing, the fear of not being good enough... they all become insignificant.I mean, who would've thought a stone and a sling would be enough to defeat a giant feared by many?I bet Fear belongs to your family too. It keeps trying to stop me. Gives me serious impostor syndrome and limiting beliefs.TenorI've been doing great in your absence, Loneliness. Why did you come back? Why are you reminding me again of what I have lost? Nagging me of the could-have-been and what-ifs? Why are you making me question my decisions when I have seen time and again that I did the right thing?I gotta give it to you.You've come back stronger. You bid your time, didn't you?And you've been an epidemic for the longest time.But my dear Loneliness, you can't keep me down for a long time. You will never win this fight. I have accepted my mistakes. I have forgiven those who hurt me. I have forgiven myself. I have learned to enjoy my solitude. I have found myself because of you. I've known myself better. I have discovered my strength when you tried to beat me. I have learned to live with the pain and find happiness even in your presence.In your strongest sting, I have felt God's voice encouraging me to keep going. I have felt God's love snatching me from your evil clutches.As you emptied me, taking all that I have, I have learned that Christ is enough. So although I have you to thank for the many beautiful things that are happening in my life right now, here's me slamming the door in your face again.WifflegifHello Loneliness, my old friend. It's never good to see you. Goodbye and please never come back. You're not welcome here. Watch this video to help you get rid of loneliness:This post contains affiliate links so I'd get a commission if you purchase through my links at no additional cost to you. This helps me maintain my site. Thanks in advance!
Rants Ramblings: It's One Of Those Days 1:07 AM If it's not making me productive, happy, or feel good, I don't have time for it. It's one of those days when I try with all my willpower to remember that difficult people deserve my kindness and understanding more than anyone else. It's when I try to remember the lessons I've learned from listening to inspirational talks and reading good stuff. It's when I have to look past and play deaf to people begging for attention. Like toddlers having tantrums trapped in an adult's body. It's when observing people, which I often do turns meh. It's when people look down on other people just because they sin differently from them. It's when people act righteous and self-important, focusing on other people's speck in the eye when they have a log in their own. When I have to ask myself again: why do people dish it out if they can't take it? Some are just plain one-sided. It's when character is put to the test, at which most undoubtedly and miserably fail. Once again I have to take a deep breath, and recall the lines: "It's their inner battle. It must be very, very, very hard to be living in their heads." It's when I have to stop myself from retaliating, and remember that some people are just. not. worth. my. emotions. It's when being a Christian is something I would most gladly give up temporarily, but can't. Because, what's the essence of being a Christian when I'm only good with people who are good to me? Even pagans do that, right? But, oh, I said that through gritted teeth. Today is when I question yet again the sincerity of the people around me. Who remains true when you're out of earshot? Why can't we just be consistent? Why do we associate honesty with bitchiness and settle for fake smiles and insincere hellos instead? So, yes, today is also the day I'm reminded why I'd rather be anti-social. Content to be on my own. Shut off from the rest of the world. Shrug and be like, whatever. Because the smiles I see are just as scary as the monsters behind those friendly masks. Because if it's not making me productive, happy, and making me feel good, I don't want to make time for it. Because though I have faith in humanity, some people seems hopeless. Have you had one of those days? See also: Unsubscribe From Other People's Drama
Rants Stop Blaming Religion, The Government, The Weather Or Your Neighbor's Dog For Your Messed Up Life 9:09 AM Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. - Charles R. Swindoll Stop blaming religion, the government, the weather or your neighbor's dog for your messed up life. Yes, the government should be giving us what we deserve from the tax they collect from us every freaking time we receive our salary or spend our money. Yes, the government should not be stealing from us, should be fixing the problem of our country from poverty to education to healthcare to infrastructures. But, the government can't throw our trash for us so as to avoid clogging of drainage which eventually causes flood. I think no matter how well constructed our roads are, if we keep on treating our streets as garbage areas it will always clog. The government can't pass your exams for you. You have to do it. Study. Stop partying, and spending your allowance on drugs and booze until you've got none left to pay for your tuition fee. The government won't make your resume and look for jobs for you. You have to move your lazy ass. The government can't save a portion of your salary for you and invest it to secure your future. If you let your tax end your dreams, then you're doomed. If you didn't sleep because you partied all night, who's fault is it that you feel crappy waking up? Stop blaming religion. It's okay if you don't believe in higher power, that's your choice. No one's questioning your faith, or the lack thereof. But to blame religion for your poverty? For war? For you acne breakout? Are you saying other people's belief is messing up your perfect world? But, your beliefs aren't messing up their lives. They're not blaming you for their tribulations, aren't they? They're taking responsibility. If you expect ONLY the faithful, ONLY the government or ONLY the church leaders/organizations to feed the hungry, shelter the homeless and clothe the naked, isn't it passing the responsibility to others? Aren't you saying "that's your job, not mine. I've got nothing to do with that?" What makes you different from the rest of the world that you're criticizing. What makes you better? I believe peace begins inside all of us. Like happiness, it's an inside job. You can't expect to live in a quiet world, when your inner world is in pandemonium. Because you can't give something you don't have. You can't demand a peaceful workplace when you don't want to live harmoniously with the people around you, when you look for trouble constantly and you love conflict, when it's your hobby to provoke others. You can't demand for a great life if you're living in mediocrity. You can't ask for an abundant future if you don't even have the self-control over your finances. You can't blame the world for your illness if you haven't been taking care of yourself. If you keep on pointing fingers and blaming others for your mishaps, it's like saying your life, your destiny, everything about you is controlled by others. It's like saying you're helpless and you can only improve your life if they will change or improve it for you. It's saying they are responsible for you. You can't change the world, but you can change yourself. You can't control the government, but you can control yourself. It's not the government's, the religion's, the weather's or your neighbor's life to live. It's yours. Why will you let your life be controlled by these external factors? Why will you give them an authority to shape your destiny? Are you that helpless? Life is what YOU make it. Not what the government, the religion, the weather or your neighbor's dog make. Please.Grow some balls and start taking responsibility. Look at where you are contributing to the situation. You can't be that innocent. It takes two to tango. It's your life. Own it.
Rants Ramblings Of An "Old" Woman 3:22 PM Women may be the one group that grows more radical with age. -Gloria Steinem Ramblings Of An "Old" Woman What’s the fuss about getting old? I've never made it a big deal. I actually still feel like I’m just starting. Call it Peter Pan Syndrome, call it immaturity, call it denial, if you please. Honestly, age never bothered me. What bothers me are the people who are making a fuss about it. I started working when I was 20. At that time, my youngest colleague was 27. The rest are in their early and mid thirties and even fifties. I never called them “old” because I don't consider them as such. I never made snide comments about their age and their status though majority were still single at that time. First, because I think it’s rude and inappropriate. Second, because I don't think being old is a bad thing. Why would it be? And third, because I think it’s none of my business what they do with their lives. When people tell me I'm old I don't argue, because I know I am definitely not that young anymore. But, when people say it like it’s a bad thing, like it’s a curse, like I’m suffering from this pathetic life and doomed to be alone and lonely forever, it bugs me. It shocked me at first. It also bothers me that there are people who have such an idiotic mindset. You'd think people will be more progressive in this modern world, but no. There are still those who choose to live backwards. I didn't realize we are living in a world full of morons until I hit 27. It was then when people started asking me the stupidest questions from, “You’re really that old?” (which is flattering at some point because it is followed by “You look so young!”) to “Are you gonna be an old maid?” and “Don’t you want to have babies?” Valid questions, yes. But to a 27-year old who just got out of a toxic relationship, and is finally starting to enjoy being single? Unfair. Some of these people? They’re 27 now or thereabouts, and they claim that they're still young. Uhm, okay. I think I'm missing something here. Fast forward to today, comments are getting worse, nastier and somewhat more hilarious. I know that some of these people are only concerned with my well-being. They are good friends with good intentions. They just want me to be happy. They just want to see me “normal”, and I'm thankful for that. Not everyone's blessed to have people looking out for them. On the other hand, there are still those who see me as a freak. "Single and over 30? Oh, dear. What's wrong with you? You're doomed." Am I really? Funny, because most of those who are pushing me to be in a relationship are those who are not happy with where they are, some obviously miserable and would want to get out of their relationships given the chance. Others are not even half as experienced as I am. What do they know about what I need and what’s best for me? Modesty aside, it’s not like I don't have a choice. There are those who express their interest. I still have strangers approach me for my number and send random messages online saying they want to get to know me (Now, that’s not flattering. It’s creepy and annoying). If I wanted to, I could easily text someone to come to my place and bring some foods (Filipino inside joke). If I wanted to. But, I don’t. When I say I don’t like this guy, it’s not me playing hard to get. It’s just that I respect their time, and I don't want to waste it as much as I don't want them to waste mine. If I think it’s not going anywhere, why give my attention? Now, you may be asking, how do I know if it’s going nowhere if I don’t give it a try? My answer is, if he really, truly, seriously, undoubtedly, sincerely wants to get to know you, he will find a way. He won't easily give up. Nothing worth having comes easy. And I'd like to believe that I am worth having. So, suck it up. It’s not because I have sky-high standards. After dating frogs, my image of the prince just got clearer. I now know what I want. I have non-negotiables. I think when you've had your fair share of unsuccessful relationships, and have been single for quite a while, you realize that, to be alone is not scary. To be with the wrong person is. Biologically, I know they have a point that my body clock is ticking. I may or may not get pregnant and if I would, it will be risky. So, what about Sarah (wife of Abraham)? What about Elizabeth? Or Ruth? Weren't they way past pregnancy age, and were still blessed? Are you saying they're more favored than you and me? That God has stopped making miracles with the people in the Bible? Even in the present, there are women I know, or whose stories I've heard of that are over 30, but are still able to give birth. I know I sound over-confident here, but I believe that if God is calling me to be a mother, He will make me. There’s a reason why He is infinite. There’s no limit to what He can do. If He’s got other plans, it surely is for the best. I've also got friends who are happily married, in a relationship, and also happily single who tell me to take my time, never rush it, never force it, and be grateful for this special time I have for myself. Guess who I listen to? If your relationship status defines your worth and is tied up to your identity, then you are doomed. If your relationship is making you a better person, by all means, stay in that relationship. If it makes you a miserable human being, leave. Difficult, but not impossible. Same goes with being single. If being alone makes you lonely, it’s best to go out there and meet new people. But, if you’re comfortable and at peace with yourself, there’s no rush in changing that. You can’t stop people from thinking the way they do. Everyone’s entitled to their own opinion---no matter how moronic they may be sometimes. At the end of the day, it’s your opinion that matters, because it is your life. When all the noise of the world fades away, it’s about what your heart whispers. It’s not about what the society dictates, it’s where you feet leads you. When you’re alone in a cold rainy night, are you wishing to be somewhere else, or are you happy exactly where you are? In solitude, it’s not those comments, or insults, or genius suggestions from people who don’t even know what you went through that you will hear. It is your inner voice that will resonate in the silence. What does it say? via Some eCards Photo credit: The Odyssey Online Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Rants The Not So Legendary Ending Of How I Met Your Mother 6:21 AM The Not So Legendary Ending Of How I Met Your Mother Spoiler alert! Just finished watching the not so legendary ending of How I Met Your Mother. I can’t believe that’s how How I Met Your Mother ended! Not cool. After all the heartaches Ted had to endure for nine long seasons, he will end up with Robin? Ugh! It was not mentioned that Ted and Robin got back together in the end. But, it’s not rocket science. Ted has and will always love Robin. Robin finally saw the light and realized that Ted is every woman’s ideal husband. Robin deserves Barney. Duh. But, Ted? He doesn’t deserve Robin. He deserves Tracy. Then again, CBS left us with no choice. Somewhere along the story, Tracy died. As if Ted hasn't been through a lot yet. As if he didn't have enough heartaches in the past yet. So what will poor Theodore do? Go back to his old love Robin who is (surprise, surprise) still single and living with her dogs. As if Robin can just trash and recycle Ted every time. I’m happy that Ted finally found her one true love in Tracy. I’m happy that Lily and Marshall are still together (they are the happily ever after every couple need to emulate). I’m not surprised that Barney is still living his legendary life the way he thinks it must be lived. Although now, he's priority is his love child. I’m just disappointed that after finally living his dream life, Ted will again fall back with Robin. Because he's got no choice anymore. Because his one big love Tracy died. Can life be more cruel? I've got nothing against Robin. She's a loyal friend. She's brave and bold enough to know what she wants and live her life at her own terms. She's not afraid to be alone. She gets what she wants and she's tough. No wonder men go after her. It's just that---I'll say it again and again, Ted doesn't deserve her. Ted deserves more. Ted is too good for her. There must be another way to end this series. It must be--- like the rest of the episodes in the nine long series, legendary. Please. Photo credit: Google images Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Quotes Indifference Because Some People Do Not Deserve Your Emotions 8:04 AM Indifference.in·dif·fer·ence/inˈdif(É™)rÉ™ns/noun: lack of interest, concern, or sympathy. Some people do not deserve your emotions. Some people are not worth your time and feelings. There are those you can refer to as vampires because being around them suck the life out of you: Toxic people. Users. Naysayers. Emotionally immature. It is not your obligation to adjust to them. Don't burden yourself. Life's too short to surround yourself with those who do not appreciate you, respect you or value you. You're not put on earth to suffer for others. You can only help them up to a point. They get to decide if they're going to help themselves or not. Don't waste your energy and your time on those who do not contribute to your well-being. Sometimes it's better to show indifference. Because some people do not deserve your emotions. Want more quotes? Follow About Life and Love on Instagram
Rants Just So You Know 9:57 PM When a woman is quiet it’s not because she doesn't know what to answer and you’re winning. She’s contemplating whether she should say what she thinks or if she’ll just let you think you're really smart and awesome you've left her dumbfounded. Just So You Know When you're still single at the age when "normal" people marry or start a family of their own, people look at you like you're a freak. Sometimes it’s amusing to see the looks on their faces, sometimes it’s flattering when they're surprised to know your age, sometimes it’s downright irritating. Especially when you hear comments from small minded individuals. People who think something’s wrong with you and not for a second think that there must have been a good reason why you chose to stay single instead of panicking like it’s the end of the world and you're doomed because no one’s “put a ring on it” yet. Honestly, I don't know if I'd ever get used to people who were born with a life mission of criticizing every single detail in your life like they're paid to do it. I’m torn between wanting to be a good Christian and unleashing that clawed bitch in me. As always, the good side wins. So I just bite my tongue and force a smile every time. And try with all the strength I could muster to NOT NOT speak my mind when addressing their comments. It’s like there’s this voice inside me saying, “Easy there, tiger. He’s not worth the energy”. So I back away and another poor person’s life has been spared from humiliation and utter harsh verbal combat from moi. When a woman is quiet it’s not because she doesn't know what to answer and you’re winning. She’s contemplating whether she should say what she thinks or if she’ll just let you think you're really smart and awesome you've left her dumbfounded. Just so you know. See also: Ramblings Of An Old Woman
Rants The Sun, The Moon, And The Truth 8:40 AM Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth." -Buddha Everyone lies, including me. As the song goes, "Honesty is such a lonely word. Everyone is so untrue." Still, it hurts like a mother when you're the one being lied to. Especially when the person would rather die than tell you the truth, and you know you did nothing to deserve it. I think it's the thought that you don't even matter to know the truth that hurts the most. It's discrediting. It's condescending. It makes you regret all the lies you told before as karma's acting like an unforgiving bitch to you. Also makes you angry at yourself for trusting too much. Oh, well. Life's like that. I guess we all need to remember to think about what our words can do to our lives, and other people's lives before we say anything. Words are potent indeed. It can make or break us. The Sun, The Moon, And The Truth Lies, no matter how sugar coated they may be will always always always break the liar and the person being lied to. I don't know why we have to build a web of lies but I think, desperation or ego sometimes get in the way that you choose lying over telling the truth. Maybe you want to protect the other person's feelings, or you just want to get away with something without being a d*ckhole. No matter what your intentions are, the end still does not justify the means. Whichever angle you try to look at it, it's still ugly. It's still unfair to the persons involved. It still destroys what has been built. One lie can change everything else, especially the way other people see you. Funny thing about the truth is that you can run from it, you can hide from it but, you can never escape it. It will always come out. It's like the universe put a default button to it that no law or adjustment can ever hide it. No lie can ever erase it. No one can ever change it. No matter how hard you try to convince other people, including yourself, the truth will find a way to reveal itself...always. Amazing! It's like the Law of Gravity. It's like the sun and the moon. No matter how cloudy it gets, it's just there and it will come out. It cannot be hidden forever. The funny thing about lying is watching the liar's reactions. It can be really entertaining. He seems convincing at first, fighting for what he seems to believe in but eventually crumbles before your eyes. He avoids you like a plague and eventually shuts his mouth. See, it's tiring to defend what's not true. You have to constantly think about new ideas, new reasons, new ways to convince people. You become inconsistent until you can't keep up with yourself. You forget where you've started, where you left off and you don't know when and where to end. It's actually fun to observe how the liar loses his power when the truth finally unveils itself. Ultimately, no lie can ever overshadow the truth. But the best thing about telling and knowing the truth is that it sets you free. Pinterest Gifs from giphy Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks!
Rants I Forgive You 9:41 AM I Forgive You i forgive you, though you're not truly sorry. i forgive you, though it still hurts and i don't know when the hurting would stop. i forgive you, not because you deserve it. we both know you don't. i forgive you, because i deserve to be happy again. we both know i do. forgive me if it took me this long to find the courage to forgive you. pray for me, that i'll finally find it in my heart to forgive myself for allowing you to hurt me.
Rants Never Underestimate A Woman's Ability To Find Things Out 8:12 AM A woman's intuition. It's uncanny.No one escapes it. When she spies on someone, she shames Sherlock Holmes. She can put two and two together by listening to random conversations, reading comments and tweets, and browsing tagged photos. She can figure things out from the smallest details you give her.The lilt in your voice. The faintest flicker in your eyes. The one piece of information that doesn't seem to fit the puzzle.They all add up to a woman's brilliant mind.So, never ever underestimate a woman's ability to find things out. She's always one step ahead of you.You're only making a fool of yourself if you think you'll outsmart her. Photo: Pinterest
Rants Reaction On Cyber Crime Law 9:14 AM If liberty means anything at all, it means the right to tell people what they do not want to hear. -George Orwell I don't want to write about something I don't fully understand. I honestly haven't read the article yet as whenever I click the link there's an error. Sabotage? Maybe. Do I go to jail with that presumption? Well, I'm out of the "territory" so I assume I'm safe. Disclaimer: What you will read here is just according to my limited knowledge of the law and my response to it. Reaction on Cyber Crime Law So what are the grounds? With the number of Filipinos who are actively using Facebook and other social networking sites, how can the government keep track? What is prohibited? What is the penalty for such crime? Not sure. But there's one thing I know; the government is trying to distract the Philippines again from the real issue. Every time something serious comes up, expect another attention-grabbing issue that will follow. Something of less importance as compared to the main problem. It's like a pattern. We're all aware of it but instead of focusing on the main issue, we let the media and the government distract us. Nagpapauto na lang. I'm not a fan of news or T.V. so I'm not that aware. My only source is Facebook and you can't believe everything you read. All I know is that a few weeks ago, pro and anti RH Bill are posting photos and statuses one after the other on their walls and now, this. Did I miss anything? I'm a little passive so when I've read about the news, I didn't react immediately. My first thought was just, "Sigh. Who's idea is this this time?". Do we really need to waste time tracking statuses, photos, blogs, likes and comments (if the last two are really included)? So how about poverty? What say you? Will this cyber crime really solve our problem? Is everyone even aware what the main problem of the country is to begin with? Will this make us more progressive? They say, you'll know what solution to take if you know what your problem is. So my dear countrymen, have you yet figured out what is the root cause of all these chaos? Or are we turning a blind eye again and sweeping the real issue under the rug like we always do? Diyan tayo magaling. Instead of keeping ourselves busy impeding freedom of speech, why don't we just think of ways that can help eliminate the real problem? This sounds familiar. People busy scrutinizing another, searching for flaws but keeps on ignoring their own? Do we not see them everyday? These are the big time power trippers. Since hindi ma solve ang issue sa buhay, maghanap ng issue ng iba. Mas madali nga naman yun. Well, they say if you face a challenge don't react, rather respond. Let's fight for our freedom of speech. But let's not forget to attend to what really matters. If there's one thing you think we should change in our country that will get us out of our situation, what would it be? Will this cyber crime hullabaloo save the starving children in the streets? Will it shelter the countless homeless family? Will it stop the flood when another storm visit our territory? C'mon. Akala ko ba magaling ang Pinoy? That's all I have to say for now. Is that police siren I'm hearing outside? Damn. Photo credit: Digitalmoz Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
