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Exploring Infertility Options: The Donor Egg Process

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After trying to get pregnant naturally, and perhaps trying traditional IVF along the way, many couples have the option of using donor eggs to conceive. 

Why donor eggs?

It eradicates any issue a woman may have with her eggs – whether it’s age-related problems, early menopause, genetically-transmitted diseases, or lack of success with traditional IVF (linked to the quality and/or quantity of her eggs).

But what can you expect from this process, and is it right for you?

Exploring Infertility Options: The Donor Egg Process

Talking to professionals who care about your fertility issues should be your first step in exploring infertility options like donor egg, but to help answer some of your initial questions about the donor egg process, we’ve put together some information about what you can expect along the way.

Finding the Right Donor for You and Your Family

It’s important to not feel pressured into choosing your egg donor too quickly and to allow yourself plenty of time to find the perfect one for you.  

A friend or relative may offer you her eggs when she learns of your plans to use an egg donor, but it’s important to take time to consider this option carefully. 

You may initially feel reassured by using the eggs of someone you know, but many prefer and choose to use a donor from an egg bank. 

This is due to the long-term impact egg donation may have on your relationship with your donor – and their involvement with your baby.

From awkward dynamics developing within the family to debates over what kind of role the donor should play in your child’s life, things can get very complicated and upsetting.

Using an egg bank donor removes these potential complications without removing the control you have over choosing your donor. You’ll be able to see your donor’s childhood and adult photographs, learn about her characteristics, and see her education, career, and life achievements thus far.

  • Will you choose someone who closely resembles yourself? 
  • Or will you choose someone with the qualities you most admire and hope your child will possess?

These are just two possibilities to consider when finding the right donor for you and your family.

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Choosing Fresh or Frozen Donor Egg and Undergoing Embryo Transferal

Another choice you’ll make is whether to use fresh or frozen donor egg. The former is a far lengthier process due to the time it takes to synchronize cycles with your donor. This, too, can add to the costs involved – and the stress.

On the other hand, frozen donor eggs are ready when you are. After a course of hormones to prepare your uterus for implantation, your donor’s eggs are thawed and fertilized with your partner’s sperm or the sperm source of your choosing.

After several days in an incubator, the transfer occurs with one or two of the embryos being placed in your uterus.

Just two weeks later you’ll return to the clinic for a pregnancy test and ultrasound.

What happens after this?

You’ll enjoy a pregnancy just like any other with the comfort of regular checkups at your local clinic.

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Bonding with Your Baby

One of the main concerns women have when it comes to donor eggs is whether they’ll be able to bond with a baby who doesn’t share their genes.

This thought is completely natural and very common.

Yet, it’s a thought that’s often cast to the back of the mind (and for most women, disappears entirely) during pregnancy.

After you receive the happy news you’re pregnant, your role as a mom begins. You start to feel your unborn baby growing inside you, you feel their tiny movements, and you prepare yourself for bringing them into the world.

Moms are significantly more than genetics alone.

Plus, you’ll have the reassurance your baby will share your partner’s genes or genes from a sperm source of your choice – and that you’ve also played a role in choosing the donor whose genes your baby will possess.

Further, it’s important to remember no mom can guarantee the genetic makeup of her child. But every mom can love, nurture, and care for her child.

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Creating Your Family Unit

While using donor eggs isn’t something any of us want to consider when we first start trying for a baby, it’s a wonderful option for those suffering from infertility diagnoses.

Unlike other potential routes, i.e. adoption and surrogacy, donor eggs give you the chance to enjoy pregnancy and develop those all-important bonds with your baby.

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After your diagnosis, it may feel like you’ve lost control over your body. But with time, careful decisions, and a dedicated clinic, you can start creating the family you’ve always dreamed of.  

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