10 Signs Your Partner Is A Man-Child And Not A Man11:00 AM
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It's easy to shrug off some flaws and accept someone out of love.
But what if it's a glaring red flag and you're in danger of not only sabotaging the relationship but also destroying yourself in the process?
What if your partner is not the man you thought he was?
Tracey Clayton gives a clear and concise explanation in knowing the difference between a man and a man-child.
I hope you enjoy learning from her article as much as I did.
Thank you for guest blogging on About Life And Love, Tracey!
10 Signs Your Partner Is A Man-Child And Not A Man
It is known that men are slow to mature compared to women, and it is also said that men are ‘children inside’. But as much fun as it may seem to have a male child by your side, it can sometimes get very irritating.
When in a relationship, we tend to notice details that show us that he is still ‘green’ and on the long road to maturity. It’s not the same being in a relationship with a guy who can show his inner child and with a child who only appears to be adult.
If you observe him carefully, you can see for yourself what group your partner belongs to.
No control over his finances
A mature man recognizes the importance of money and knows he should have a budget to live peacefully. If you barely make the ends meet and in the end it is you who pay the bills; if he doesn’t know what he spent the money on and you have fights due to his lack of financial responsibility too often, you should think about where your relationship is going.
His mom is always around
You can tell a lot about a man based on his relationship with his mother. If he always has to have his mother’s food, has his mom wash his clothes, calls her all the time and vice versa, it means that he hasn’t stopped being her baby. What you need is a mature man who loves and respects his mother while remaining aware that he should step into his adult life on his own.
His priorities haven’t changed
When men are young, they have a lot of fun, risky and crazy ideas about their future. As the years pass, their priorities should change and they should start thinking about safe future, settling down and being independent. It will be easy to realize whether he has already become a grown man or he’s still a teenager, something that wouldn’t suit you in the slightest.
Partying as if he were 18
Women enjoy going out at weekends and having some fun with their partners, always keeping their composure. We do not like to be forced to keep watch in order to prevent our partner from making a scandal in front of people or to prevent trouble men can cause when they are with a group of friends and under the influence of alcohol. If we are going to be babysitting, we better do it back home.
He fears commitment
A mature man is aware of everything involved in having a serious relationship, especially spending enough time together. Commitment does not only refer to marriage but to the respect people involved should have for each other and positive thinking about the mutual future. If your partner constantly avoids the topic of your future together or acts as if he were single, better think again about dating him.
They do not know how to express what they feel
We all know that some men find it hard to verbalize what they are thinking or feeling, but a mature guy at least tries to. Maturity implies the ability to recognize oneself, to say what bothers you and tell that to the other person to avoid possible hurt. Being with a man with a poker face is frustrating and exhausting.
Completely ignoring his personal appearance
It's horrible when you have an appointment and you picked out your best suit for the occasion and he appears in old, ripped jeans and wrinkled shirt. Each person has a personal style but you can tell a lot about a man if he at least cares about his appearance. Don’t tell me you wouldn’t feel happy to walk hand in hand with a boy who, looks friendly and great at the same time.
They don’t accept their mistakes
Saying ‘sorry’ is a sign that the man you're dating is mature enough to admit mistakes and accept that those mistakes can have some serious consequences. Not everything is perfect in a relationship, and if he thinks he is never guilty and tries to belittle you for being upset, the damage on your relationship can be severe.
There’s nothing wrong with being passionate about something, but if your partner constantly spends money on insignificant little things like new video games, or very popular bobbleheads that he rarely takes out of the packaging, or tiny cars that he just can’t get enough of, etc. then his adulthood is definitely in question.
This kind of behavior points to certain psychological problems that your partner (or both of you) needs to deal with as soon as possible.
His childish things are most important in the world
We all used to do different things and have strange attachments to material objects, but if you’re not allowed to even touch his precious books, or ‘play’ with his toy cars; if you got yelled at just because you happened to move one of his things to a different spot, than there’s definitely something wrong with your relationship and you should at least try to talk about it.
Irresponsible and immature behavior is a sign of emotional instability. It's nice to nurture the child in you, but if your guy is more of a boy than a man all the time, it can be very hard. Remember, sometimes you need to accept that your relationship is harmful to you and that it is perfectly OK to seek happiness. Of course, breaking up with someone because he’s childish is not always the right answer, but you should always aspire to find a way to make it work, both for your and your partner’s sake.
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