Love and Relationship

Strangers Again

8:30 AM

How can you look at the same familiar eyes 
and not see the person you used to know... 
and love?


One moment it seems as if nothing can separate you from this one person, and the next moment, you're strangers again.

All good times gone, all promises vanished.  

It makes me sad to see two people share their lives; laughter, secrets, special moments, ordinary days, then totally ignore one another the next time they meet. Like strangers.

The world around them is oblivious that these two people who happened to be in the same room---trying to avoid each others' eyes, acting as if they don’t know one another, used to have their own world that no one else can get into. 

Strange.

Curious.

How can you look at the same familiar eyes and not see the person you used to know... and love? 

Like that person you once knew is no longer there. Everything that happened feels so long ago, so long that you start to wonder if it really did happen.

It seems like a dream. Or a nightmare.

What of those who have been a huge part of your life, your plans for the future, you've given your all to, but whom life wouldn't allow you to be with anymore?

What happens when your paths cross again? Do you keep ignoring one another until you've totally forgotten that certain phase in your life when you had each other? Until you both become a blurry memory that you’ll soon forget?  

Does it all end with you being strangers again?  

Sigh.  

Wait! I've got more stories for you...

69 comments

  1. I guess life happens. Sometimes things do not go as planned in a relationship...different emotions come to play, but still life must go on. Greetings and best wishes!

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  2. I would say sometimes it doesn't end up being an enemy thing. I've had friends move away after school and you might see them again many years later but it's never the same

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  3. Sometimes this is exactly what happens. Like Blogoratti said...life happens.

    Have a fabulous day. ☺

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  4. Amazing post!
    Have a nice evening!
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  5. This is really stunning dear! Hope you have an awesome new week.

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  6. sad to think about for sure. I haven't had that happen and hope I never do.

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  7. Sad Situation :(

    lovely Greets <3

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  8. Imagine my shock when I sat in my car speaking to my ex-husband and I looked at him and realized that I had no feelings for him whatsoever. I did not love him, hate him, like him, or dislike him. I felt as if he were a complete stranger. It was truly a strange feeling. As I look back I realize that was the moment that our relationship changed fully. We could be two people who are the parents of children and we could respect each other for that if nothing else. And that was our relationship until he died.

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  9. Hi, Lux! This has happened to me many times. The world keeps changing and people change along with it. Two people who were once a compatible couple fall out of sync and drift apart. The thing to remember is that while an old friend or an old love is drifting away from you, new people are entering your orbit, bringing with them the possibility of new friendships and new love.

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  10. I think it is awful and sad that people who meant everything to each other could end up being strangers... personally I think it means on person was not as invested as the other and only pretended they were.

    I love your writing Lux... I miss writing myself, I'm hoping to come back soon... I have a lot on my mind ♡

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  11. As the song goes... The trouble with hello is goodbye :(

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  12. Hello Lux! Finally I could track down your blog. :D It is a lovely space. I related to this post. I have many a times faced this dilemma. Of knowing people too well and then just becoming strangers with memories. It is definitely not a good feeling. But I guess God always has a plan, trust Him! :)

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  13. Relationships that change in huge ways, and not for the best, can be a tough road to navigate. Thinking of you this morning, Lux ...

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  14. Good thoughts this morning, Lux. My first husband and I were divorced after 20 years. His alcoholism destroyed most of the good memories, except for the children we had together. I know it's hard to understand, and my younger daughter asked the question "how do you just fall out of love?" People change, and often they do not change in the same way. We were eventually able to relate to each other for the benefit of the children, but those old feelings of love never revived. Sad, I know, but life does go on and healing happens.

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  15. Wow...deep. "And now you're just somebody that I used to know," as the song said. That song accurately captured the tragedy of lost love, as well as the bitterness of a breakup. Your post takes a more sadly nostalgic take on it, minus the bitterness. The bitterness is what causes damage...if we can get past that, we can see that this is a person we once loved and shared our lives with and maybe, possibly find a way to be friends out of it. Few people are emotionally healthy enough to do that, though.

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  16. Que maximo amei a postagem, tenha uma semana abençoada.
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  17. This is life, but the best thing that we can take from this stranger again story is your chance to love someone, that you were able to live and feel alive, that you learned your lesson, that you learned to love yourself, the process is painful but it's part of it. :)

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  18. It's awful and yuuuk feeling when the stranger of feeling comes to people who those used to love each other.

    Tanya
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  19. That's life. Just move along.

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  20. Awwwghh! Luxxy toh Sure.. Blogger toh Sharp.. I looovvveee this post! i mean it is funny how in the beginning yeah, I and Ijagz were an item that couldnt be separated.. and then all of a sudden.. we are so far apart that it feels like we both never were. Sad but True.. :( This was a great read.. As it had me thinking deep... It is DEFINITELY my best read all November. :)

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  21. There are few things in life which make me that sad. I feel you.

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  22. Really a deep sad moment to realize feellings changes...., and also must change for our own goodness too

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  23. It is definitely quite sad to see! I often see this in people around me that can go from loving someone so much to hating there guts! We as people are so complexed lol!

    Jasmine:)

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  24. I've experienced this through divorce and to a lesser degree other relationships. It is indeed an odd circumstance. Not something that I necessarily wanted yet something that has been thrust upon me in a few, yet too many situations. You described it well.

    Arlee Bird
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  25. It happens. Most of the time it is by choice but sometimes as people grow they just develop different interest.

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  26. This breaks my heart and hits so close to my home. :( People we once told everyone to are now the people who know nothing of our daily lives.

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  27. Sad situation
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  28. This is sad, and often it is because of a misunderstanding or an offence. I had a very good friend who moved to another State and she is also distant in her communication with me. It is difficult when old friends become strangers. Thank you for sharing with us here at Tell me a Story.

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  29. People grow apart. The mature thing to do would be to continue to try to be civil, but sometimes there is too much pain. Ignoring is the only way to get through it.

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  30. thought-provoking and moving ... coincidentally i'm listening to Adele right now while reading your post, so it's the perfect soundtrack to your words...

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  31. Well I met my ex bf awhile ago. He recognized me but he didn't know my right name anymore. It's been ages but nonetheless how braindead can one be. I wish he had ignored me. Now I can't stop thinking what a fool I have dated in the past :)

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  32. Have a lovely day! =)

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    xoxo,
    Jessica

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  33. So hard to deal with isn't it? Crazy how one day you know the person so well then the next it is like you never knew eachother at all.

    Florals&Smiles

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  34. Sad to hear that! Although, I feel these things happen and you have to always brave into the storm to get past it. But if the person indeed loves you truly, they will back again. It has happened to me time and again

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  35. Beautifully written, Lux. This is a sad and tragic cycle, but it happens far too often. I've certainly been there as well. XO

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  36. Breakups suck but sometimes... life just sort of happens. I'm still hoping that if that would happen to me and my man we would manage to remain friends :)


    Fashionably,
    Patricia
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  37. Life is hard and so are relationships. I think it's very sad to look at someone as a stranger when he/she has been your other half.
    Jasmine x

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  38. I have been wondering these very things about some good friends who are going through a divorce right now. It makes me treasure my husband all the more--pray we never step into that journey. Happy Thanksgiving, Lux! You have been one of my blessings this year :)

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  39. Hi Lux! Dealing with people means dealing with imperfection. Sometimes romantic relationships are not meant to be, but a friendship can bloom. Or, feelings are hurt and they walk away. Just remember it's not a reflection on you. You are beautiful and 'enough'. Don't let anyone say you are not!
    Have a wonderful Thanksgiving and Christmas Season. See you in 2016!
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  40. Break-ups are hard. I honestly don't know if it all ends with being strangers again, but I do know that seeking THE LORD makes all the difference. (Psalm 34:18 MSG- If your heart is broken, you’ll find GOD right there;if you’re kicked in the gut, HE'LL help you catch your breath.) Be encouraged that THE LORD is in your midst and HE makes all things new and perfect! GOD bless you, beautiful friend! :-)

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  41. Sadly I think it sometimes has to end with being strangers. It isn't easy to go on but it is what you have to do. I have a friend who after 50 years is still chasing the past. Sometimes you have to let it go. Hugs!

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  42. That is sad but hopefully both parties will regain their friendship ~

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  43. Yeah it's really interesting to know how and why they became strangers after being so close.
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  44. Life is like that and one has to go on...............

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  45. Its a part of life..we have to deal with it 😊
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  46. In the dance of life, so little separates the friend (or even the lover) from the stranger. Once we lose the connection, we might as well just be two lonely travelers standing on a train platform. And yet, so many of the people who have passed through my life, even if I haven't seen them for decades, continue to nourish me. I suppose I am lucky for that. Isn't there a Beatles song along those lines?

    There are places I remember...

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  47. I can totally relate with this. We're not couples nor lovers but we're really good friends. He fell in love with me but I can't return the same kind of love. Everything became awkward and that's it. We're completely strangers now.

    Have a nice day!

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    SHAIRA
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  48. one of the main things you learn growing up is that nothing is for sure and nothing is eternal.

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  49. Life is strange, isn't it? :)))
    Amazing post indeed, you know I love your posts...

    xoxo
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  50. :)

    Faz parte...

    Ótima sexta!

    Beijo! ^^

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  51. so thought provoking! And honest and true and real.

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  52. That is strange and curious. It's a long life, though, so you never know what the future will bring. That's both good and bad. ;-)

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  53. gorgeous post sweetie
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  54. I've had this happen to me as well, in a friendship. And it's so heartbreaking to think about it. But then I just tell myself that's life. These things happen. Sometimes you just drift apart. Some things don't last forever.

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  55. its sad how one can turn from being a friend to a total stranger
    I read this post and i just reflect how true this is

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  56. The vicious cycle of life!

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  57. Is that your personal experience darling Lux? I think it's hard to keep in contact with someone you were in love with. You can still feel affection but being friends it's hard. Wish you a day full of love dear! Baci, Coco et La vie en rose fashion blog - Valeria Arizzi

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  58. OH what a sad tale of many relationships that die... I'm so sorry if this happened to you, my friend. It all depends on what happened in the relationship I suppose. It's awful that something so beautiful could turn into something so broken. Perhaps one could reach out to heal and repair- but often, I fear it is rarely what happens.

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  59. It's very true and it can happen to anyone.

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  60. These were some pretty deep contemplation thoughts, and I think I can understand them as well. I do know a few people who have had this happen to them, and it does surprise me when they can go from lovers and incredibly close to so far... I would always be heartbroken if this happened to me.

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  61. I think it depends on why the relationship ended and how long ago. I remember seeing one ex as I was waddling about in the last stages of pregnancy. We nodded at each other and carried on walking. Anything else would have been too complicated. It's not that I wish them ill, I really hope they're happy but ... But other ex's I've bumped into and happily talked to them for ages.

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  62. Dear Lux, After reading this post I feel so very lucky. Well, I've been happy with the same one now for a lot of years and haven't had to deal with an unfortunate ending. Sometimes you write so well about life and love that I wonder if you are a Doctor of Psychology and just haven't told us. :-) As for friends who aren't that significant one, they certainly do fade in and out. It reminds me of a famous quotation: "People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime." Sometimes, however, it's a little bit difficult to peg friends into such neat categories. So, I guess, it gets back to your very first comment here by Blogoratti, "I guess life just happens."

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  63. Loving this, thanks for sharing!

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